I don't want to go pub on the weekend

TheNightmare

I just don't want to go to the pub on the weekend because I just don't see the hype anymore, and it's sociable but it's not the healthiest thing to do. I have been asked to go on many occasions but haven't wanted to for the reasons above. I would do other stuff, but I don't want to go to the pub. I have been asked to go play football with a few people, and my current plan is to go home, freshen up, have a shower, and come back out in the evening to go to the pub. I'm not scared of going out or anything; I think it's just the reasons I have mentioned why I don't want to go to the pub. I think it might be stress from other things in my life like job hunting. Maybe when I get a suitable job that I'm settled in, then I might end up going to the pub again. I did used to go before lockdown and stuff a few times, but in the past few years, I didn't go anymore. I just don’t mind doing other stuff, though, like playing football with them. I'll go football at the fields football but I don't want to come back out to go pub later.

AnonymousToe

You don’t have to go! Perhaps you could come up with something you’d like to do, and then invite people to that? So you get to decide what it is

TheNightmare

AnonymousToe wrote: »

You don’t have to go! Perhaps you could come up with something you’d like to do, and then invite people to that? So you get to decide what it is

@AnonymousToe I'd rather just do the first part then just go home.

yana

FordRanger wrote: »

AnonymousToe wrote: »

You don’t have to go! Perhaps you could come up with something you’d like to do, and then invite people to that? So you get to decide what it is

@AnonymousToe I'd rather just do the first part then just go home.

thats ok then! im sure ur friends would appreciate that. and even if they don't it's ur life and ur choice. do what makes u happy and put urself firsy

TheNightmare

yana wrote: »

FordRanger wrote: »

AnonymousToe wrote: »

You don’t have to go! Perhaps you could come up with something you’d like to do, and then invite people to that? So you get to decide what it is

@AnonymousToe I'd rather just do the first part then just go home.

thats ok then! im sure ur friends would appreciate that. and even if they don't it's ur life and ur choice. do what makes u happy and put urself firsy

@yana Tbh, I've messaged that is it OK just to do the football and this guy said no the original plan was to go football in the morning, go home and come pub in the evening again to watch the United game. Might have to just make something up and say my family want to watch the football with me or I could say which is potentially true that I'm too tired to come back out for the pub part. What do you think?

sputnik

Hi @FordRanger ,
It's completely up to you what you do and how much you interact with your friends, there's nothing wrong with opting-in to playing football or whatever and then saying you're gonna head home! If they can't understand that, that's their problem - it's not kind of them to try to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do.
Also personally, I totally get why you might not want to go to the pub! Pubs are so written into our culture that it seems like a lot of people just assume everyone likes them but again, it's completely up to you and there's nothing wrong with opting out if you want to, or just going sometimes instead of every time, or whatever.

TheNightmare

sputnik wrote: »

Hi @FordRanger ,
It's completely up to you what you do and how much you interact with your friends, there's nothing wrong with opting-in to playing football or whatever and then saying you're gonna head home! If they can't understand that, that's their problem - it's not kind of them to try to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do.
Also personally, I totally get why you might not want to go to the pub! Pubs are so written into our culture that it seems like a lot of people just assume everyone likes them but again, it's completely up to you and there's nothing wrong with opting out if you want to, or just going sometimes instead of every time, or whatever.

@sputnik Hi, I thought the same too. The original plan was to meet to play football, go home to freshen up a bit and come back out to go to the pub. Yh, it's good for socialising and everything but I don't see the appeal myself atm plus it's not the healthiest thing either. My plan atm is just go football and come home then message a bit later that I'm tired or something, hoping that just works and that's the end of it.

yana

FordRanger wrote: »

yana wrote: »

FordRanger wrote: »

AnonymousToe wrote: »

You don’t have to go! Perhaps you could come up with something you’d like to do, and then invite people to that? So you get to decide what it is

@AnonymousToe I'd rather just do the first part then just go home.

thats ok then! im sure ur friends would appreciate that. and even if they don't it's ur life and ur choice. do what makes u happy and put urself firsy

@yana Tbh, I've messaged that is it OK just to do the football and this guy said no the original plan was to go football in the morning, go home and come pub in the evening again to watch the United game. Might have to just make something up and say my family want to watch the football with me or I could say which is potentially true that I'm too tired to come back out for the pub part. What do you think?

you could say either, a lof of the time i come up w excuses but i tbink they'd also understand if u just told them u weren't feeling up to it