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HELP!!! So confused!
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OK, go back to the topic "Help- v complicated situation" i posted in december.
Right this is about the same guy. To fill thoses of u who dont already know we split up in jan due to him being @ uni and me seeing him like once a fortnight.I still REALLY REALLY like him and i want him back.
Then not last sat but the one b4 me, him one of my m8s and 3 of his all went clubbing. I slept over at his mates house withthe 4 blokes. We ended up sharing a bed and......well u dont need three guesses to work out what happened. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
We then decided in the morn that we needed to discuss this and i was so scared he was guna reject me i did it first and told him that it was a drunken mistake.(which is absolute bollox) Then in between then and last night there have been loads and loads of flirty txt.
This brings us up to last night. He came over b4 we both went to work. (He's a bouncer and I work as a waitress 2 min down the road so we were guna walk into town together.)Oh shit just missed out a rather vital bit of the story! On thurs i got drunk and i pulled his boss. His m8s saw so i decided to tell him b4 they did.(thurs eve) He went mad but eventually calmed down. One of the reasons 4 him comin over was to sort it out.
Well he came over and we talked about stuff and then teasing and flirting led to *other stuff* but nothing hugely serious cos i was late 4 work.
Ok another complication to the equation he is seeing sum1 else. I know shes cheatin on him with a 28 yo with a wife and kids. (shes nearly 18) I didnt think he knew but it kinda came in the convo so i told him and he said he thought there was sumthin goin on cos whenever she gets drunk she txts him talkin about this bloke.
I just dont know what to do. I really like him but...... i duno what is going on. He said he needed to think about it all last night which is fair enough.
What would u all do in my situation????
Thanx all
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"I just want to feel safe in my own skin. I just want to be happy again." -Dido
Right this is about the same guy. To fill thoses of u who dont already know we split up in jan due to him being @ uni and me seeing him like once a fortnight.I still REALLY REALLY like him and i want him back.
Then not last sat but the one b4 me, him one of my m8s and 3 of his all went clubbing. I slept over at his mates house withthe 4 blokes. We ended up sharing a bed and......well u dont need three guesses to work out what happened. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
We then decided in the morn that we needed to discuss this and i was so scared he was guna reject me i did it first and told him that it was a drunken mistake.(which is absolute bollox) Then in between then and last night there have been loads and loads of flirty txt.
This brings us up to last night. He came over b4 we both went to work. (He's a bouncer and I work as a waitress 2 min down the road so we were guna walk into town together.)Oh shit just missed out a rather vital bit of the story! On thurs i got drunk and i pulled his boss. His m8s saw so i decided to tell him b4 they did.(thurs eve) He went mad but eventually calmed down. One of the reasons 4 him comin over was to sort it out.
Well he came over and we talked about stuff and then teasing and flirting led to *other stuff* but nothing hugely serious cos i was late 4 work.
Ok another complication to the equation he is seeing sum1 else. I know shes cheatin on him with a 28 yo with a wife and kids. (shes nearly 18) I didnt think he knew but it kinda came in the convo so i told him and he said he thought there was sumthin goin on cos whenever she gets drunk she txts him talkin about this bloke.
I just dont know what to do. I really like him but...... i duno what is going on. He said he needed to think about it all last night which is fair enough.
What would u all do in my situation????
Thanx all
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"I just want to feel safe in my own skin. I just want to be happy again." -Dido
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maybe give it space for a few days, both of you think things through.
but looking at it from your point of view, things look like theyre going places <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
good luck
kayls xox
Then ask him if he still has the same feelings 4u as u do 4 him, and if he is wants to get bak with you.
Good luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
~*~Drifter~*~
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
He was txting me last night and I said look i really need to know whats going on even if for u it is just casual sex i need to know.
He txted back saying:
"Ahh but we havent yet (actually had sex) so there's no problem is there! There is tension there (sexual)and it makes things confusing. I dont know whats goin on"
Then him and his mate went off to garage nation for the night and he was txtin me till 2 this morning, just small flirty txt.
We really do need to sit down and talk but cos hes @ uni most weeks (the reason y we split) it makes it hard.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
Ill keep u updated
J
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I'd take the stars out the sky for you,
There's nothing in this world i wouldnt do,
If i could be your girl...
I don't live to work, I work to live and I live at the weekends. I'm the last of the big time drinkers.
I want him back. I just dont know whether he wants me back.
Well, ive been invited by him and his mate chris to go pubbin with them nxt sat and then stay over at his nxt w/e so i guess ill just see how it goes.
Wish me luck!
I'd take the stars out the sky for you,
There's nothing in this world i wouldnt do,
If i could be your girl...
I hope you get what you want <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
Ok, he came over yesterday cos his lectures had been cancelled so hed gone shoppin and he txted me askin what i was up to and should he cum say hi.
He did. And a lot more. I ended up sleepin with him which in a sense was what i wanted but at the same time not.
He asked to me b4 if i was sure cos he didnt want me to feel hurt or used.
He called last night afterwards cos id said we needed to sort out where we stood.
He said that he did still like me but cos of the distance it wouldnt work and therefore as much as he wanted to he couldnt offer me a relasionship.
OOOOOOHHHHHH........... It hurts.........
I'd take the stars out the sky for you,
There's nothing in this world i wouldnt do,
If i could be your girl...
i'm so sorry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
guys r wankers, he shudnt have dun dat if he weren't gonna offer u a relationship, coz its jus usin.
if he dont know wot hes missin then he aint worf it
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
i agree and extend my apologies as well. sometimes i'm embarrassed and saddened by members of my own gender.
that behavior is so completely unacceptable. and you can take a little solace in that carmatically, he will pay somewhere down the road because what goes around comes around.