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TheNightmare
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Earlier this week, I had a dentist appointment that I didn’t want to go to. I just didn’t want to go. Normally, when I don’t want to go to something like this, I tell my uncle I’m not going, and he either lets it go or postpones it. This time, when I refused to go, things got more heated than usual. My uncle came over to take me, and he started shouting at me to come downstairs because I made him angry. The argument got more intense. I tried to walk away, but my uncle got angrier and shouted after me. The situation kept getting worse. I still went to the dentist, but it was on my mind the whole time.
I’ve do think sometimes that maybe I frustrate or upset people more than I realize, not just my uncle but a lot of people. Sometimes I behave bad, I say inappropriate things, I do inappropriate things etc that upset people or I repeat myself, I dont understand something etc. It seems like I regularly upset people, and I’ve been thinking about my actions and how I deal with situations, and I feel like I might be causing some of the frustration. I also started to wonder if something is wrong with the way I think, maybe my brain doesn’t function right. Often and multiple times I do things that frustrate people or make things worse. I’m not sure if it’s the stress, it has been hard but the thing is, I don’t know what it is because I’ve seemed to do this even when I was less stressed.
I’ve do think sometimes that maybe I frustrate or upset people more than I realize, not just my uncle but a lot of people. Sometimes I behave bad, I say inappropriate things, I do inappropriate things etc that upset people or I repeat myself, I dont understand something etc. It seems like I regularly upset people, and I’ve been thinking about my actions and how I deal with situations, and I feel like I might be causing some of the frustration. I also started to wonder if something is wrong with the way I think, maybe my brain doesn’t function right. Often and multiple times I do things that frustrate people or make things worse. I’m not sure if it’s the stress, it has been hard but the thing is, I don’t know what it is because I’ve seemed to do this even when I was less stressed.
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Getting into arguments with people sucks, let alone people we love or care about. I can imagine this row made the dentist appointment even harder and it sounds like you've really been in your head about how you act and how those actions can affect those around you. It's positive that you're wanting to take responsibility for your actions, and I'm hearing that you'd like to change some of your behaviour. While being shouted out is never a good time and is super frustrating to be on the receiving end of, it sounds like your uncle cares about your wellbeing? I wonder if it would be possible to have a conversation with him about how you feel and talk a bit about how you wish that whole situation would have gone instead? Just a suggestion, you know your uncle best so maybe there's an alternative solution here. All the things you've mentioned about being stressed, saying inappropriate things and regularly upsetting people sounds like something to bring up in counselling or even taking some time to journal about it. Having a safe nonjudgmental space to reflect about what you've been going through can be super helpful in terms of processing your emotions and then trying to make some lasting changes.
Also, how do you manage your stress? It's important to have an outlet for that emotion. I know for me going for a run helps me manage those emotions that feel bigger than me. We're here to listen to you
@briannat Thanks for the kind words. I agree, having a calm conversation with my uncle could help clear things up. Journaling or counseling sounds like a good way to process my emotions too. I’ll try finding an outlet for stress running sounds like it could be a good fit. And thanks for the encouragement about the dentist, it definitely helped me push through!
We are really proud of you for pushing through! However, it is okay if this was still difficult for you. It is important to recognise how pushing through can make us feel conflicting feelings sometimes.
Have you been able to talk to your uncle, do some journalling, access any counselling services or try running yet? I am just wondering if you would like to share more with us about how these have been for you, if you would like to share more with us about this.
If you haven't tried these yet, it is okay and we are here to listen if you would like to share more with us about how you are feeling more generally!
Hey @Laura_tigger82 I'm ok just feeling super bored. Glad to hear you're proud of me. I have tried to actually see if the mix counselling is available but it's not, unfortunately. I'm trying to push myself to maybe seek counselling maybe from my GP but it's genuinely hard and I just don't want it to sound like I'm making excuses.
I have just recently been feeling, overwhelmed, stressed, unfulfilled etc about my job search
I have spoke about in many other threads and you're all super supportive. Thanks so much for your reply.
Not a professional but I’m just curious
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