Overwhelmed trying to Find the Right Opportunity

TheNightmare

I recently attended an open day with a few options, but none of them seem suitable for me. I’ve had to decline a few opportunities that didn’t feel right, and while I’m worried about not taking advantage of these opportunities, I want to ensure that what I pursue is genuinely going to help me in the long run. For example, courses in security and construction were offered, but I’m not interested in working in those fields, and they require exams, which seems pointless if I’m not pursuing those careers. Some people suggested these courses would look good on my CV, but I feel it would be a waste if I’m not continuing in those roles. One of the courses I enrolled in without thinking it through, and the other I misunderstood and was last-minute.

I’m trying to find the right fit, ideally a course that leads to a suitable job, like the ones I’ve done in the past that involved store roles. Unfortunately, those previous courses didn’t work out, and I’m feeling frustrated because I told myself six months ago that I didn’t want to be in this position, yet here I am, still struggling to find work. I’ll keep looking for opportunities, putting in the effort, and continuing my volunteering at the charity shop, hoping it will help, but I can’t stop worrying about whether it will work out or if I’ll find something.

There have been courses and opportunities that I feel I’m not taking, but I don’t want to waste time on something I’m likely to fail at. What I don’t want is to take a course that doesn’t work out and end up back at square one. It’s frustrating because the people doing these courses probably want to pursue a career in those roles, but that’s not what I want, and it feels like nothing is leading to anything. I went today and someone from the construction construction course was chasing my work coach about me saying I'm not responding, I just stopped responding to the woman because I'm not doing the course which might have been a bit rude but I would have thought if I'm not responding they would have assumed I'm mot doing it and moved on to other people. I have maybe responded. I had maths today functional skills and it didn't really go too well either. Anyway it's just like I want to start getting somewhere as in securing something it's really overwhelming like it's just how like I've been on a programme to find work since november 2023 and thers been a worry about not getting into work from the programme when it expires and it expires early next month but that worry has come true , I haven't got anything and finish off on the programme pretty soon, the amount of time gets to me a lot sometimes and just job hunting is stressful.

TheNightmare

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Invisible_me

I don't knkw what to suggest other than same!! Im giving up.. I gacebt even got motivation anymore..
I'm just doing 0hr cobtravt jobs and going on that at the moment. I woild love a certain postion now but getting there is proving a mission. Finding something, doing application, interview then where is it? Will they support my autism? Etc..etc.. stresses me before I start.

TheNightmare

Invisible_me wrote: »

I don't knkw what to suggest other than same!! Im giving up.. I gacebt even got motivation anymore..
I'm just doing 0hr cobtravt jobs and going on that at the moment. I woild love a certain postion now but getting there is proving a mission. Finding something, doing application, interview then where is it? Will they support my autism? Etc..etc.. stresses me before I start.

Thanks for replying anyways, hopefully we both get sorted really soon.

Azziman

Hey @TheNightmare, thanks for sharing your experience with us. I can hear how the experience has been frustrating - being offered lots of courses that aren't what you're looking for, only to then be asked why you're not taking them on. It's not wrong to turn down a course that you're not interested in.

What type of courses would you be interested in, and say yes to? Lots of these courses can lead to jobs quickly, but it's also good to think about what you're interested in doing longer-term (which it sounds like you've been focusing on). I can hear how it can feel upsetting to give yourself a time target for getting a job but not achieve in - on the flip side, if it takes a little longer but you get a course that lines up to a long-term career you're interested in, a couple months is worth the hit in the grand scheme of things.

Keep thinking on it and talking to your programme contact, hopefully something turns up for you soon! We're here to support you through this

TheNightmare

Azziman wrote: »

Hey @TheNightmare, thanks for sharing your experience with us. I can hear how the experience has been frustrating - being offered lots of courses that aren't what you're looking for, only to then be asked why you're not taking them on. It's not wrong to turn down a course that you're not interested in.

What type of courses would you be interested in, and say yes to? Lots of these courses can lead to jobs quickly, but it's also good to think about what you're interested in doing longer-term (which it sounds like you've been focusing on). I can hear how it can feel upsetting to give yourself a time target for getting a job but not achieve in - on the flip side, if it takes a little longer but you get a course that lines up to a long-term career you're interested in, a couple months is worth the hit in the grand scheme of things.

Keep thinking on it and talking to your programme contact, hopefully something turns up for you soon! We're here to support you through this

@Azziman appreciate all of that, thanks a lot. For courses I'd probably be interested in a course with a suitable job at the end of it like a driving job maybe or other suitable jobs. They do exist as I have done them but just not been successful with securing the job but there's some on the line also they have to be short term too. Thanks so much.