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11/12/24- Christmas Support Thread

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  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    thankyou @Maia @ella you both are amazing rly you are thankyou for your kindness tonight ❤️

    i just find december difficult altogether bc of christmas etc but i have booked ice skating for tmr for the evening so im hoping it brings me some joy? bought myself a disney colouring book today and gel pens bc i need something to distract myself with so have done. think ima get a hot choccy tmr to as it will be cold bc of after. yeah i used to do ice skating when i didnt hurt my hip 😅❤️

    thankyou both ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • kaiikaii Posts: 566 Incredible Poster
    Hey @ella, thank you so much for your reply!

    Thank you for reminding me that it's okay to feel how I'm feeling at the moment - I'll probably find that my feelings about Christmas may change over time as well. And yes, I think you're right in saying that I don't feel as festive this year because of my exams - I'll try to achieve a balance between rest (since it's so important!) and revision, breaking my revision down into smaller chunks is a good idea, and I want to make my days realistic as possible!

    As for activities that might make me feel more festive, I'll be watching a Christmas movie with my sisters (haven't decided yet) and I'll be going to London with my family later on in the month! You're right in saying that it would be great to be out and about, I've only been to spending time at uni and at home in the past couple months, so I haven't actually seen the Christmas decorations put up in town! Thank you so much :3<3
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,617 Boards Guru
    @Maia shes never shown love or anything but I’m fine with that

    Do you ever just get filled with paranoia and feel like everyone hates you and you read into everything wrong and then your left feeling unwanted….that’s me rn sorry


    Nothing will help me feel better other than Anna said that late tonight we can chat
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    sending you so many warm hugs @kaii ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    Thank you for sharing this buddy @TheNightmare , you're doing very well talking about it all, I know it can't be easy <3 You're right that I do this to help young people but volunteering for work experience is just as rewarding and useful, seriously! And volunteering in a shop sounds great :)

    That sucks :( It is so sad when family argue on Christmas and it must be extra difficult because you don't necessarily have a space space you can go to where they won't bug you. How would it feel to set boundaries and ask them to not follow you, do you think they'd listen?

    Good question about NZ - I did reach out to the community team to ask what my future would look like at The Mix, they're just finding the answer for me :) Hopefully I can stay. Nothing is set in stone right now though <3
  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 338 The Mix Regular
    @Rose113 I know it might be hard, but try to be gentle with yourself. These feelings are valid but they don't define you or the relationships you have with others. You have a whole support system here who think you are brilliant and brave for verbalising how you feel at the moment <3 I'm certainly very proud of you and have seen how much you've been through this year. You have grown so much in the short time I've been at The Mix and it's a privilege to have you in the community, Rose.

    I'm glad you have Anna to talk to tonight. Talking to someone you trust can be a huge relief and help you feel less alone/ isolated.

    Remember, you're worthy of love and connection, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    I hear you @kaii , it does all change when you get older! It sucks but there are things that you can do to bring the magic back (even slightly). For example, this week I decided to sit and watch some of my old favourite Christmas movies, bake some mince pies and make my own Christmas decor. It felt magical for a moment. It's not the same, but it definitely does bring back some of that spark :)

    Ohhh, how long have you been playing piano Kai? I've always been so interested in learning, I can play guitar and ukulele but would love to learn piano at some point!

    My fave way to unwind is definitely wrapping up nice and cosy in a blanket and watching some comfort movies. Nothing beats it! <3
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,617 Boards Guru
    @ella i don’t know that kinda feels questionable :/ probably just my paranoia tho but idk sorry

    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    edited December 11
    independent_ wrote: »
    @Maia I did thank you, it's just all the stress now because i'm nowhere near finished christmas shopping and my brain is throwing a massive fit atm so i'm going to struggle

    I'm glad <3

    I hear you on the stress - this time of year is terrible for making everyone stressed out! If it helps you feel any better, I'm not anywhere near finished with my xmas shopping either. We will get there! <3 Is anyone around to offer you help with your xmas shopping to help it feel less stressful for you? @independent_
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,596 Boards Guru
    Maia wrote: »
    Thank you for sharing this buddy @TheNightmare , you're doing very well talking about it all, I know it can't be easy <3 You're right that I do this to help young people but volunteering for work experience is just as rewarding and useful, seriously! And volunteering in a shop sounds great :)

    That sucks :( It is so sad when family argue on Christmas and it must be extra difficult because you don't necessarily have a space space you can go to where they won't bug you. How would it feel to set boundaries and ask them to not follow you, do you think they'd listen?

