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Cheating

I was reading this thing in a magazine today and it was an article on women cheating on their boyfriends/partners whatever. It amazed me how many women had actually cheated on them, or who were cheating on them at that very moment!

So I thought I'd post this topic and see how many girls (lads can answer too!) have cheated on their boyfriends/girlfriends. I never have, and I don't really think I would, because its been done to me and it hurts bad. But come on, I want the truth! Would you or have you done it ?
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know this is gonna sound really bad, but I think i could cheat on someone. I'm not sure i would, cos i am relatively attuned to how much it would hurt people. I guess it would be at a stage where I get bored of a relationship...i'll tell you when (and if) it happens.

    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    right, i have to admit, i have cheated before. it wasn't often...not all my b/f's. just some! shit, this really makes me look bad now. but i guess if i done it - i'll admit it. i felt real bad afterwards though. each time. sometimes the guilt will be so much i end up finishing the relationship i was in. i think cheating is just a sign that ur not right in the relationship ur in. i know i wouldn't be cheating if i knew i was with the right person. i couldn't.
    but since i have cheated more than once, i know it was just the sign i was never right.

    worse thing is, i have never been cheated upon. all my bf's were genuine, in a way i feel even worse.
    i know i probably will be cheated upon one day after me doing it more than once. don't think it'll be nice...but a taste of my own medicine i guess!! can't wait now... (sarcastic)

    stat - 55% of british men say they have been unfaithful - or would be, given the chance.
    so come on ladies...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex, I'm not sure of the full story but heres how I see it.

    Me and her have a trivial row, its her fault and so we don't speak, I'm waiting for that phone call... the "Sorry". But she never apologised to me, she always expected me to buckle first. This time I wasn't having it.
    She finally does.
    I am getting under pressure in many things, I get depressed, I start fitting, something I've never done before but it is not pleasant. She has no sympathy and shouts at me more (more pressure to see her all the time and stuff) more pressure I get worse.
    Again we don't speak (again I wait for the apology), I go into hospital, I got a bit of counciling, I get back on my feet... without her.

    I go to see her, I find out she's been going out to clubs all of a sudden shes showing me messages from guys on her phone
    "I can't stop thinking about last night", etc.

    The ring on my finger came straight off. She laughed that she'd been seeing other guys, getting loads of sex, etc. While I was in hospital! I'm sorry, I'm crying even now. (6 months later, and I feel I'm over her). She was soooo sweet, we were a perfect match, we were joined at the hip near enough! She'd never hurt me before. Then she gets moody, and shits all over me while I'm depressed and having fits. Which is why you'll occasionally see me refer to her as 'CHB' (Cold Hearted B....). Getting engaged at 16 was pretty stupid I guess... and I try to show respect for her (for who she used to be) but I avoid her. She's cool with it, she doesn't see wrong. Girls, just remember we guys have feelings emotions and stuff too... be gentle to us! (You're not all at fault I know, and it all depends on you circumstances, so don't think I'm having a go)
    Hmmm, all this sob story just to...

    *Puts up hand*
    "I was cheated on Miss Elisa!"

    Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
    I'm the rest!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would never cheat because i know how much it hurts <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    wen my ex fucking wanker fuck u, u asshole! (yes the one that features in all my posts) cheated on me, it hurt so bad, i sat in my room in the darkness listening to music 24/7 for about 2 weeks.

    Wen i got into school, i couldn't do any work, i just sat there crying. God i was such a mess. Then i stopped eating.

    Hmmm so no i'd never cheat.

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.

    [This message has been edited by Drifter (edited 07-02-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would never cheat...

    a) coz it's just not fair on the other person

    b) coz it makes life too complicated... one of my friends often has more than 1 guy on the go at once, and sometimes they phone and just say 'hi, it's me' and she has to spend half the conversation trying to figure out which one it is...

    It's something unpredictable
    But in the end is right
    I hope you had the time of your life
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    (((((((((((((insane))))))))))))

    youre right, she does sound a right CHB.

    i havent been cheated on technically, at least i dont think i have, as we'd broken up. it was a long term relationship, towards the end i had some niggles about this girl he spent all his time with (also long distance relationship.) and i guess i was a bit jealous, and i guess quite rightly so.

    2 weeks after we split up (i ended it really, was kind of a mutual thing but more me), when he should have still been getting over me, since hed repeatedly told me over the last 16 months how he couldnt cope if he lost me and how much he loved me.... he got together with this aforemetioned girl, on our anniversary. and i cried more over that than when we actually broke up, solidly on the phone for 6 hrs and then again all through the next day. so yeah, it hurts. although that wasnt so much cheating, just bad stuff.

    not going to go through all that again, i was crying over it earlier talking abut it for some reason. im over him, i dont have feelings for him anymore, i no longer want to castrate him even. i guess some things just dont go away.

    so my answer is, i wouldnt cheat, if i ever did get off with someone else whilst in a relationship, it would have to be a bit more than on the rocks, we're talking about almost totally shipwrecked here before id even consider it. it just causes too much pain, if you dont want to be with someone, end it, dont mess about with their feelings.

