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Hey. I don't know whether this is a question or a query, or just a comment?
Well I'm 15 as many of you may know (16 soon
) and while I enjoy completely, flirting with girls and saying stuff, when it comes to actually erm doing stuff (even kissing) I get nervous and shy. Heh 
like with my girlfriend I'll say "pack that in or I'll kiss you" or something cos like, i dunno heh like how i flirt and shell just keep doing it to get me to kiss her but like then I get shy and stuff
Is alchohol the solution?
(sorry a mate said that lol)
Erm yea. It also annoys me how she wants no physical future, even though im completely afraid of that and stuff and am more comfortable kissing and cuddling, I just would feel more comfortable if she 'didnt mind' more. It's hard to describe. It's like, I wouldnt take the offer but it'd be nice to know it's on the table lol.
Anyone get me? TheShyBoyInTheCorner x
Well I'm 15 as many of you may know (16 soon
) and while I enjoy completely, flirting with girls and saying stuff, when it comes to actually erm doing stuff (even kissing) I get nervous and shy. Heh like with my girlfriend I'll say "pack that in or I'll kiss you" or something cos like, i dunno heh like how i flirt and shell just keep doing it to get me to kiss her but like then I get shy and stuff Is alchohol the solution?
(sorry a mate said that lol)Erm yea. It also annoys me how she wants no physical future, even though im completely afraid of that and stuff and am more comfortable kissing and cuddling, I just would feel more comfortable if she 'didnt mind' more. It's hard to describe. It's like, I wouldnt take the offer but it'd be nice to know it's on the table lol.
Anyone get me? TheShyBoyInTheCorner x
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No alcohol is not the solution, time is.
Oh and yeah i get you, but you gotta do something if its not what you want tho, like i told you before
have you asked her why she feels that way? (eg not wanting to go further?)
and no alchol is only a temproary solution.....you cnat relaly help shyness....
shes just not ready to go further which i respect. I spoke to her and whether she was likely to change and she said she didnt think so so like that means never for me which is like, a dead end. That kinda makes it seem hopeless in a way so im even less comfortable with kissing her and stuff because what if she changes her mind?? Anyway thats it I can't learn to be comfortable cos I'm not comfortable lol... and im too shy to talk to her atm...
Got with my latest g/f (finally after months of trying) due to a few too many double vodkas. Dutch courage awesome!
As for drinking well if you have too much then it could have the other effect and make you feel worse, you might actually not be able to perform which has been known for loads of fellas who have had too much to drink.
Just take your time, when the time is right you BOTH will know and if you do need just a little drink then why not?
Dont worry yourself
Yeah im talking having really too much. I know some fellas will say its rubbish but I know because Ive been told of many fellas that they cant perform when they are too pissed. Obviously just being tipsy is not a problem its when your really paraletic, but shy boys not 16 yet so its not as though he is used to drink (no offence but you know what i mean )
Yeah I know what you mean, I also hate it if im sober and everyone else is tipsy. I used to work late so never got to the pub till about 9:30pm and everyone else was already half gone, that was a pain. Anyway all it did was make me drink twice as fast to catch up with them lot
invited her for tea on monday (we havent spent a chill out time with each other yet so itll be good) and we should be able to talk, I'll probably get a DVD out. Of course, that's if she's free heh
I'm starting to put a lot of effort into it now
Lol im not going alchy!
Ive been told having a dirnk to relieve stress is ok but when u get stressed thinking bout not having alcohol thats when u got a problem!
I get stressed thinking about having alchohol. And I dont drink. Heh. Has anyone ever had grappa?
(think of me as the tea lady off Father Ted only it isnt tea im encouraging you to drink!)
I dont have any alchohol and dont think ma parents would approve really...
*scoffs*
what do they know?
yeah erm......dont go alchy
:rolleyes: