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ellie2000

how do u calm down frm seeing triggers

ellie2000

now im saying to myself and repeating 'im a b*tch' ppl call me names so often tht i believe wat they say and it sticks, y?

ellie2000

wen i mention it to someone whose support me, they say drop it, y

Former Member

im sure youre not a bitch Ellie!! if you are actually a female dog though who can type on a computer, and youre not going viral and swimming in internet money, your talent is going to waste x

something that helps me is an exercise I did in ACT called expansion, which is about making space for feelings e.g. when you're triggered, which makes them cause less trouble than trying to avoid or get rid of feelings

expansion

• scan your body for sensations
• pick the one which is troubling you the most
• breathe "into" the sensation

all while allowing the sensation to do what it's doing, not judging it just noticing, and bringing your attention back to your breathing and the sensation if you can whenever your mind wanders, and when that sensation no longer bothers you, move onto the next one and repeat until your feelings have either moved on or they're still there but you can accept them and you don't struggle with them

i hope you can do this and it helps if you're triggered or having a difficult emotion!

ellie2000 wrote: »

ppl call me names so often tht i believe wat they say and it sticks, y?

you're amazing
you're amazing
you're amazing
you're amazing
you're amazing

spoiler alert, am not actually a therapist, but i am a lot cheaper x

ellie2000

is it something called 'core beliefs'

Former Member

a core belief is like a really tightly held onto belief that can even be automatic and habitual that you wont notice sometimes without paying deliberate attention sometimes

im sorry if believing youre a bitch is one of your core beliefs my core belief is that you are awesome, to your core!!!

ellie2000

Wen I used go to music, I used to b called bitch, c*nt n many others. Thank God I'm goin Norfolk soon 😊

ellie2000

Apparently the c word is a compliment, isit?

Former Member

im sorry they called you those things!!! its not right at all, and it sounds like they were the pot calling the kettle black x

but ah good luck with the move though, I hope you love it there!!!

music itself is a great subject though, what do you play? do you find music helps?

ellie2000

i play keyboard, i play the coffin dance, and covers by apocalyptica nd nightwish. i like it

ellie2000

keyboard n music help wen i go into panic mode

awesomeminecraft6789

ellie2000 wrote: »

how do u calm down frm seeing triggers

By taking care of yourself are u ok

ellie2000

as if im actually stable haha

ellie2000

how dyu take care of yourself wat does tht mean??

awesomeminecraft6789

ellie2000 wrote: »

how dyu take care of yourself wat does tht mean??

you do things that make you feel ok looking after yourself. Do things to relax

Former Member

let yourself feel whatever you're feeling, it's okay. and then do something nice for yourself, i agree with the Minecraft guy!!!

also I'd love to have a piano, but at the mo I'm playing harmonica and ukulele but it's a cheap home bargains ukulele and playing hurts my ears 🤣

ellie2000

I played harmonica I didn't like tht scratchy sound, Silverstar one

ellie2000

Are they always in the c key

Former Member

they're not always in C!! I have a hohner though and it is in C, it sounds quite nice most of the time but I need to practice at the like 8,9,10 holes or it sounds awful haha