    Good question about NZ - I did reach out to the community team to ask what my future would look like at The Mix, they're just finding the answer for me :) Hopefully I can stay. Nothing is set in stone right now though <3

    @Maia thanks for supporting me through it all. I would hopefully just do it short term. It's just they can be hyper and stuff too. I don't think boundaries would work, it might just be better if it doesn't happen like apprently everyone will behave this year but they didn't last year and it got cut short. Hopefully you can stay though, our engagements on Friday chat threads and meeting you have made me realise what a amazing job you do like you have similar interests like sleeping in a van and different vehcles too and you're so friendly and enthusiastic so hopefully a yes. I don't see how it would be an issue for you to stay.


    Can I ask as well Will you be on with GingerEm and Leyla on Friday chat thread? Hopefully you're running it
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    @Maia dont leavee! 🥺🫶🏻❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 338 The Mix Regular
    @eylah - that sounds like a genuinely perfect birthday and I am SO proud of you for organising it this evening- birthdays can feel so overwhelming! <3 You'll have to share the Disney colouring pages with us too if that feels comfy- it sounds so cute!

    Ooo, be careful with your hip when you are skating tomorrow!
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    thankyou so much for tonight its been rly nice to chat abt my worries and christmas etc its nice having a support thread just abt christmas etc thankyou maia and ella ❤️

    yes ill make a thread abt it i havent started it yet but probs tonight i will ❤️ thankyou @ella @Maia ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    eylah wrote: »
    thankyou @Maia @ella you both are amazing rly you are thankyou for your kindness tonight ❤️

    i just find december difficult altogether bc of christmas etc but i have booked ice skating for tmr for the evening so im hoping it brings me some joy? bought myself a disney colouring book today and gel pens bc i need something to distract myself with so have done. think ima get a hot choccy tmr to as it will be cold bc of after. yeah i used to do ice skating when i didnt hurt my hip 😅❤️

    thankyou both ❤️

    You're amazing @eylah <3


    I really hope that this can bring you some joy too, you deserve some joy after the horrible year you've had <3 The disney colouring book sounds amazing! Aww, you're doing so so well Eylah, next time I see you around i'll check in with you to see how it all went? <3
  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Hey all sorry I missed beginning been at work
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    Maia wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    thankyou @Maia @ella you both are amazing rly you are thankyou for your kindness tonight ❤️

    i just find december difficult altogether bc of christmas etc but i have booked ice skating for tmr for the evening so im hoping it brings me some joy? bought myself a disney colouring book today and gel pens bc i need something to distract myself with so have done. think ima get a hot choccy tmr to as it will be cold bc of after. yeah i used to do ice skating when i didnt hurt my hip 😅❤️

    thankyou both ❤️

    You're amazing @eylah <3


    I really hope that this can bring you some joy too, you deserve some joy after the horrible year you've had <3 The disney colouring book sounds amazing! Aww, you're doing so so well Eylah, next time I see you around i'll check in with you to see how it all went? <3

    yess! thanyou so much for tonight you and ella are amazing rly you are! ❤️ thankyou all ❤️🫶🏻
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 338 The Mix Regular
    @eylah Have a lovely birthday tomorrow and don't forget to tell us all about it! <3
  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 338 The Mix Regular
    Hey @BensonE - how are you doing? So nice to see you!
    We have 10 mins left- how is your christmas going so far? :3
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    Rose113 wrote: »
    @Maia shes never shown love or anything but I’m fine with that

    Do you ever just get filled with paranoia and feel like everyone hates you and you read into everything wrong and then your left feeling unwanted….that’s me rn sorry


    Nothing will help me feel better other than Anna said that late tonight we can chat

    I hear you and i hear that you're fine with that, you shouldn't have to be, but I appreciate why you are <3

    I think there's been times where I can relate to that, for sure. Do you know why you're feeling this way? I think that, at times, when we're feeling particularly down and sad our brain makes us feel a certain way about ourselves. It's not true though, even if your brain is telling you that it is. You're so wanted in this community and you're a joy to be around, @Rose113 <3

