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Worrying to an extent everyday
TheNightmare
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I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with everything at the moment. I struggle with these feelings to an extent every day and just want it to stop. It’s like every day I get up unfulfilled, worrying, and dealing with all of that, while most other people might get up to work, university, college, sixth form, school, etc. I’m just fed up with it and want to get a routine and be earning money, and I’m trying to do that. I’ve put blood, sweat, and tears into job hunting, and have been told by a few people that I’m putting in the effort, but it’s just not getting me secured in anything. I’ve had interviews and been offered jobs, but I’ve declined them for certain reasons like work hours or distance because they haven’t been ideal. I’ve just been opening up to what to commit to because I’m fed up. I would prefer to work during the day, but I’m considering other hours since I’m fully available. I’m worried it might become too much for me, but it doesn’t have to be forever, and I could find something with more suitable hours later. I’m just tired with it all, so I’m considering different hours and will have to adjust to it, which I think I should. I’m also considering temporary roles. Ideally, I want permanent work, but a temporary role, like working nights, might be ideal since it’s temporary. After the contract finishes, I could look for daytime roles. I think the experience could help me, and it would also get me some money, but I worry about being back to square one after that.
It’s tough because every day I think about my situation and worry to an extent. I worry about my future, about now—am I going to get something, am I going to get sacked (if I get something)? I’ve been scared so much about not getting something. I get thoughts like I’m a failure, just looking at myself and thinking I’m not where I should be. I compare myself to people, dwell on the past, and just feel so negative about everything. I think, will I always be unhappy? Will things ever get better? Will I reach my goals? It’s been several months now, and I’ve not secured anything. Money is a worry too. I have a few other things I worry about too. Several of these struggles I’ve had for years, like worrying about my future. When I was younger, I maybe thought I was just overly worrying, but then with not much going well and ending up out of work, it’s like I’ve proved my worries and negative thoughts right. It’s just like I hope things start turning up from here and positive things happen soon because it’s just been tough. I could have made better decisions, but moving forward, I just hope things improve.
I have had a few organizations that can support me, so I think I feel a bit better that I’ve taken those opportunities. They’ve got other opportunities, but I don’t have much yet. I went to a placement taster session but got declined from going any further, and I had another week-long course thing and got declined the job at the end. It’s just like I turned up to everything they needed and on time, put in the effort, but didn’t get anything from both opportunities. I try to be positive, but when I look at the outcome, it’s just been several months now, and I’m asking myself, why can’t I get something? This stress is not good for me. Everything just feels repetitive, and that's why I’m being repetitive. I just have this self-pressure, and I don’t know how much longer I can handle this unfulfilled routine. It’s going to come to a point after 3 years, 4 years, 5 years plus—am I ever going to get anywhere, am I going to change, will things improve? I just think that sometimes now, and it’s given me harsh thoughts. I just want things to change because it’s been a lot of time, and it’s scaring me. I feel like I’m just wasting my time in the same place, unhappy, stressed, just trying and getting nothing from it. It feels never-ending and long-lasting.
I just feel time is going fast, and people are getting ahead while I'm just at home, getting left behind. I’ve heard that the unemployment rate has been higher for a lot of people, but I don’t want to be in that situation anymore. Like most people out of work, I don’t want to stay stuck. It's just going on for so long, and it’s really getting me down. I feel there’s a lot more negative stuff about myself than positive stuff. This is all what I experience regularly. I worry about some of this every day, to an extent every day. Some days can be easier, but others, like today, have been a bit harder because I’m just overwhelmed with everything, and it comes in waves. Some parts of the day I’m fine, but other times I’m just here alone, worrying—like in bed, struggling to sleep. It happens during the day too, and I often think I’m being unconstructive because there’s not much I can do when I’m out of work. I can’t do hobbies, I apply to jobs to try to change my situation, but it hasn’t gotten me much. So, I’ve looked at organizations to help me get support.
It’s tough because every day I think about my situation and worry to an extent. I worry about my future, about now—am I going to get something, am I going to get sacked (if I get something)? I’ve been scared so much about not getting something. I get thoughts like I’m a failure, just looking at myself and thinking I’m not where I should be. I compare myself to people, dwell on the past, and just feel so negative about everything. I think, will I always be unhappy? Will things ever get better? Will I reach my goals? It’s been several months now, and I’ve not secured anything. Money is a worry too. I have a few other things I worry about too. Several of these struggles I’ve had for years, like worrying about my future. When I was younger, I maybe thought I was just overly worrying, but then with not much going well and ending up out of work, it’s like I’ve proved my worries and negative thoughts right. It’s just like I hope things start turning up from here and positive things happen soon because it’s just been tough. I could have made better decisions, but moving forward, I just hope things improve.
I have had a few organizations that can support me, so I think I feel a bit better that I’ve taken those opportunities. They’ve got other opportunities, but I don’t have much yet. I went to a placement taster session but got declined from going any further, and I had another week-long course thing and got declined the job at the end. It’s just like I turned up to everything they needed and on time, put in the effort, but didn’t get anything from both opportunities. I try to be positive, but when I look at the outcome, it’s just been several months now, and I’m asking myself, why can’t I get something? This stress is not good for me. Everything just feels repetitive, and that's why I’m being repetitive. I just have this self-pressure, and I don’t know how much longer I can handle this unfulfilled routine. It’s going to come to a point after 3 years, 4 years, 5 years plus—am I ever going to get anywhere, am I going to change, will things improve? I just think that sometimes now, and it’s given me harsh thoughts. I just want things to change because it’s been a lot of time, and it’s scaring me. I feel like I’m just wasting my time in the same place, unhappy, stressed, just trying and getting nothing from it. It feels never-ending and long-lasting.
I just feel time is going fast, and people are getting ahead while I'm just at home, getting left behind. I’ve heard that the unemployment rate has been higher for a lot of people, but I don’t want to be in that situation anymore. Like most people out of work, I don’t want to stay stuck. It's just going on for so long, and it’s really getting me down. I feel there’s a lot more negative stuff about myself than positive stuff. This is all what I experience regularly. I worry about some of this every day, to an extent every day. Some days can be easier, but others, like today, have been a bit harder because I’m just overwhelmed with everything, and it comes in waves. Some parts of the day I’m fine, but other times I’m just here alone, worrying—like in bed, struggling to sleep. It happens during the day too, and I often think I’m being unconstructive because there’s not much I can do when I’m out of work. I can’t do hobbies, I apply to jobs to try to change my situation, but it hasn’t gotten me much. So, I’ve looked at organizations to help me get support.
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It's completely understandable why this is so overwhelming, job seeking is so stressful and every application takes so much time and effort, no one can fault you for being fed up with the process
Unfortunately you might be right here, sometimes its a lot easier to find work when you're in work. But it's super important to look after yourself even if you do just take these jobs for the short term.
That must have been super tough to go through, putting in all l the effort, getting there on time and getting rejected
It is positive to hear that despite this you are still influencing the things you can control, you're still trying to put your best foot forward. That's all you can do in this situation is just try your best and give yourself credit for how hard you're trying. It takes a very resilient person to keep going in the face of rejection. It's really good to hear that you have ongoing support with this and that you're looking into support. I really believe that something will come up soon for you, especially with how hard you are trying. Don't lose sight of the determination and strength it takes to keep trying after all this time. In the mean time, the community is here for you
@Matthew_04 thanks a lot for replying to this mate and all your information. I was starting to think I'll get no replies but this is helpful so thanks a lot again
@Princesslouise02 thanks so much, hopefully something comes up for both of us. Good luck to you too.