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Hopes to move forward this year
TheNightmare
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I went to a shop yesterday, worked for an hour, and completed a couple of tasks. They said they’ll contact me when they need me again, but I’m unsure if they will. I might reach out myself, but I’m just hoping to move forward. I was supposed to attend a functional skills session but didn’t go because of the snow, and I didn’t know it was on until the last minute. I feel embarrassed about doing functional skills because I feel behind, which affects my self-esteem. Despite that, I plan to keep going with the sessions, though I’m also looking at other ways to get into work. I feel guilty, like I’m not doing enough, even though I know the snow and the cancellation were valid reasons for missing it. I don’t want to wait until I finish functional skills to get a job. I have a job event tomorrow, and I’m hoping it can help me. I might also contact the charity shop again if they need help.
I really hope to move forward this year because I haven’t been happy the past couple of years, and I’m trying to change things. Apart from functional skills, I’ve been trying to get something quicker to change my situation. It’s so boring and frustrating being at home, and I want the opportunity to earn and save. I want to achieve my goals sooner rather than later, and while I know there’s no rush, I don’t want to waste time stuck in the same place. Doing the volunteering yesterday was something I wouldn’t have done months or weeks ago, but because I want things to change soon, I went for it. I constantly keep worrying about things and have repetitive feelings every day. Moving forward would make a big difference to my wellbeing, especially if I’m earning and have a routine. I’ve been struggling for so long with finding where I want to be, and now I just want to see some changes. Things won’t change if I’m doing nothing, but I’m not doing nothing. I just think I need a bit of further support, and I think a lot of people could benefit from that. I want to start feeling better about my future instead of worrying about it because I have goals and want to do well. But sometimes, I feel like because of how things have previously gone, I’m not going to get anywhere, and that’s scary. I just want to start with the first step, which is securing a paid role, because that’s what I’ve wanted for a long time.
I really hope to move forward this year because I haven’t been happy the past couple of years, and I’m trying to change things. Apart from functional skills, I’ve been trying to get something quicker to change my situation. It’s so boring and frustrating being at home, and I want the opportunity to earn and save. I want to achieve my goals sooner rather than later, and while I know there’s no rush, I don’t want to waste time stuck in the same place. Doing the volunteering yesterday was something I wouldn’t have done months or weeks ago, but because I want things to change soon, I went for it. I constantly keep worrying about things and have repetitive feelings every day. Moving forward would make a big difference to my wellbeing, especially if I’m earning and have a routine. I’ve been struggling for so long with finding where I want to be, and now I just want to see some changes. Things won’t change if I’m doing nothing, but I’m not doing nothing. I just think I need a bit of further support, and I think a lot of people could benefit from that. I want to start feeling better about my future instead of worrying about it because I have goals and want to do well. But sometimes, I feel like because of how things have previously gone, I’m not going to get anywhere, and that’s scary. I just want to start with the first step, which is securing a paid role, because that’s what I’ve wanted for a long time.
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I hope you’re really proud of yourself. ☺️ You’re taking all the necessary steps to move forward as you wish. It’s okay to fall behind, we all follow our own paths. What some have at 18 some don’t have until 25. What some have at 25 some might not have until 30. Never too late to take those steps towards the life you wish to live and that’s exactly what you are doing. You’re breaking the chain of the struggle that you’ve faced the past few years, and your attempts is what counts. I know myself how hard it can feel to be stuck at home, like you’re making zero progress. Keep trying and you will get that paid role you wish for, I have absolute faith in you. These big changes come after the small changes.
I admire your attempts very much and not giving up, it’s inspired me today.
I hope you have a lovely rest of your day and we’re always here for you.
@Riley_2001 Thanks so much for your kind words, and I’m really sorry for the late reply. I saw your message earlier but forgot to respond. It truly means a lot to hear this from you, and I’m genuinely glad that I could inspire you. It’s great to hear for real, and your encouragement gives me a lot of motivation to keep pushing forward. I hope you have a wonderful day too, and I really appreciate your support.
I hear you say that it feels really scary to think about not getting anywhere, and that makes total sense. You want a paid job very much, and you're feeling really ready for this change now in your life. I can imagine there are points where things feel very disheartening and frustrating, and it's valid you may feel this way.
Thinking about your goals this year, I wonder what kind of support you feel you might need? From yourself? From all of us here? From any further spaces or organisations?
I also wondered whether it might feel helpful to break your goals down into mini-goals per-quarter of the year, so a goal for Jan - March, April - June, July - September, and then October - December. I know this sometimes helps me to feel motivated. Just an idea! But it sounds like you're already very much on it, and we'll be here to listen and support you along the way!
@Sian321 I'm ok, thanks, hope you're good. Still on the hunt for opportunities. I really appreciate all the thoughtful support you've been giving me; it means so much. I think I could really use access to placements and job opportunities, so I'm actively looking for them. The encouragement and kindness from you all have been such a boost. The best support is what you're all doing now. Getting replies or hugs is really helping, and I'm incredibly thankful for it. If there are any further places that you think could help, please send them my way; I would be so grateful. Also, that's a great idea about breaking my goals down into certain months, and I really appreciate you suggesting it. I might give that a try. Thank you so much for everything; your support makes a huge difference.
What goal would you like to focus on this month? We are really proud of you for the progress you have already made and the motivation you are showing to continue getting more opportunities!
How was working in the shop - would you like to talk to us more about how you found this?
Hey @Laura_tigger82 . For a paid role, I wouldn’t mind working in a shop just doing stuff like stocking shelves, maybe showing customers where things are, working in the stockroom etc, not the dream job but something for a bit of money just to decide what I want to do in the future. Hard question about goal for this month but good question, think for this month, keep moving forwards with my current placement and keep to get a paid role. It's just hard as it's quite a long journey but I hope it is just around the corner now especially how I'm doing the shop work.
Working in the shop was ok thanks so much for asking, I did like stocking up stuff on the shelves, tidying the shop up, they said they can give s reference for jobs too. Im actually back in tomorrow for a couple of hours, I'll try to keep y'all updated if you want. Thanks so much for your reply and have an amazing weekend ahead.