    I really hope that your chat with Anna is helpful for you Rose. I know how much Anna means to you
  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Ella manic at work we been giving out winter shield since November
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,617 Boards Guru
    @Maia i don’t know I think my brain is just mean :(

    Yeah if I ever lost Anna I’d see no point in life
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    edited December 11
    @Maia thanks for supporting me through it all. I would hopefully just do it short term. It's just they can be hyper and stuff too. I don't think boundaries would work, it might just be better if it doesn't happen like apprently everyone will behave this year but they didn't last year and it got cut short. Hopefully you can stay though, our engagements on Friday chat threads and meeting you have made me realise what a amazing job you do like you have similar interests like sleeping in a van and different vehcles too and you're so friendly and enthusiastic so hopefully a yes. I don't see how it would be an issue for you to stay.


    Can I ask as well Will you be on with GingerEm and Leyla on Friday chat thread? Hopefully you're running it

    You're most welcome dude! It totally can be short term, the good thing about volunteering is that it's pretty much all on your terms, if you feel like it sucks, you can leave :)

    I hear you on the family thing, It's a shame that you feel like it might be better if it didn't go ahead - I can totally see why you're feeling that way though. I hope that if it does go ahead, it's a nice one for you with minimal arguments. Remember too that the discussion boards will be open 24/7 for you to reach out for some support <3
    meeting you have made me realise what a amazing job you do
    This is really lovely, thank you!! <3 We definitely do have a lot of similar interests and I always enjoy catching up with you :)

    I'm not entirely sure what the rota looks like right now but I'm pretty free over the xmas period so if ever cover is needed, I can usually hop in. I think this week you have Em and Leyla :)
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    goodnight you beautiful ppl i hope your night is filled with blessings i hope you all have a gd day tmr stay safe and eat cake 😜😂❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    eylah wrote: »
    goodnight you beautiful ppl i hope your night is filled with blessings i hope you all have a gd day tmr stay safe and eat cake 😜😂❤️

    Lots of hugs being sent your way right now @eylah . You rock <3 Be extra gentle with yourself tomororw, we will be thinking of you <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    Maia wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    goodnight you beautiful ppl i hope your night is filled with blessings i hope you all have a gd day tmr stay safe and eat cake 😜😂❤️

    Lots of hugs being sent your way right now @eylah . You rock <3 Be extra gentle with yourself tomororw, we will be thinking of you <3

    thankyou for the early birthday wishes it means a lot ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,596 Boards Guru
    Maia wrote: »
    @Maia thanks for supporting me through it all. I would hopefully just do it short term. It's just they can be hyper and stuff too. I don't think boundaries would work, it might just be better if it doesn't happen like apprently everyone will behave this year but they didn't last year and it got cut short. Hopefully you can stay though, our engagements on Friday chat threads and meeting you have made me realise what a amazing job you do like you have similar interests like sleeping in a van and different vehcles too and you're so friendly and enthusiastic so hopefully a yes. I don't see how it would be an issue for you to stay.


    Can I ask as well Will you be on with GingerEm and Leyla on Friday chat thread? Hopefully you're running it

    You're most welcome dude! It totally can be short term, the good thing about volunteering is that it's pretty much all on your terms, if you feel like it sucks, you can leave :)

    I hear you on the family thing, It's a shame that you feel like it might be better if it didn't go ahead - I can totally see why you're feeling that way though. I hope that if it does go ahead, it's a nice one for you with minimal arguments. Remember too that the discussion boards will be open 24/7 for you to reach out for some support <3
    meeting you have made me realise what a amazing job you do
    This is really lovely, thank you!! <3 We definitely do have a lot of similar interests and I always enjoy catching up with you :)

    I'm not entirely sure what the rota looks like right now but I'm pretty free over the xmas period so if ever cover is needed, I can usually hop in. I think this week you have Em and Leyla :)

    Thanks so much I'll see you 3 on Friday hopefully
  • MaiaMaia Moderator Posts: 386 Listening Ear
    Good night peeps, you've all been amazing tonight and i'm really so proud of you all <3 I hope you all find time to do something for yourself tonight - I have a vegan stew in the slow cooker i'm looking forward to eating :)<3
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