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TheNightmare

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amy02

Hey @TheNightmare I can hear you are worried about this and I hope it's not too late to answer You are such a kind and empathetic person to be wondering how that guy must be feeling - it can definitely be a bit uncomfortable if you try to arrange things and nobody seems interested. I, like you, know what it's like to be in that sort of situation.

Perhaps if you and your friend are still interested, you could privately message that person? Maybe you could even suggest doing some other activity which is less expensive than the restaurant? As you say, it could help that person make some new friends

Let us know how it goes!

TheNightmare

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JustV

Building on what @amy02 said @TheNightmare, communication can really help in these situations. Being left to wonder why nobody is coming to your thing is rubbish, because we tend to assume it's about us and it feels awful. But with what you described above, it sounds like there could be a lot of reasons why people aren't RSVP'ing to this event.

You mentioned money (that's huge for people right now), but it may also be that they sent the information out in a way where people are unlikely to see/remember it, it may be that they don't have the right interpersonal connections in the group, maybe the timing is bad. There's a lot that might be behind the lack of interest, so exploring that with him might be helpful.

I agree with Amy though that it's incredibly kind of you to be thinking about him, and it's lovely that you can empathise with this situation and want to help him out.

TheNightmare

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