Self and ideal self

Kate_20

Self: disgusting, unsuccessful, hurting, stupid, messy, clumsy, careless, useless, depressed, anxious, lonely
Ideal self: charming, successful, healing, smart, organised, graceful, careful, useful, happy, relaxed, popular

Former Member

Hey @Kate_20,

It sounds like you're feeling overwhelmed and hopeless right now. Do you feel able to express more about what's happened today to make you feel this way? Also, I just wanted to remind you that you're going through a lot right now, and dealing with a great deal of pain. You're doing the best you can within your circumstances, please be gentle with yourself, getting through each day when you're dealing with so much, is a really great achievement

Kate_20

@Brookee Nothing really. Just a reflection on how I view this world. It is good to notice my thinking patterns.

Former Member

@Kate_20 It's really important and helpful to be aware of how you think, but I also wanted to remind you that you're important, and we care about you, you're not alone in this. Can I ask you why you see yourself so negatively?

Laura_tigger82

Hi @Kate_20

Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out. I just want to reiterate what @Brookee has said. If it helps, we think you are all of the things you want to be except happy and relaxed! And the only thing that would boost that is if you took care of yourself and your wellbeing more often. We care about you and in time you will be happy and relaxed like you want to be

Former Member

Hi

like @Kate_20 i have struggled with my self esteem for years the list Kate wrote of the self v the ideal. I think because of this
that I have struggled with drink, drugs and unsafe sex, also the way I am treated by my dad doesn’t help.

Kate_20

@annas
Sorry to hear that you are struggling and it is very brave for you to reach out. Sending hugs Would you mind going into details about the aspects you are struggling with? Don't worry if you don't want to.