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why does he keep doing this? its not fair

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
ok well you all know about my ex know i guess and wat a tosser he is. well he txt me just now saying how hes really sorry and he misses me and wants me back, i didnt believe him but deep down inside i cudnt help wishin it was true (stupis i know) but it turns out that all he wanted was sum1s number off my fone, he told me he loved me ect and then wen i gave in and sent him the number he wanted he tx me again tellin me he hates me and didnt mean anything he said.

why does he do that and why am i stupid enough to hope he means it? <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know its hard but i think you should put some space between you and him. i know you probably still have feelings for him but it'll be good for you in the long run. you dont need that kind of emotional crap. take care of YOU ok?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i have now changed sim cards back to my old one which he doesnt know the number 4 and ive only given the number 2 a few people so he cant get it. i jsut want him out of my head, i wanted him as a mate but now i dont, i just want him 2 leave me alone. i cant b bothered anymore, its like he has 2 new g/f so why cant he just let me get on with my life! its unfair, he doesnt want me but he wont let me go 4 long enough 2 find sum1 new! <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry babe, but you need to tell him to f*ck off. I was in the same situation, and let it spin out for ages... and looking back, i realise that's what i needed to do. Good luck! S. x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its like the cat playing with the mouse.
    "The only way to win is not to be the mouse."
    I stole that from Red Dwarf
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah! well ive got loads of mates through all this, especially all you guys on here and they r realy helpin me alot, i told him to leave me alone, i dont want nefin 2 do with him but having 2 see him everyday at skool makes it hard!
    im keepin positive tho which helps!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he's probably doing it because maybe he thinks you still like him and he can get you rapped round his little finger, so that you'll do anything for him!! If this happens again DONT give in to him because you know whats happened before and im sure you dont want the same experience again!!
    This lad sounds like he needs to sort it out and treat you with a little respect!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i so went through this with my ex coz he was at school too and even after it was over he kept using me for stuff even things like money all because i found it hard to get over him but you know what, i dont owe him anything except alot of heart ache. i'm glad he's gone and i'm over it, he can do what he likes with his life aslong as it doesnt come into contact with mine.

    i know its hard but you really need to do it for your own sake. you really will thank yourself further down the line.

    good luck gal!
    x.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he sounds like one loser u dont deserve him.

    so just keep thinking u deserve better

    love

    devil
    xxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree with u all!
    and i was so nearly over him wen he foned me! so unfair! its like he knows im gettin over him and has 2 give me the hope he likes me again just so i dont get away from him! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awww, come on. you were doing so well. what did he want this time? was he being sincere? did he want something? another phone number? money? skank?

    dont let this beat you, you can still get over him still. get your mind back on track. go do those things you promised you'd do ages ago. get him out your head, get some of your girly mates over and have some fun slagging him off. he really isnt worth worrying about. remember the pain he put you through? remember, he will regret giving you up, you wont regret him giving you up because you, my dear, are going to find someone better and more caring than he ever was. come on. you can do this.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tinkabee:
    <STRONG>awww, come on. you were doing so well. what did he want this time? was he being sincere? did he want something? another phone number? money? skank? </STRONG>

    this time he was mugged and foned me in a panic by mistake and hung up wen he realised it was me, then the next day he foned me again 2 say sorry 4 hangin up! we talked 4 15 mins bout everything and anything.
    he wasnt horrible 2 me which is one good thing!
    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ah! there's TheFairMelissa resorting to a typical canadian-ism, "eh"? <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Spending too much time around me!

    Dear, he can't treat you like shite and still want to be friends. If he wants to be friends, he has to respect you, and if he can't do that, he's not worth your time. It's hard now, but it will get easier. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">

    xx
    Nikki
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thefairmelissa is right. he is stringing you along and almost using you like a 'back up plan'. he is checking that you'll still respond to him when he calls and stuff. i'd say tell him to take a hike but its your call.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tinkabee:
    <STRONG>he is stringing you along and almost using you like a 'back up plan'. he is checking that you'll still respond to him when he calls and stuff</STRONG>

    i know! i understand that exactly and i can see it but at the time im so shocked hes actually showin me sum kind of attention i 4get it! that sounds so pathetic! it wasnt supposed 2 come out like that but i cant really explain it any other way!!!

    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You dont have to explain. i know that feeling and have seen my friends go through it too. one friend got so cross she started getting cross and calling herself stupid, but she isnt, she's just human. you want to stay away from them for your own good but as soon as they communicate with you all the feelings come rushing back that you can do little else but forgive them? is that the feeling you get?

