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How to stop yourself fancying some1?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, I know this kinda sounds like your average, really unoriginal problem...

I have a boyfriend.
I fancy a friend of his.
I love my boyfriend and would never split up with him for his friend.

BUT I don't know what to do; we've been going out for 6months and just because I'm attracted to his friend, it doesn't mean I love him any less - that's the worst of it, because it's not just a passing craze; I've liked his friend in more than just a *friendly* way for a while now.

I'd never act on it but so many of you must have been through this - can anyone help me sort out my feelings or help me to get rid of my... well almost obsession... with his friend?

Thanx everyone,

x
Baby

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    chill, everyone from time to time fancies someone other than their partner (grass is greener and all that) its perfectly normal, and you said you would never act on it so you have nothing to worry about <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i kinda know what you feel like

    i'm going out with this boy at the mo but i use to go out with hi best mate. he was my first at everything and we still have something there.

    he even admits to it and tells me that he wants to kiss me. we haven't gone there but sometimes when im alone with him i forget i've got a bf. i love my current bf so much and i know he cares for me but i cant get rid of these feelings for my ex. help! please!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hanging around with your ex, after you have both admitted you have feelings for each other is asking for trouble. It will all end in tears. So you must make a choice, cut out the lovey duvey stuff with your ex, or break up with your current bf.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    look at the bad points in the guy you fancy, and try and get him to dislike you, i know it sounds stupid but then he will not be nice to you and it will soon stop u fancying him, but the main thing is to look at his bad points, that usually works.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think what Good Riddance has said is a really good idea. I was in the same position as you a few months ago. I dumped my boyfriend for his friend. In away I wish I had not done that and followed the above advice.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good Riddance I spose that wd be a good thing to do, but problem is i wouldn't be able to do it - remember, i fancy the guy! i don't want him2 dislike me!

    Thanks every1 for ur replies tho, they really are helping.

    x
    Baby
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok, so look at all of his bad points, i have fancied people before, but when you realize their bad points, you really wonder why you ever fancied them, you can still be friends, but it works at stopping you fancying them
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