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What's it like having a boyfriend/girlfriend who cheats on you?

If you have ever been unfaithful, do you have any idea why you cheated?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And here's a link to our latest Relationships article:
    http://ned.thesite.org.uk/relationships/lovelife/why_were_they_unfaithful.html
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmmmmm wots it like having a boyfriend that cheats on you? its fantastic! *sarcasm* lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    well as some of u know, my ex bf was a complete wanker and cheated on me. I was well upset and didn't get out of my bed for ages, i just sat in the dark listening to music.

    I really lost it tho, wen i found out he had been cheatin, i cna remember standing in my bedroom, me in my pj's and him soaked in the rain on the way 2 my house late at nite.

    Stereophonics was turned up way loud to try to cover all the screeching, but it didn't work <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; i av got such a loud voice!

    And neway, he goes, "go on then hit me as hard as u can to let ur anger out"

    So i did. i fcukin hit him as hard as i cud hit the fcukin bastard and afterwards i felt so sorry i had to apologise coz im never violent and have never hit sum1 in my life! lol. So then we broke up 4 a while, but we got back together and then we broke up, and then we got back together... and then he turmned into an even bigger prick! And i hate him soooooo much!!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    And i have never cheated on ne1 b4. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Although i did have the chance to cheat on the bastard while i was on holiday and i turned it down after he had been cheating on me and i knew about it!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; i sooooo regret that!!! I have too many morals 4 my own good <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    Sorry, waffled on a bit there!

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nice article Karla <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I especially like the "why they cheat" part.

    I never even thought of some of those reasons!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    ~*~Drfiter~*~

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well...having a b/f that cheats on u can't be a nice thing!! or vice versa. hands up to anyone who disagrees!!

    fortunately i have never had a b/f that cheated on me. not that i wanna know how it feels like as i think im pretty clear on that thanx!! i think im real lucky as there's so much temptation to cheat nowadays...

    personally...i admit that i have cheated on my b/f's before and i feel very very sorry. i went to the point of ending the relationship as i felt too bad...though i was givin second chances with this guy...i knew myself there was no point as im not worth it. especially when i knew that he wouldn't do it to me...he was too decent.

    i don't know why people cheat. maybe it was a sign that you weren't with the right person. drunk is no excuse. i never used that as one of my reasons. no matter how drunk u get, ur still a BIT logical about your surroundings.
    im not sure why i cheated. i guess i just wasn't settle down enough...i wasn't really the type to go steady back then and i guess i just didn't think i get caught. (sometimes i did.) but even if i didn't...the guilt eats me up.
    at the end of the day...i was being selfish when i cheated.

    there you go...my confession made.

    children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I posted a topic about cheating not so long ago...I've been cheated on and it hurt a lot. I swore that i'd never do it to anyone because i know how much it hurts...but I have done <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    It wasn't meant to happen, but it did. I just hope he doesn't find out. My mates have been saying that its my payback for him cheating on me, but i dont really feel like that.

    It hurts when they do it to you though! I dunno. Its weird.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yeah i was gonna say, we've had this topic not long ago!

    ive never been cheated on as such, but just when i had broken up with my ex boyfriend he got with someone else, the girl i had always been suspicious of him with ever since he started spending loads of time with her, and it was a bit of a kick in the teeth and left me wanting him back briefly. soon realised i was right to dump him though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    ive never cheated on anyone either, ive fancied other people whilst in a long term relationship but not done anything about it. although i did have kind of "plans" to snog this guy at the 6th form party and i was flirting with him a bit (didnt happen anyway), but this is when me and my ex were already talking about splitting up and knowing it was going to happen soon. but when it came to it i probably wouldnt have done it, i would never cheat on someone i loved or someone who i cared about or respected at all.

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think I'm one to comment really, I'm seeing an engaged guy at the moment!! Sorry!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Elisa, if you don't want your guy to find out, maybe you shouldn't publish it on the internet like this...?

    just a thought! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by luv-snail:
    Elisa, if you don't want your guy to find out, maybe you shouldn't publish it on the internet like this...?

    just a thought! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;


    He doesn't come to thesite. Hardly uses the internet really.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i woz cheated on twice in a row by different bf's. I started goin out wit Paul in June 2000 & then found out after (get this!) he dumped me that he had been cheating on me 4 practically the WHOLE of r relationship! Then about a month later @ the beginning of July I started goin out wit Chris who also cheated on me!
    I woz really stupid though coz straight after I started goin out wit Tom (who most of u prob know about, Chris mate). Big mistake! Not the relationship, i'm still not over him we were 2gether for 5 months & r still really good mates.
    But coz I woz so hurt by being cheated on TWICE in a row it took me ages 2 trust Tom properly, he NEVER cheated on me which is why I still feel really bad about wot I did.
    I got v.pissed one nite & got off wit 2 guys when I had been wit Tom for about 3 months. I regret it totally coz I didn't even like the blokes that much & even though I know its no excuse I woz totally pissed & hurt by wot has happened wit past relationships!
    Ne way soz 4 babbling on! XxX
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've done the cheating once.....
    and to be honest i have no idea why i did, i think it was too much choice.
    boyfriend and best mate..... regreted it ever since.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    With my current relationship with my girl...would i cheat? I would rather die
    Shes my angel and to do that would be the most stupidest thing imaginable

