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why does he keep doing this? its not fair

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well in the last nine days since i last posted everything has shifted again <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    callum has started talkin 2 me again and i wanted him as a mate so badly b4 that im findin it near imposable not to talk 2 him now, like yesterday i was in teh art room and wen i walked in he was at the sink so i just kidna put my stuff down and didnt look at him and he came over chattin just about skool and that, then i saw him later and he made a big thng out of sayin hi then again after skool he said bye and c u 2moro.
    i guess i shouldnt talk 2 him at all but its hard, i wud rather things are civil between us cos us fitin makes me even more unhappy but him being friendly is making it very hard 4 me 2 get over him, its kinda undone all the progress i had made up unitl now <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Somebody came up with the word i was going to use, but ill repeat it and add emphasis. The word was using, and that's exactly what i would say. Your being used chick, forget him and move on. He aint worth it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have a new boyfriend now and its going out, we've been 2gether 4 days and im happy.

    wiv callum, really honestly, i cant b bothered with him nemore. if he comes 2 talk 2 me i'll b polite and finish the convo asap but apart from that im havin no contact with him at all! its so much easier.
    i just kinda findin it easier 2 4 get about him wen he is out of my life 100% sure sometimes i thnk about him but its gettin less and less. im feelin alot better than i have done in ages <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    thanx guys <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by blonde_batman:
    <STRONG>i have a new boyfriend now and its going out</STRONG>

    i actually meant going well! not out hehe soz!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i sometimes feel as tho everything around me is going forwards and im stood still or even as tho im going backwards. everyone else is gettin on wiv there lives and my body is preparin me 4 my gcse's and im takin it all in but my heart is still stuck back with callum and all tho all other aspects of my life r progressin my heart is gettin no where.

    U c me and his have started talkin again now and it was good to start wiv, it aws nice 2 be gettin along with out fites again. but then well weve had these like extra classes after skool 2 finish our tech. anyway as we both do the same tech we were both there and got talkin, we were flirtin a bit (hes still wiv his g/f) this was on the first day, we were laughin and like tickling each other and that. then on the second day he was like pinchin my bum and holdin my arms and stuff. anyway his g/f found out and tx me tellin me 2 stop it or else.

    but im gonan stop neway, its makin it worse. its makin me miss him all over again. but i know he misses me 2, one of 'our' songs came on while we were there and i had to leave the room as it upset me 2 much but as i turned to leave i saw him watchin me and i saw the pain in his face. i know he misses me but i also know he wont admit it!

    well as always ne help is welcome! but its helped alot 2 just get it all out!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm sorry that you had to go through such a horrible time with your ex being like that. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    I know how hard it can be, you have got everyone on here for support, chin up me dear <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Go out and have fun with your mates and forget about this immature prat!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You really have to tell him that you're willing to br friends, but you don't think of him in 'that' way anymore. Knowing this might shock him, but will hopefully stop him from messin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the problem is i do still thnk of him like that, i didnt but well since he aws flirtin wiv me i do!

    i dont thnk about him any hwere nearly as much but wen im wiv him its hard!

    i have someone new that i like and im seein him 2moro, we have both had hard break ups recently so r takin it slow cos we dont wana get hurt.

    i just need some time away from callum! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i understand wat u r sayin and the stupid thing is i had stopped thnkin about him and i could talk 2 him without feelin anything but then those 2 days last week have made it all bad again!

    im just gonna keep away from him and thnk about my new man (2 be! he he <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Ilson-Youth:
    <STRONG>sorry may sound harsh, but it soundslike he isnt the problem so much any more, its more that you continually think of him, which he cant be blamed for, your just going to have to find away to snap out of it, and think of other things going on in your life, think of your new boyfriend rather than your old one is a good start.
    </STRONG>

    Ilson is so right.
    Girls seem to find it a lot harder to have feelings of regret than lads do, girls tend to focus on the good times where the lads just look for a way to arrogantly assert themselves as the superior if a relationship ends badly.
    I think maybe in this case you should take the lads approach. Put yourself above this lad, he was a total fucktard after all <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Concentrate on the new lad. The best way to get over the last is the next.

    We'll be here if you need <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i had the same problem with my ex and so i didn't speak to him for a while now we are really good friends again. just gve it time and then hopefully in a few months you can be friends again if not then i don't think it will be that big a loss, stick with the people who will stick by you <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we've been split up 5 months already, dont thnk we will get 2 b mates! cos we had started talkin but now well we rnt again cos his new g/f dont like it!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Girl, I would watch out for this one, he seems like he knows how to get to your weak spot and he uses that agaisnt you. Don't let him mess with your head he reall y ain't worth your time. If he is as low as you make him sound then the next time you hear from him, demand a little respect, or get rid of him totally. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru


    [ 18-04-2002: Message edited by: Baby D ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hello my sweet. how are things? I havent been around lately but just read up on your situation from where i left. Things still tuff huh?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi how are you i thought i would just let you know that i was in the same situation as you where. my ex-girlfriend was always being nice to me when we where going out then she started going funny after a while she would say and do things and i thought why should i put up with this so we talked and then she started being ok with me again. so i thought ok then everything sorted but it was'nt she put me into a false sense of security and about a few days later i found out that she was sleeping with someone behind my back that was about 2 years ago. but now i am trying to get on with my life because of her i have lost all my self esteem and my self confidence. i tried seeing new people she found out and broke up the relationship by talking to the girl i was going out with so this carried on she was breaking up every relationship i had. but now i am going out with a girl she takes me for me she makes me feel so good about myself she has really boosted my self esteem and my confidence she absoluetly loves me to bits and she hates my ex. because she has already tried to break us up but no luck yet for her. me and my girlfriend have been with each other for ages now so it proves you can move on and get a better life you don't need to be round that ass**** like people have said put some space between you and him find a lad who is shy and take it from there thats what my girlfriend done with me and look at us now. i hope i didn't bore you i was trying to help by letting you know i have been in the same boat before just stay away from him and remember life goes on. <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> im here if you need to talk <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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