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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi, I was hoping to get some practical
advice about my current situation, although this probably isn't the best board to post on.
Basically, my relationships with all at home have completely broken down and I need to move out (well I'm about to be thrown out!)and I have no other family I could stay with
My problem is, I don't know what housing help is available for someone like me.
I'm over 18 and have a job (but only work once a week so I can't really afford to rent) and I'm studying independently (exams next week and in June) so I can go to university.
If anyone can offer some practical advice as to where I can go from here, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its hard, I moved out at 19 and its hard and I was on an alright income (£230pw) and had to move out cause my parents (at the time) moved to NZ but the govenments attitude was "no, we're not going to help him just cause he wants to live here, pay taxes and needs a touch of help supporting himself" however if I'd have been a 19yr old unemployed pregnant single female, well... anyway... sorry

    In all fairness without sounding offence to the ladies, its harder being single and male for housing than women... it boils down to brackets of who is most needing and single young men under 25 aren't high on the list...

    You best bet would be to get in contact with the Citizan's Advice Buereo (CAB) and having a word, cause your studying you might be able to get some income support, but be warned the govement aren't exactly helpful...

    Be warned as well, your young and landlords don't like young single males, even when I managed to get a bond and all that together they still kept saying "no-one under 21" which proved difficult... Also without trying to sound like a parent, its not easy, there are LOADs of bills to pay, out of my wage after all bills I used to have about £40 a week left to go on myself (clubbing or clothes)

    Just research properly, CAB will be able to help you out more, they can talk you through it and discuss some areas which might help you and go along with benefits... <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    Good Luck...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe you had a bad experience Justin but if a person is going to be homeless the goverment has to help them (in theory at least). When my b/f had nowhere to live he was eventually placed into a council flat-you may have to go in a hostel though.
    There is help out there, just stick at it and go down every single day. You could always house share- depending on where you live, about £30-£60 a week.

    Girls who pregnant do NOT automatically get housing, but they are placed further up the priority list. Maybe you think that's unfair, but I think in a humane society a pregnant woman does have more need for somewhere to live than a single man.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As Justin said - going to your local CAB would be the best option as they will be able to point you in the right direction.
    National number here:
    Citizens Advice Bureaux
    Telephone: 020 7833 2181

    You may also be eligable for housing benefit, more info here: http://www.thesite.org/info/money/benefits_and_tax/housing_benefit.html

    Good Luck
    Susie <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
    edited to insert URL!

    [ 03-01-2002: Message edited by: Susie ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you are only studying a certain amount of hours a week and not earning too much you should be able to get help with housing benefits and income support.
    Go se the CAB
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for your help.
    I've called up the CAB and have an appointment for next week.
    Hopefully they will take pity on me as a young, single (but not pregnant!) female!
    Thanks again.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe you had a bad experience Justin but if a person is going to be homeless the goverment has to help them (in theory at least).

    In theory, but in practice its a lot more difficult than that, like you said you b/f got housing 'eventually' which is always the case, if you get thrown out then you won't get somewhere straight away and will struggle for a while, especially if your mates can't help and having no address makes it even HARDER.

    Girls who pregnant do NOT automatically get housing, but they are placed further up the priority list. Maybe you think that's unfair

    No, I agree, pregnant women are deserving, but then so are young people who are trying to make a living for themselves. I don't agree with most of the benefit system running in the UK, especially with regards to people who aren genuinely trying to do it on their own but need a little assistance...

    but I think in a humane society a pregnant woman does have more need for somewhere to live than a single man.

    I agree, but I also live in a society where I believe that you shouldn't have kids unless you can support them, obviously there are exceptions but in general you shouldn't expect other people (which lets face it that is what happens.. tax paiers money) to cough up for them just cause they fancy a baby boy. Sorry... no!

    I'm just being brutally honest.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    [ 04-01-2002: Message edited by: Justin Credible ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry... no!
    I'm just being brutally honest..

    Don't be sorry Justin cos I agree with you that people should only have kids when they can afford to support them and not expect the state to give them handouts BUT it's not an ideal world, people do get pregnant, some people disagree with abortion, and end up in sticky situations.
    Personally I don't want to have kids for a long long time, but I would want to know that should end up in a situation like that, I would get the same support as everyone else.

    The system is fu**ed, there are girls who just get pregnant so they can get a flat, I find that very sad if that's all they want in life.

    "regards to people who aren genuinely trying to do it on their own but need a little assistance..."

    Last year I was really struggling with money/jobs/housing etc, and it really bugged me that when I was signing on, I got discounts, could have had housing benefit, etc. When I started work, all this stopped and I was only a tiny bit better off than I was on the dole. It doesn't really encourage people to go out and work, especially when I was doing 2 jobs and found out I got taxed 25% on my second job-thieving tax man!

    Sorry to the original poster, this is very rude of me to change the subject!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It doesn't really encourage people to go out and work, especially when I was doing 2 jobs and found out I got taxed 25% on my second job-thieving tax man!

    I can second that and know it all too well! <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> Least we both agree on this KT <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    Sorry to the original poster, this is very rude of me to change the subject!

    Me too, but at least you've got the CAB appointment booked, CAB are kool they talk to you and listen like human beings... I went to them a few times last year and they helped me out pretty well <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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