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have never cheated on anyone in the past and Im proud of it. Ive been trampled on so many times and everytimes it takes a little something more out of your trust in people. If u r like me and u had little trust in the first place, it really kills u when someone does this to u. However its happened so many times and Ive had my trust broken in other ways too that I no longer trust anybody and I dont think I ever will 100%. Also the way I look at it now is the majority of blokes will probably cheat on u so u may as well get in there b4 them lmao <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I wouldnt have said this b4 all the crap with the father of my baby, but I do now...treat em mean and (hopefully) keep em keen teehee.
    Anyway, Ill shut up now, excuse my moody post but Im not a happy bunny once again!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok...I did cheat on someone once <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; It was just a drunken snog, but I know thats no excuse and I did feel really guilty.

    I do think though, to make me do it that something must have been wrong (as others have said) and I must admit that looking back my choice of b/f at the time wasn't all that great. We did stay together for a while after he found out but he kept bringing it up all the time and using it against me. And there's only so many times you can apologise! Anyway, at least I didn't go on and on about the guy like he did about this girl he eventually went behind my back with..how f*cked up is that?! Maybe some of u'll think I deserved it but his was like a one-week affair that I know he'd been planning for ages, but I was too trusting to believe that he wouldn't do anything about it. argggh! Sorry about rambling but he really messed me up while we were together and only now am I learning to let out my anger, which is what I should've done at the time.

    Phew, ok I'm done now!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hey <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    After whats happened to me, cheating is the last thing on my mind! Its so stupid and hurts alot of people!When i caught my ex that broke my heart but i got over it,so now all ive got to look forward to is my baby being born <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; cant wait its gonna be so cool! So cheating doesnt solve anything! So whats the point?!
    Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always said i wouldn't, but i have. I was in a relationship for 4 years, lived with him, engaged to him, looking back we were young and stupid but learnt from it.

    His younger brother lived with us and over a period of two years, we grew apart, constant rowing, me mainly asking him when his bro was gonna move out, and why his mum dropped him the way she did, but thats another story.

    To cut it short, we weren't getting on and i was at my wits end talking to him was like talking to a wall, i felt that non of my mates or family could offer me any constructive advice so i went on the net to chat to a complete stranger. THis went on for a while, then i met him. We clicked from the start....dunno if i should say this....i aint a slag or anything, but when he dropped me off at home, we kinda let nature takes its course in the back og his car round the corner from where me and my then boyfriend lived.

    I feel like a bitch now...but when i did finally get home, i didn't feel an ounce of guilt and this made me realise i had to leave him. I didn't love him anymore. Sure i was worried that the new guy would be a one nite wonder but i guess i got lucky.

    My ex was upset when i told him to begin with, but understands why i had to look for someone else and we a best of mates now.

    So sometimes it can work out for the best. But i aint proud of it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok i hold my hands up and say

    I'm a little bitch and ive cheated on about hmm lets just say around 75% of my boyfriends <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    OMG im a anughty litte girl and im gonna get shot down for that one, but i spose with the bf's ive cheated on i dont know ive not been tight with them and its been a casual relationship and ive known they wouldnt think twice about doing it to me,

    I always admit it afterwards and i mean like the next day, or the next time i speak to them or b4 any other fucker gets the chance to tell them first,

    With my serious bf's i never cheated on them, well i did with one but he was with some other girl all the time i was with him, and yes i did love him but i cheated on him, maybe cos deep down i always knew he was doing it to me but was just holding onto him,

    i know if ur in a relationship u shouldnt cheat and if i was in love with the person i was with and they felt the same then i wouldnt do it,

    i think ive grown out of it now,

    but its safe to say im a boot and im a cheat.

    But at least i admit it n dont lie to guys about it n keep it secret so i know i do something wrong but i admit to it afterwards which is better than stringing them along.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i am ashamed to admit it but.......yes i have cheated on people in the past. it may sound like a really crap excuse (thats cos its not an excuse!) buti have been tret really shit in the past, used n shite like that.

    i suppose i did it so i hurt them before they had chance to hurt me. told u it would sound crap!

    i have been wiv my bloke for nearly a year now and in the really early stages of the relationship, i cheated on him. he found out and to this day it still puzzles me, why he didn't go mad??? well i guess that 1 will remain un answered. but i explained all what had happened and he well i would'nt say forgave me but he didnot finish me.

    i am really happy with him now and no way would i risk losig him over a drunken kiss or some fling. i know i really hurt him and "JAMIE IM SORRY!"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So have i, to the majority of my ex's but not the last one (sort of an ex, dont really know at the mo, but thats another story lol).

    Not proud of it either and didnt realise how much it hurts, in fact i was a complete and utter twat and i'm ashamed of it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. Never again. If i feel the need to go elsewhere then i'd make sure i wasnt in a relationship. I think we all feel attracted to people at certain times, even when in a relationship. But for what you gain out of a committed, trusting relationship, should and does, more than make up for not copping off when u go out etc (imo).
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