    "Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
    - Woody Allen
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by city_boy:
    With my current relationship with my girl...would i cheat? I would rather die
    Shes my angel and to do that would be the most stupidest thing imaginable


    ditto that... i love my gf way too much to cheat on her!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hey <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    I wouldnt think about cheating! It hurts alot! You think your in love then they brake your heart! Im not saying all guys are like that but most off them are! And the reason WHY, they do it i dont know! Probably they cant apreaciate what they've already got!!
    Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    PS: Sorry bout the spellings
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi! I cheated on my boyfriend 14 times (only kisses,no sex involved) at the very begining of our relationship. This was because I was very scared of getting too close to my boyfriend,in case he hurt me- ironic I know! I couldnt just finnish him though because no matter how much I tried to convince myself otherwise, I was actually in love with him.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that was another reason why i cheated. i was scared of getting to close to my b/f...then ends up him hurting me.
    i think cheating can sometimes to do with your own insecurties...

    children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well my boyfriend cheated on me last month and we split up! it was his best mate who told me because he is a mate of mine to. my mate told me his reason was he was bored because he hadn't seen me for nearly a week so he went out on a boys nite out!

    i thought it was really funny afterwards how could i b so stupid all the time he had been with me ( 5 months) he had stopped going out with the lads to the pub and spent most of his time with me then all of a sudden he went out 3 nite's in a row!!!!! when we split he started c'ing this bitch now he has finished her and wants me back! i wil probably give him another chance as i do love him, but if he does it again he is outta here!

    i wouldn't have been so bothered if he would have told me he had slept with her it is more the fact that he is still denying it even though he was also seen with her by my big bro in the local club!!!

    Well that is my story and hopefully u won't here another one like it from me!!!!

    soz for blabbering
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wow, i'd forgotten about htis post (like the other 20,000 on thesite <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">)

    but blondies post got the rusty cogs of my mind turning - why oh why do girls still want a guy, EVEN when he has cheated?

    I know, as a guy, that if I had a gf cheat on me, i would not take her back, EVER. but time after time i hear stories of girls taking back guys after they've gone and had some fun with another girl.

    how fucking gullible are you girls? you think if a guy comes crawling back from a night shagging the brains outta some pretty little thing, he actually still loves you with all his heart?

    sorry to blow the secret, but we're all wankers and you know that. if a guy cheats, he doesn't deserve another chance. no matter what he says, however convincingly he acts, he is not devoted to you 100% anymore.

    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    no i dont think i could take someone back if they cheated on me. i know how awful it feels sort of... when me and my first bf were on a break (but we'd broken up really, after lots of umming and ahhing) he got with this other girl after a few weeks and i was gutted! but i was still there begging him to take me back.. i dont even know why, i men we broke up for a reason. but i know if he had taken me back id never have forgiven him for going out with that other girl or anythign and it would have just been awful.

    but then there are times when it doesnt relaly mean anything... like if youre drunk and go out and just snog someone you dont even bother talking to, that youre never gonna see again, and you have like no feelings for them. but then if somene did that to me id be so incredibly hurt, so i dont think id do it if i was actually with someome at the time. so i guess i have kinda double standards *sigh*

    ive so already said the same thing in this post lol

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I cheated on my bloke who i was with for 4 years. It was very rocky at the end, so my timing wasn't bad. In fact if it didn't happen i may have become suicidal through depression. It made my ex realise how desparate i was, and now he is pleased i have found the happiness he couldn't give me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd never, EVER cheat on my girlfriend.

    My advice to anyone who has a partner who's cheated/cheating on them is to send 'em packing, if they can do it once then they're capable of doing it again!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ive just found out today that my ex(wed kinda unofficially got back together for the past 3 months and thought after last weeek we were guna get back officially) has a new gf and has been sleepin with her while sleepin with me..... <sniff> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    I have a drinking problem. Two hands yet only one mouth.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Last month I had an argument with my b/f and refused to go to his house party, things hadn't been good for a while and I couldnt be bothered to let him have his own way. Later I got this weird feeling in my stomach and I rang him up. He'd just kissed another girl.I'd been with my b/f 21 months and I dumped him immediately. I was so hurt and shocked at everything.
    Now that I've had time to think and talk to him we've realised that we were both taking each other forgrante in the relationship. He didnt go any further than kissing and he told the girl that he loves me and doesnt want her. Since then I'm giving him a second chance. Now he's big on commitment and how he never wants anyone but me.He regrets what happened hugely and has made it clear to everyone what a mistake it was. My family think I'm gullible but I really believe that the time he had apart from me made him realise that he never wanted it to be like that. We feel stronger now than ever
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    the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    dude. post. dead.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    If I had a bf and he cheated on me, I'd give him a black eye and a broken nose.

    Why?

    Well, it's something to remember me by and he'd have to explain to his friends how he got them.

    So with one hand on the wheel
    The other out the window
    With a smile on my face
    My middle finger up...
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