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How to deal with obsessive exes

awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
Hi guys


So I believe I've mentioned this before but I broke up with this girl two years ago, not the one who made me depressed but another one before that, and I said we could just be friends, we didn't talk for a while but then October, 2020 she started with this crap about like oh boo hoo Brandon (My name) isn't talking to me, what a shame. I being nice to her but she continued with this crap and it put me in a Very bad mood, I kept trying to be nice but she kept doing it EVERY time she saw me outside or in the corridor or hallway? I'm not sure what to call it since the building I do school in is quite small but anyway, it got to the point where I almost snapped at her and this has been going on for the two years, I eventually just told her straight we aren't together anymore deal with it dept I said get over it. I thought it was over cause a teacher eventually got involved and stopped it. I'm with someone else now and I'm happy to say I'm happy in this one like genuinely but today she did it again except instead of saying oh your not talking to me anymore she said oh boo hoo Brandon is sad and I told her straight I'm not because I'm not i didn't tell her I was with someone cause she doesn't need to know that, and after that I heard her say to a friend who is supposedly my friend or so he says and she said to him, we need to find another thing to say instead of that.


I walked away from that situation because I don't want anymore drama but it still annoys me a bit cause Ive moved on with my life and she hasn't I am already stressed out at the moment I don't need her adding to it I'm ok but I'm still a little annoyed tbh any ideas?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 9 Confirmed not a robot
    Hi @awesomeminecraft6789, the situation with your ex sounds like it must be stressful for you. By the sounds of it she may be having trouble moving on and you did the right thing to walk away from the situation as snapping at her may have made the situation worse. Have you thought about having a quiet conversation with her to try and figure out why she might be acting like this?
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore
  • Former MemberFormer Member A pretty deep soul 😅💕 Posts: 2,064 Boards Champion
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    Leila wrote: »
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!


    Hi @Leila


    I think your right but I don't have the same feelings for her especially now since she's been doing what she's doing and I'm with someone so do you think I should tell her that? Last time she found out about my then gf before I was depressed she did that sarcastic tone again and said oh have fun with your gf so that's the main reason I don't want her knowing


    And your very much right it isn't right what she's doing cause it is technically bullying but today I just ignored it, smiled and thought of my partner, it stopped me from getting annoyed at her and yes when she started I told her ta she said she'd speak to her but since I'm not in her class I have no ways of knowing and then when i thought it was done after a teacher got involved, she started again today, when she started, i respectfully just ignored it Nd just said hey and left it there cause I'm not looking for anymore drama because I'm happy with my partner, I'm not letting her get to me this time and hurt me because I'm happy now you get me? Talking doesn't seem to help and neither does talking to a teacher cause she keeps doing it.



    I think I'll take you guys advice and avoid her because I don't want anymore drama


  • Former MemberFormer Member A pretty deep soul 😅💕 Posts: 2,064 Boards Champion
    Leila wrote: »
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!


    Hi @Leila


    I think your right but I don't have the same feelings for her especially now since she's been doing what she's doing and I'm with someone so do you think I should tell her that? Last time she found out about my then gf before I was depressed she did that sarcastic tone again and said oh have fun with your gf so that's the main reason I don't want her knowing


    And your very much right it isn't right what she's doing cause it is technically bullying but today I just ignored it, smiled and thought of my partner, it stopped me from getting annoyed at her and yes when she started I told her ta she said she'd speak to her but since I'm not in her class I have no ways of knowing and then when i thought it was done after a teacher got involved, she started again today, when she started, i respectfully just ignored it Nd just said hey and left it there cause I'm not looking for anymore drama because I'm happy with my partner, I'm not letting her get to me this time and hurt me because I'm happy now you get me? Talking doesn't seem to help and neither does talking to a teacher cause she keeps doing it.



    I think I'll take you guys advice and avoid her because I don't want anymore drama


    Good for youuu!

    You and partner don't deserve her rubbish, and your correct you don't deserve to be bullied, we're here for you!

    Leila
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    Defo
    Leila wrote: »
    Leila wrote: »
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!


    Hi @Leila


    I think your right but I don't have the same feelings for her especially now since she's been doing what she's doing and I'm with someone so do you think I should tell her that? Last time she found out about my then gf before I was depressed she did that sarcastic tone again and said oh have fun with your gf so that's the main reason I don't want her knowing


    And your very much right it isn't right what she's doing cause it is technically bullying but today I just ignored it, smiled and thought of my partner, it stopped me from getting annoyed at her and yes when she started I told her ta she said she'd speak to her but since I'm not in her class I have no ways of knowing and then when i thought it was done after a teacher got involved, she started again today, when she started, i respectfully just ignored it Nd just said hey and left it there cause I'm not looking for anymore drama because I'm happy with my partner, I'm not letting her get to me this time and hurt me because I'm happy now you get me? Talking doesn't seem to help and neither does talking to a teacher cause she keeps doing it.



