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Overwhelmed
TheNightmare
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I made a thread earlier today, but after that, this afternoon, things seemed to get worse. I feel like it's one thing after another, yet again. My uncle made me go to my functional skills session, even though I wasn’t feeling motivated. I didn’t really want to go, but he insisted that I should attend. Once I got there, I tried to participate, but after a few minutes, I started feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. I wasn’t enjoying it, and I didn’t want to continue, so I maybe came home a bit earlier than planned.
When I came back home, I tried to explain that I wasn’t motivated with it anymore, that Im not going to quit but Im going to be focusing on my other ways to get employment too and why I didn't want to go today, he just didn’t seem to understand. I told him I wasn’t getting anything out of the session, and it was hard to stay focused, but he kept telling me that I needed to push through and not give up. We ended up having a heated back-and-forth, with him reminding me that it was important to stay committed. I felt frustrated, as I couldn’t get him to understand where I was coming from, and the argument grew more intense. I felt a bit upset that I wasn’t being heard. I've just been overwhelmed with my situation as it is and the session didn't go the best either and a few people got funny with me like fustrated and everyone seems to all the time and nothing seems to have well yet.
When I came back home, I tried to explain that I wasn’t motivated with it anymore, that Im not going to quit but Im going to be focusing on my other ways to get employment too and why I didn't want to go today, he just didn’t seem to understand. I told him I wasn’t getting anything out of the session, and it was hard to stay focused, but he kept telling me that I needed to push through and not give up. We ended up having a heated back-and-forth, with him reminding me that it was important to stay committed. I felt frustrated, as I couldn’t get him to understand where I was coming from, and the argument grew more intense. I felt a bit upset that I wasn’t being heard. I've just been overwhelmed with my situation as it is and the session didn't go the best either and a few people got funny with me like fustrated and everyone seems to all the time and nothing seems to have well yet.
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It sounds like you had some mixed emotions on the Functional skills session - on the one hand, not feeling motivated to go to the session, but on the other hand, feeling guilt about not going along. I can hear how being made to go along despite this felt frustrating and overwhelming - being forced to do something when we're not feeling up to it can have this impact. Your feelings are valid here.
Having a chat with your uncle once you got home, I can hear how you didn't feel understood. It sounds like while his view was that you stay committed and push through the pain, your view was that feeling overwhelmed and finding it difficult to focus made it difficult to get anything out of the session. Now that it's been a couple days, how do you feel about that argument now? What do you wish your uncle understood better about your position?
Between this argument, the session not going great, and how you've been feeling more generally (e.g. feeling less motivated in general, and not yet having achieved the goal you're been pursuing), I can hear how all of these can create a sense of frustration at the whole situation.
You've mentioned that you haven't been to the sessions for a few weeks now. I'm assuming that you used to go to the sessions before though. How did you find the sessions before? Were they helpful then, and did you find you could focus?
You also mention feeling less motivated, not just about the Functional skills session, but more in general. Do you have any thoughts on why this might be happening? Is it related to not yet getting a job yet, or are there other things that might be playing into this?
It's okay to feel frustrated given what's happened, and you're allowed to feel that way. But also, it's a sign that you haven't given up. Feeling frustrated can happen when we're striving for a goal but haven't yet reached it, especially if we feel like we're being held back. You've mentioned that you've been working hard towards getting a job, and doing lots of great steps towards that goal. Keep that spirit up! Hoping that you'll be able to get that role soon. We're here to support you on your journey towards reaching your goal
@Azziman I really appreciate the reply, and I’m sorry for replying a bit late I forgot to reply yesterday and didn’t realize I hadn’t responded. I truly value the support and the chance to talk things through. I feel better now after the argument with my uncle; it's pretty much forgotten about and done. I just wish he understood the gist of what I was saying, everything I was trying to get across. To be honest, I was pretty demotivated with the sessions before, but having a couple of others there with me made it a bit better. They were somewhat helpful and still kind of are. As for the lack of motivation, I think it’s because I’m not where I want to be in life yet. It’s also definitely tied to not having a job yet. Thanks a lot anyway.
I can also hear how much more motivated you are when there are others with you, and you don't feel so alone, even if the sessions don't align with where you want to be. I often think of things like this as a ladder.
A job would be at the top of the ladder because it is your dream but that is made up of many steps beforehand which you are making so much progress with! We are proud of you and hope you will also, one day, be able to recognise how much progress you have made
@Laura_tigger82 Yh, that's right I do feel like I haven’t been heard at times. As for how it could go differently next time, I’m not too sure right now. I do think writing messages can help me feel more heard, but it really depends on the context. I really appreciate you taking the time to listen and understand it means a lot to me.