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I’m starting to think I’m the problem

Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 214 Trailblazer
I’m starting to notice how when ever I’m around my parents argue. Literally every time without fail. I don’t mean to I don’t even understand what I say mostly but I’m sick of it. What is wrong with me why do I keep making trouble

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  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,750 Boards Guru
    Lucy_21 wrote: »
    I’m starting to notice how when ever I’m around my parents argue. Literally every time without fail. I don’t mean to I don’t even understand what I say mostly but I’m sick of it. What is wrong with me why do I keep making trouble

    I can relate to this. I’ve had issues with several people too and often start thinking I’m the problem. It’s tough, but sometimes it’s not about us; things can just get tense around certain situations. You’re not the issue. Just keep being yourself, and don’t be too hard on yourself.

  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 214 Trailblazer
    @TheNightmare it’s hard when it’s a very obvious pattern
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,750 Boards Guru
    Lucy_21 wrote: »
    @TheNightmare it’s hard when it’s a very obvious pattern

    I understand, I'm always here if you need anything
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 214 Trailblazer
    @TheNightmare thank you
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,750 Boards Guru
    Lucy_21 wrote: »
    @TheNightmare thank you

    Np
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 271 The Mix Regular
    Hey @Lucy_21 thank you for your post and for updating us on your situation with your parents. I'm so, so sorry that their fighting is continuing. Honestly, it sounds so upsetting to feel so caught in the middle and to have to overhear this, and esspecially now when a part of you is wondering whether it's partly because of you. It feels really sad to think of you taking on the blame for this, and I can imagine it's a painful thought. <3

    I know it's so hard because you're trying to make sense of why this is happening and to find an explanation, but I feel myself being drawn to reassure you that your parents are the only one's who are responsible for their own actions, and they're making choices here that arn't your fault. But I recognise how hard it might be for that to feel true.

    I'm sending the biggest hug, Lucy, and just want to say that again I'm so sorry this is happening within your home and within your family. That feels so hard, and you deserve a peacful space to be.

    Keep us updated if you wish to on how the next few days feel
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 214 Trailblazer
    Thank you @Sian321 I do appreciate it. They are still at it yes but at this point I’m too tired to care I just stay in my room and let them get on with it they shut up eventually

    At this point I’m just tired of everything feeling the same like this is it and even though I’m alive it’s like my life has ended. I love my friends I really do, I don’t have many but the ones I have mean everything to me so I’m waiting for it to get better but I’m starting to think it won’t. I’m fine and safe I just feel stuck right now
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