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ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,365 Community Veteran
edited November 18 in Health & Wellbeing
Wen I come back off holiday I usually get stick right away n then the bad feelings come round and bad feelings 4eva. How I ignore ppl who dampen my mood? Or stay on the same level of happiness?
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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,668 Extreme Poster
    Hi @ellie2000,

    it sounds tough to experinece that dip to bad feelings when you return from holidays - and it's totally okay. i think quite a few people feel like coming back is like a 'return to normal' and their typical routines and miss the happiness and escape a holiday provides.

    i'd say its totally important to try and ignore people who dampen your mood - protecting how you feel is so important. there are lots of ways you could do this... whether it be surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good... or if a conversation starts to make you feel bad, finding a way to politely step away from it or change the topic. as for staying with a good level of happiness... for me i'd usually find things i enjoy doing and trying to fit them into my day. it's about finding ways that work for you!!

    Have you got any ideas as to how you can protect your energy and happiness when you feel like this? or any hobbies or things you get up to that make you happy?

    sending hugs
    Sinead
  • Sian321Sian321 Moderator, Staff Posts: 125 The Mix Convert
    edited November 18
    Hey @ellie2000 thanks so much for your post. It sounds like you've been having a hard time since getting back from your holiday, and I totally hear what you're saying about being worried these bad feelings will stay forever. I've felt the same in the past too - when you're struggling, it can be hard sometimes to believe things will ever get better again!! Is there anyone in particular who's bringing you down and making you unhappy?

    As @sinead276 said above, it sounds really natural to have a bit of a dip in your mood when you return home after a new adventure. I know quite a lot of people can get the 'post-holiday blues'. Would it feel helpful to tell us some memories from your holiday that you really enjoyed? Am I right in thinking you went to the Arctic!? That's so cool! Did you manage to see the Northern Lights in the end? They've always been on my bucket list!

    Sending you a hug, @ellie2000 , and please feel free to share more if you wanted to tell us what kind of bad feelings you're having? We're here to listen.

    <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,895 The Mix Elder
    sending you the biggest hugs ellie 🫂❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,365 Community Veteran
    @sinead276 @eylah @Sian321 I'm going to see snow :) tomorrow. In the arc circle for a week so thts gd. On cruise. Can I post pictures on here
    Hopefully it will stop at stravanger, norway 😀 wat is holiday blues?
    I keep emailing the manager wat I observe n wat could b done better. There's another meeting soon either wen I get back or next yr
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  • amy02amy02 Moderator Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    Wow your holiday sounds amazing @ellie2000 <3 Holiday blues is usually a way to describe the low feeling of getting back home after a wonderful holiday. Maybe because you're missing the holiday and are sad that it's over now.
  • Princesslouise02Princesslouise02 Posts: 86 Budding Regular
    You know what I’ve got the blues to I went riva del garda in September and I’m keep looking at the pictures all the time saying I whish i could be back but in reality you have to go back to it but hopefully you will have anthor holiday booked but i totally get what you mean by holiday blues I’ve got them now I would do anthing o be back on that plane hopefully next year ha ha
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,365 Community Veteran
    @Sian321 @sinead276 @eylah @amy02 @Princesslouise02 in the Past wen I came off holiday I was happy then one little urchin sed something and tht dampened my mood till the next one. How do u ignore ppl who u no has n impact on your mental health
    Crazy mad insane
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,365 Community Veteran
    Hopefully I'm goin to c the Northern lights. If u wanna learn about their culture 'never alone' game tell u about wat tools they use, wat they think Northern lights are and folklore of the Arctic
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  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,167 Wise Owl
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    Hopefully I'm goin to c the Northern lights. If u wanna learn about their culture 'never alone' game tell u about wat tools they use, wat they think Northern lights are and folklore of the Arctic

    Oh wow hope u enjoy visiting the northern lights @ellie2000
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  • Sian321Sian321 Moderator, Staff Posts: 125 The Mix Convert
    Hey @ellie2000 , omg what an amazing opportunity - to be in the Arctic circle and seeing the Northern Lights. That's so exciting!

    Yes, you can post photos on here if you'd like to share snaps of your holiday - I'd love to see. Just be mindful about not posting any photographs of your face to protect your confidentiality, and not posting faces of other people too :3

    Hope that helps!
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,895 The Mix Elder
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    Hopefully I'm goin to c the Northern lights. If u wanna learn about their culture 'never alone' game tell u about wat tools they use, wat they think Northern lights are and folklore of the Arctic

    have a wonderful time ellie youve gone through so much i hope youre taking time for yourself and relaxing from everything thats been going on in past. proud of you ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,895 The Mix Elder
    howre things today ellie? i hope youre well ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
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