    I had this feeling until the guy i was with worked a good £80 or so quid out of me and then decided he not only couldnt stay with me but he was going to be with someone else and didnt want to be friends with me either. nice! please dont let him abuse you that way, it really isnt nice in the long run. consider him gone and take the time to get over him sooner rather than later.

    x.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tinkabee:
    <STRONG>you want to stay away from them for your own good but as soon as they communicate with you all the feelings come rushing back that you can do little else but forgive them? is that the feeling you get?
    </STRONG>

    that is the exact feelin! its so unfai i try 2 4get him and every time he comes back and makes it impossible! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hes completely strining u along..he's afraid that if things dont work out w/ him and his girl, that he can go back to u to get what he wants, girl dont let this happen! im telling u! its gonna be hell for the rest of ur life if u do that. what u need to do is NOT call him, NOT pick up the phone if its him, and just plain old ignore him...it will drive him CRAZY..believe me, its fun hahahaha...i went trhough the same thing..it will make u feel better by just ignoreing him, and makeing sure he knows what he has lost, and that he made a BIG mistake. it will help u let things go and cope. good luck <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tinkabee:
    <STRONG>one friend got so cross she started getting cross and calling herself stupid, but she isnt, she's just human.

    x.</STRONG>

    this is so very very tru, and so are u everyone does it
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx guys just havin u here to talk to is helpin alot!
    its 3 months down the line and i still cry myself to sleep some nites but its gettin less now. the pain is still there but i guess its fadin with out me noticin but it does still hurt alot.
    on thursday i put everything that reminds me of my ex and all the things he gave me etc and put them in a bag, my best mate has taken them home with her, i dont want them at my house where there is the temptation 2 look at them but i dont want 2 throw them out completly so it was the best way!
    its little things i miss now like not gettin 2 go out every day cos if one of my mates was busy i cud call my ex and we'd c each other!

    ok sumfin 2 make u all laugh: my ex's new g/f got him a photo frame and a pic of her 4 valentines day!!!!!! (soz if neone else did this but if u saw his new g/f u'd know why!!!!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i sent this to my ex, mite sound dumb to make contact but i feel alot better now!


    Before you look and see whom this is from and decide not to read it please just think for a second.
    I know you don’t feel you owe me anything but I’ve gone through a living hell because of you so please take a few minutes to read this. I’m not asking for sympathy just that you listen.
    I know you are probably going to show this to all of your friends so I will watch what I say.
    I’m trying my hardest to get over you and get you out of my mind and then every time I am so close you go and phone or text me or something and that puts the hope back in to me that maybe you don’t hate me, that’s unfair Callum, I want to get over you and I cant if you wont let me.
    I’m not going to be there for you when it doesn’t work with Sarah so if that’s why your not letting me go and not letting me get on with it, its pointless. And if there is any other reason for it you wasting your time with that too! I’ve moved on as far as I can but your still holding me back by I dunno watching me in the form and just things like that.
    I don’t know what is going through your head but I bet it’s making about as much sence as what is going through mine. I don’t need this, I want you out of my head and the only way that is going to happen, short of having a brain transplant or something drastic like that, is you just leaving me alone. I don’t mean that to sound like you are harassing me or anything because I know you aren’t but all the little things like phoning me or texting that you do are making it near impossible for me to move on. You chose Sarah over me so why cant you just be happy with what you have and let me find someone else and be happy, I want you to be happy and I would have thought that if you didn’t want that for me, you’d at least want me to leave you alone and let you get on with your life and I cant do that if you wont let me get over you.
    I don’t really know what else to say except please just let me get on with my life and you get on with yours. You were the one who ended it and the one who wanted me out of your life so why now cant you just let me go?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he's done it again <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> talked to me on msn, i duno how he even did it as i have blocked and deleted him <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wat if i feel like this for ever ?????????? <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You're not going to feel this way forever hun. It'll take time to get over him, but you have to realise that there are other people that can help you get through it and you arent' by yourself. One of my friends told me to call him every time I feel like calling my ex and he'll tell me all the reasons I shouldn't call. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel, and go to them when you're feeling low. And don't don't DON'T read magazines.. ugh.. it's what I've been doing all day and now I feel like shit. So I'm forcing myself to get out of my room and go do something productive.

    And you can always talk to us. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Good luck hun.
    xx
    Nikki
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The advice on these pages is excellent. All u need is time and you'll be fine. Just enjoy doing stuff u like doin, if u keep urself busy it be ok.
    I think love is never easy, if it was it would not be worth it. U never know who u'll meet in the future and this thought alone should give u hope....i can almost gurantee that if ur true to ur feelings you'll find someone really cool who will treat u with the respect you deserve.
    And whenever you catch yourself thinking about him just say to yourself 'It was cool but thats in the past. I deserve and will get better'. Trust urself to make u happy.
    the worst thing anyone can do is settle when you know there is so much opportunity out there.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    calum u nearly gave me a heart atack wen i saw ur name i thort u were my ex 4 a sec! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    the advice is brilliant and i am following it! and as u may have noticed it is getin easier as u may have picked up on by the way i am postin less!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry! not the best name to have really at the moment! U do seem on the right path and with caring people like these around you i think everything is gonna be alright.

    Not sure about your music taste though!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    taste in music? evergreen?!?!?!

    he he well its not your fault u got a bad name! lol

    im still doing well, more people are talkin 2 me bout it at skool now and findin out the truth so i have more people on my side! and i am gettin quite close 2 one of my old b/fs from wen i was 11 so it was more like a mate sorta thing and he's helpin me lots <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you do like Will then i think u should be more concerned with your taste in music because you seem to be making great progress on this issue.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he he will is damn sexi! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    its strange cos 4 about 3 months i felt like i was going know where and my gettin over cal was just going round in circles but then this past week (since me and my ex from 4 yrs ago got friendly again) i havnt thort about him or really even missed him at all! and now if im asked do i miss him i have to thnk b4 i answer whereas b4 i just kinda answered "yes lots" without even thnkin! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    4 the 1st time in 19 months wen i woke up this mornin he wasnt the first thng i thort of! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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