    I think I'll take you guys advice and avoid her because I don't want anymore drama


    Good for youuu!

    You and partner don't deserve her rubbish, and your correct you don't deserve to be bullied, we're here for you!

    Leila

    I just hope this all clears up when summer comes because I want a clear mind for the holidays lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member A pretty deep soul 😅💕 Posts: 2,064 Boards Champion
    Defo
    Leila wrote: »
    Leila wrote: »
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!


    Hi @Leila


    I think your right but I don't have the same feelings for her especially now since she's been doing what she's doing and I'm with someone so do you think I should tell her that? Last time she found out about my then gf before I was depressed she did that sarcastic tone again and said oh have fun with your gf so that's the main reason I don't want her knowing


    And your very much right it isn't right what she's doing cause it is technically bullying but today I just ignored it, smiled and thought of my partner, it stopped me from getting annoyed at her and yes when she started I told her ta she said she'd speak to her but since I'm not in her class I have no ways of knowing and then when i thought it was done after a teacher got involved, she started again today, when she started, i respectfully just ignored it Nd just said hey and left it there cause I'm not looking for anymore drama because I'm happy with my partner, I'm not letting her get to me this time and hurt me because I'm happy now you get me? Talking doesn't seem to help and neither does talking to a teacher cause she keeps doing it.



    I think I'll take you guys advice and avoid her because I don't want anymore drama


    Good for youuu!

    You and partner don't deserve her rubbish, and your correct you don't deserve to be bullied, we're here for you!

    Leila

    I just hope this all clears up when summer comes because I want a clear mind for the holidays lol

    Of course, got any plans?
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    Nah not much other than going to meet my partner hopefully fingers crossed and going to the city centre with my friends hbu?
  • Former MemberFormer Member A pretty deep soul 😅💕 Posts: 2,064 Boards Champion
    Defo
    Leila wrote: »
    Leila wrote: »
    No I just can't because I can't deal with people being like that And it's tried to be resolved twice I can't deal with it anymore

    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

    It seems like your ex has still got feelings for you, but maybe she is meaning mean because she likes you? It is hard to get over an ex and things are tough especially things!

    It's not nice for people to treat you badly, they do not deserve to make fun of you in any way, bullying is not OKAY and, have you told anyone about the things she's saying to you? As you don't deserve to be told things like that!

    As what @Greeny34 said, maybe you could sit down with her and talk about this things that's going on? Maybe if you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe taking time away from her might help?

    Keep talking to us,

    Hugs!


    Hi @Leila


    I think your right but I don't have the same feelings for her especially now since she's been doing what she's doing and I'm with someone so do you think I should tell her that? Last time she found out about my then gf before I was depressed she did that sarcastic tone again and said oh have fun with your gf so that's the main reason I don't want her knowing


    And your very much right it isn't right what she's doing cause it is technically bullying but today I just ignored it, smiled and thought of my partner, it stopped me from getting annoyed at her and yes when she started I told her ta she said she'd speak to her but since I'm not in her class I have no ways of knowing and then when i thought it was done after a teacher got involved, she started again today, when she started, i respectfully just ignored it Nd just said hey and left it there cause I'm not looking for anymore drama because I'm happy with my partner, I'm not letting her get to me this time and hurt me because I'm happy now you get me? Talking doesn't seem to help and neither does talking to a teacher cause she keeps doing it.



    I think I'll take you guys advice and avoid her because I don't want anymore drama


    Good for youuu!

    You and partner don't deserve her rubbish, and your correct you don't deserve to be bullied, we're here for you!

    Leila

    I just hope this all clears up when summer comes because I want a clear mind for the holidays lol

    Of course, got any plans?
    Nah not much other than going to meet my partner hopefully fingers crossed and going to the city centre with my friends hbu?

    Chilling with my puppy! Aw that's sounds nice! Going to do anything nice with her?
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    Idk yet we haven't decided where were meeting but hopefully to a nice restaurant or a park we can just chill and talk I'm not the best with dates but maybe to a restaurant and nice! Enjoy playing with your puppy
  • Former MemberFormer Member A pretty deep soul 😅💕 Posts: 2,064 Boards Champion
    Idk yet we haven't decided where were meeting but hopefully to a nice restaurant or a park we can just chill and talk I'm not the best with dates but maybe to a restaurant and nice! Enjoy playing with your puppy

    Aw bless, hugs! How's you?
  • awesomeminecraft6789awesomeminecraft6789 Deactivated Posts: 1,052 Wise Owl
    I'm ok today thx no complaints I kept my distance from my ex today and just hung with friends I took u guys advice and it really helped so thank you! ❤️
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