Effects, oh dear

ellie2000

Last week I sed about senna, I didn't say the whole lot. So...someone did me from behind. Is it usual to not sh*t afterwards. Dw it was dealt with and I'm in a different town now

Laura_tigger82

Hi @ellie2000

Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out. Please may I ask how it was dealt with and who looked after you with this? I just want to make sure you are safe and ok

ellie2000

A office came, took down notes. I told him tht I'd recover in my own time. He gave me crises numbers to ring. I called a friend to come over. He mentioned if i took it further tht it would be draining. I gave him a description n he left once my friend came

Former Member

@ellie2000 That sounds like a really distressing and traumatic experience for you. You deserve to be supported and listened to. Have you been able to speak to your GP about this incident? I understand this can be very difficult to talk about, so please don't feel like you have to, but this incident may have caused you physical trauma, and you deserve to be heard.

Laura_tigger82

Hi @ellie2000

Thanks for your response. It is okay if you do not feel comfortable sharing with them yet. I am really proud of you for speaking up though and calling your friend. Do you feel safe at the moment? Please remember we are always here for you, listening to you, and supporting you

ellie2000

R gp buildings open

Laura_tigger82

Hi @ellie2000

Thanks for your great question. I think so! Though, you would need to check with your own GP as they have different opening times. You could call to find out or visit their website and check their opening times

Ed_

Hey @ellie2000 - as others have said, it is probably worth seeking medical advice on this, it shouldn't be the case that problems like this persist. There is some info on the article here that speaks to this, in particular it says:

Will I be incontinent?
One of the biggest fears is that you’ll damage your arse muscles and constantly leak poo like a drippy tap. Not true. “The sphincters are muscles that can relax and be tightened up, and 80% of your continence (control over when you poo) is controlled by a muscle called the pubo-sling, which isn’t stretched when you’re having sex,” says Barrie.

As Laura said, if you give your GP practice a ring, they should be able to tell you if they are taking in person appointments at the moment, it may be that they have to work out whether they need to see you physically or whether they can diagnose over the phone.

It's not clear from your posts whether or not you wanted this person to have sex with you or not. Please don't feel like you need to share this with us if you don't want to, however if you didn't want it to happen, or for him to have sex with you in the way he did, then there are places that can support with that who may be experienced in the kind of issues you are having. They are called sexual assault referral centres, and you can find your local one here.

You're right that recovery can take time, and we are all here to support you if you would like to talk anything through

ellie2000

i didnt want it

Laura_tigger82

Hey @ellie2000

Thanks for letting us know how things are for you at the moment. It sounds like that is particularly tough for you. You have been really brave in telling us.

How do you feel about contacting the sexual assault referral centres mentioned by @Ed_ or other support organisations? You can also talk to us more about how you are feeling if that is something you would like and feel comfortable with.

We are always listening and you never have to deal with this or anything else alone if you don't want to

Former Member

We are here for you if you want to talk about it Ellie and support you 100% 💜 so sorry to hear that. & Ed linked to some specialists in supporting through sexual assault in case useful too

Laura_tigger82

Hey @Lucy307

Thanks for continuing to be supportive within our community. All your efforts are acknowledged and really appreciated. Really valuable! Please remember we are here for you too though if you need anything