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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Erm, this is about relationships with friends, didn't know where else to put it sorry <IMG alt="image" SRC="eek.gif" border="0">

Since my friend found a boyfriend in May she has neglected her friends, never comes out, brushes us off etc. She dropped out of uni to get a job so she could see him more. He's 6 years older than her. She has also adopted his friends as her own.
I wouldn't mind so much if I hadn't set them up together in the first place. He was my boyfriends mate but they've fallen out over all of this.
I know I haven't explained the situation very well. He was a nice guy but I can't stand him now because he's stolen my friend, and in turn she's stolen all my boyfriends friends!
Whenever me and my boyfriend go to mutual friends houses she acts all polite, like we haven't been friends for 8 years.
ahhhhhh! Anyone any advice? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think I personally am in a similar predicament to your friend: although I had the heart simply to tell my "friends" that I needed some time alone...
    I personally feel very broken indeed from two botched relationships; I got extremely close to the partners in each relationship, and as a result became very over protective; something I have learnt the hard way as a very bad thing.

    I know that friends are the people who are the best to confide in and to help you in situations like these, however, personally, I feel that time alone helps alot.

    And to people who are misconstruing this, I am not a complete loner <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> - I try and work 24/7 at the moment, simply to keep my mind of things, where I can be with understanding, mature work colleages.

    Gah, Im babbling again. Somebody shoot me, please :P
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This may seem hard, but there is one thing you have to remember - friends can't be 'taken'. If this friend has moved on then I'm afraid it likely means she didn't value the friendship as highly as she should (and you did).

    However, (and please don't take this as an attack because it most certainly isn't meant as one), if your friendship for her is a true one, you should be delighted she has found someone that means so much to her. I think if you really look hard and honestly, you may find that you are allowing either a little jealousy or loneliness to creep in.

    If she was ever a real friend, she'll be back, and if she wasn't, then you really haven't lost anything of value, eh? <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    I'm sorry, but that's as helpful as I can be on this one. It may not be the answer you want, but I'm pretty sure its the answer that is most honest.

    All the best.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>This may seem hard, but there is one thing you have to remember - friends can't be 'taken'. If this friend has moved on then I'm afraid it likely means she didn't value the friendship as highly as she should (and you did).

    However, (and please don't take this as an attack because it most certainly isn't meant as one), if your friendship for her is a true one, you should be delighted she has found someone that means so much to her. I think if you really look hard and honestly, you may find that you are allowing either a little jealousy or loneliness to creep in.

    If she was ever a real friend, she'll be back, and if she wasn't, then you really haven't lost anything of value, eh? <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    I'm sorry, but that's as helpful as I can be on this one. It may not be the answer you want, but I'm pretty sure its the answer that is most honest.

    All the best.</STRONG>

    I know you're right...only time will tell eh!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People come and go from our lives but only true people (whether friends or other) stick around just for us and not because they want some thing from us. I would love to be ur friend. :naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dude post dead! Check the date on threads before replying to them. Read our newbie guide here

    Susie :)
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