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shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 693 Incredible Poster
hey:) i don’t even know why i am positing this to be completely honest but here we are lol

when i feel overwhelmed, i tend to ignore the worlds existence. i don’t know why, i just find it easier i guess? and because i also genuinely do not have the energy to reply to messages.

HOWEVER, not replying to messages makes me feel so bad. i don’t mean to be ignoring anyone, but i just genuinely don’t have the energy to reply - i will always reply eventually, but when im feeling so overwhelmed i just can’t seem to:(

i am sat here with a whole list typed up of messages i need to reply to and emails i need to reply to as well and everytime i try to i’m just so unable to? it sounds so silly im sure, and i feel so silly for being this way too.

!!!! also, if you’re reading this, im so proud of you for getting through everything you’re dealing with🩷

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  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,579 Boards Guru
    I get you, I do this too. Honestly thought it was just me lol. Maybe we should create like a template ‘I don’t have the energy to be social’ message to send people when it happens. I dont know. But it’s not silly! 🩷
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Posts: 393 Listening Ear
    @shannon_164 always here for you 🫂

    Totally understand that feeling of overwhelm and ignoring the world - sometimes its makes it less exhausting.
    No worries for not replying straight away to messages, people understand that it takes time to respond and when we don't feel able to it makes it difficult to say what you want as well - almost like a mental block.

    Take each message and email as they come, even if it means drafting them and then sending them out later - sometimes that reduces the overwhelm.

    It not silly at all, I'm sure alot of people are like this too 💕
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 414 Listening Ear
    edited January 25
    Hey @shannon_164 , thank you so much for this message. It can take real courage to share these things, esspecially when there's these social expectations or pressures to get back to messages and we feel 'bad' or 'silly' for not being able to. I just want to send you a hug because it sounds overwhelming <3

    I hope that you can grant yourself some grace here and be kind to yourself, @shannon_164 <3 You're coping with a lot right now, and you deserve to be able to take some space for yourself when you need and to reply to others on your own terms. If it would be helpful to get anything off your chest here / to talk about what's overwhelming you, we're here. But there's truly no pressure.

    In all honesty, I relate so much to what you've shared. Oftentimes my WhatsApp account can feel like a second inbox, and even while I care for the people who are messaging me a lot, sometimes I simply get overwhelmed and it's like this wall that comes down in my brain and replying to people feels physically impossible even though I know I technically 'can'. I wonder if you can relate to that?

    I don't know if this is helpful, but for me sometimes it helps to send a very short 'holding' message to help communicate what's going on. E.g. I might text my friend and say, "Hey, thank you for this message. It feels lovely to hear from you. In all honesty, I'm a bit overwhelmed right now and I'm finding it really hard to reply to messages. I will get back to you more when I've got a bit more headspace x ".

    Remember you are totally within your right to take all the time and space you need, and you don't have to owe people urgent replies.

    Sending hugs, Shannon, and take lots of care <3
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 693 Incredible Poster
    @AnonymousToe @Lottie5433 @Sian321 thank you for replying i really appreciate it🩷 - i will give a proper response when i can but currently rationing my phones charge and have shitty signal too because i still have no power🥲i seen this update this morning from nie stating our estimated restoration date is the 3rd feb at 10pm…
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 414 Listening Ear
    Hey @shannon_164 , ah of course - the storm must have come right over your home! I really hope you were safe, and gosh, that's frustrating that it might take that long for power to come back!

    Please don't feel any pressure to be getting back to any of us here. Focus on you and what you need!

    We're sending you hugs and hope you get power back again very soon! <3
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 693 Incredible Poster
    @AnonymousToe thank you for replying - again apologies for how long it’s taken me to get back to you!! it’s definitely not just you - sometimes having the energy just feels like impossible i guess? i think i definitely need to make a message to send when i can’t function properly to just reply though for sure🙂🩷
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 693 Incredible Poster
    @Lottie5433 thank you so much for replying - again apologies it’s taken me so long to get back to you!!

    sometimes trying to find the energy is like trying to find a needle in a haystack, it just feels sooo impossible?

    i appreciate you a lot, lottie - always here for you too🩷
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 693 Incredible Poster
    @Sian321 thank you for replying to me, again apologies for how long it’s taken me to get back to you!!

    i feel like i cause it myself? i let messages and emails just pile up and then there ends up being so many and yeah i just feel super overwhelmed:(

    i relate to that so so so much - like i want to reply, but i just feel like i physically can’t reply?

    that is definitely really helpful, yeah! thank you so much sian🩷
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