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My Dad
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for a fair few years now, my dad and i have been growing steadily apart. this is due to the fact that i was just growing up, and could talk to my mum more easily about things.
but in the past 6 months, things have been really bad with us. evrything he says to me is a sarcastic, condescending remark, or he just laughs at me, and makes me feel really small, with everything i do.
he thinks i dont do enough around the house (i start uni soon so am in the house most of the time) and that i am selfish, arrogant and bone-idle. all of this couldnt be farther from the truth.
now i am starting to talk back to him, when he comes out with a comment or laughs at me, as i dont like anyone treating me like that, never mind my own dad. but now because of this, he thinks i have an "attitude" and seems to resent me even more.
as a result of all this, im beginning to resent being at home, as it makes me miserable and i become short tempered with my mum and little brother.
i have talked to him a few times when he's actually pushed me to tears, and hes promised he'll change but that only lasted a few days. my mum tells him hes going to push me away altogether soon, but he doesnt listen to her.
sorry, im not sure what the point of this was, i just wanted to get it out, and have a rant. thanks for listening, and if anyone has any suggestions of how to improve the situation, it would be great
thanks
xx
but in the past 6 months, things have been really bad with us. evrything he says to me is a sarcastic, condescending remark, or he just laughs at me, and makes me feel really small, with everything i do.
he thinks i dont do enough around the house (i start uni soon so am in the house most of the time) and that i am selfish, arrogant and bone-idle. all of this couldnt be farther from the truth.
now i am starting to talk back to him, when he comes out with a comment or laughs at me, as i dont like anyone treating me like that, never mind my own dad. but now because of this, he thinks i have an "attitude" and seems to resent me even more.
as a result of all this, im beginning to resent being at home, as it makes me miserable and i become short tempered with my mum and little brother.
i have talked to him a few times when he's actually pushed me to tears, and hes promised he'll change but that only lasted a few days. my mum tells him hes going to push me away altogether soon, but he doesnt listen to her.
sorry, im not sure what the point of this was, i just wanted to get it out, and have a rant. thanks for listening, and if anyone has any suggestions of how to improve the situation, it would be great
thanks
xx
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So paperdoll if you need to talk then pvt me and we can slag our dads off. I wish my mum would divorce him.:mad:
If your relationship was good once it can be again, you just have to try to talk to him like an adult. Perhaps he would really appreciate it if you sat down with him and had an honest talk about things without getting upset or angry?
Jellygirl - If your dad is hitting you then there is something seriously wrong...is there anyone you can talk to? I had a difficult relationship with my dad and I wanted my mum to divorce him but when I was growing up my mum had no confidence, little financial security and no way was she going to leave us kids behind. However, once they had divirced my friendship with my dad got much stronger. It sounds to me like this just isn't possible in your case so perhaps you should make every effort to get out...it may be difficult but for your own sake if its possible to leave you should.