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seen as a sex machine??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i hope i don't come across as being too big-headed here...but this problem has been bugging me for ages and i need all the help i can get...thanx.

i have been called names like "sexy **** " and "sex machine" all the time. i don't even think of myself as nice looking. being complimented as sexy is nice - but the way the guys call it it sounds more slutty. it always bothers me especially when they shout it publicly with my name but i try not to let them get to me.

all decent guys don't look at me. i don't even know why i get called that. i don't sleep around (im still a virgin) and i haven't had THAT much b/f's. all i want is this name calling to stop ...

the thing is, i really like Nick but he has started to call me those kinda names too. anyone can call me a sexy **** but he can't. it hurts SO much when he calls me that. he knows i like him. am i really all that there is? a sex machine and a sexy **** ?? will i ever get anyone decent who will just see me as i am? i don't know what to do anymore...

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by angelfire383:
    i hope i don't come across as being too big-headed here...but this problem has been bugging me for ages and i need all the help i can get...thanx.

    i have been called names like "sexy **** " and "sex machine" all the time. i don't even think of myself as nice looking. being complimented as sexy is nice - but the way the guys call it it sounds more slutty. it always bothers me especially when they shout it publicly with my name but i try not to let them get to me.

    all decent guys don't look at me. i don't even know why i get called that. i don't sleep around (im still a virgin) and i haven't had THAT much b/f's. all i want is this name calling to stop ...

    the thing is, i really like Nick but he has started to call me those kinda names too. anyone can call me a sexy **** but he can't. it hurts SO much when he calls me that. he knows i like him. am i really all that there is? a sex machine and a sexy **** ?? will i ever get anyone decent who will just see me as i am? i don't know what to do anymore...


    unfortunately angelfire, boys will sometimes be boys.

    i'm not discounting the fact that this name calling hurts you a ton. but this is all a product of the pack mentality. one guy calls u that.. the all start calling yout that whether it's true or not. and the more you protest, the worse it gets. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    you might try to give it back to them a little, maybe question the size of the manhood of some of them? or of their lack of successful conquests. just let them know you aren't going to sit back and take their garbage.

    the most important thing is you know who you are. and from your post it sounds like you do. and if anyone bothered to take the time to get to know you.. they would find out the truth as well... never let something like this dictate who you are.

    as for nick, if he's starting up, then he doesn't really know you does he? and if says he's just kidding with you.. let him know he's hurting you, and if he doesn't want to stop or asks where's the harm, you might want to kick him to the curb. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    good luck.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe u shud tell nick that it hurts u. if he's worth bothering about @ all then he wil stop it.

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by angelfire383:
    will i ever get anyone decent who will just see me as i am?

    probably not if accounts of guys from girls on here are anything to believe!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Dark Knight, please don't make other people upset, just bcoz u r. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Of course u will find sum1 who will appreciate u 4 who u r babes! There's one out there 4 every1 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; just might take a little time to work out which 1 he is!!!

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx for the advice...
    i have to say...no offence...boys must be the weirdest species on earth...why go along with something just cuz your mates says it? it's so dumb...
    i have stopped protesting about the comments - takes a lot of courage...but shit what else can i do?? cry?? i don't think so!

    and nick, hmm...he only calls me that when he's with his mates i figure out. when we're alone he is SO nice and i can look into these lovely deep blue eyes all day long...LOL

    and d/k...im sure there are some very nice people about here! :> ) hehe...

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    angelfire, you say your a virgin. can I ask your age please?
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    glen, what does it matter what age she is and whether shes a virgin or not?

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, it doesn't matter how old u are. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yeah exactly drifter...

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i never thought that being a virgin has anything to do with age...and i still think that.
    but to answer your question Glen, im 17, wouldn't be till 18 for another while. i just rather not rush into sex when im not ready...rather wait thanx!

    now can you answer me why u asked what age i was? are u really shocked that me being 17 is still a virgin? not mean to be cheeky or anything, im just curious...


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Angelfire,
    I guessed that you were over 16. To make the statement that you were a virgin, and also sound proud to be one, meant that you could only be over the age of 16.
    glen
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    don't give me such a big head!! hehe...
    i am proud to be a virgin and if anyone asks me, i will just tell them. and if my b/f asks me i tell him the truth too. im sure if he really likes me he will stay!

    im sure there are a lot of people out there who are 17 and still a virgin. i know Drifter is still one...(i think so!!) im not sure is there many guys who are though when they reach 17...hehe. girls can control themselves more i reckon!! hahahahaha...

    i don't have anything against non-virgins...but me personally am not ready to be one...

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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    angelfire, i know an 18 year old male... ermmmm ex virgin lol... or would be a 17 years and 363 days ex virgin? hmmmmm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; lol

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    oh and i was a virgin until i was 17 too.

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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