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Christmas Day Support Thread

DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,104 Legendary Poster
edited November 2021 in The subforum of Christmas Past
I know that Christmas Day can be really hard for many people for different reasons such as religious beliefs, bereavement, family relationships, eating disorders, being part of an echo chamber or loneliness. So I have decided to make this thread especially for Christmas Day in case anyone wants support with anything related to Christmas or to just chat and support other people. <3

We are all here for you.
"There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,104 Legendary Poster
    edited December 2020
    Here are some articles that might help.

    https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/family-life/ambassador-voices-leaving-your-echo-chamber-38699.html

    https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/gender-and-sexuality/ambassador-voices-how-to-cope-at-christmas-as-a-young-lgbtqia-person-39008.html
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    edited December 2020
    Thank you for making this thread Dancer

    Hope you’re okay?
    Post edited by Siena on
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    How is everyone? 
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,104 Legendary Poster
    Dreading Christmas Dinner because of all the food and there will be a lot of pressure for me to eat and I struggle with finding the motivation to eat a lot. And my dad isn't in the Christmas mood so that makes me sad. I got nice Christmas presents. 
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    edited December 2020
    Hugs Dancer <3 I understand the pressure of eating. I’m struggling to breath from the stress:(

    You’re doing well x
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    That sounds really tough @Dancer .. I hope that dinner is at least a little enjoyable. You do whatever you feel comfortable with :) Glad you got nice presents!

    Ive got mixed feelings about today tbh, my parents left early this morning to go to my aunts (I refused to go because she’s got covid🙄) so I’ve been home alone today. Kind of wishing I went but also keep reminding myself that I did the right thing by staying home. Feeling kinda lonely but played some games with our @Eleanor so that’s nice 😁 plus my parents have said we will celebrate Christmas on Easter so I still have a little Christmas to look forward  to I suppose!  

    How are you @Shaunie , how’s your Christmas Day going? 
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    Ps. Big hugs to those who want them or need them or just fancy a hug 😁🤗
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Hugs @Liam
    remeber its okay if you feel down today. <3 it’s nice you have something to look forward to!

    im ok just struggling to breath cause food. 
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member ☕🌻☕ Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Bless ya Liam. We are here for you! Glad to hear you played some games! Got anything else planned?
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    Aww cheers guys!  I don’t feel down as such. I just hate being alone 😂

    my morning started with watching toy story and now I’m just playing games on the laptop whilst listening to a toy story playlist. It makes the games feel super dramatic lol 😝 

    Ahhh Shaunie, I’m sorry pal. That sounds so difficult. Is there anything that can help breathing feel easier? Any grounding techniques? You’ve got this buddy ❤️

    Thank you @Greentea, I appreciate you, friend ❤️ Hope you’re having a great day!!??
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    Hey dancer this is lovely thread. I’m sorry today sounds really stressful just know we’re all here for you  <3

    Hope everyone is doing ok, but if not just know we’re all here for you. If you’re having a rough time you don’t have to go through it alone. Always happy to listen  :)


  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,104 Legendary Poster
    Thank you. I will try and be brave and not let my worries and thoughts completely take over. 
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    Merry Christmas everyone!! 🎄🎄😃😃

    How are we all today?
  • Former MemberFormer Member ☕🌻☕ Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Liam said:
    Aww cheers guys!  I don’t feel down as such. I just hate being alone 😂

    my morning started with watching toy story and now I’m just playing games on the laptop whilst listening to a toy story playlist. It makes the games feel super dramatic lol 😝 

    Ahhh Shaunie, I’m sorry pal. That sounds so difficult. Is there anything that can help breathing feel easier? Any grounding techniques? You’ve got this buddy ❤️

    Thank you @Greentea, I appreciate you, friend ❤️ Hope you’re having a great day!!??


    I'm ok, it's ok, just setting up the VR set and ima treat myself to a new switch later too. Just kinda feeling distant at the moment
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    edited September 18
    I’m ok. Merry Christmas!

    How are you doing @Past User ?

    Dancer don’t put too much pressure on yourself, make sure you do what’s best for you and remember we’re always here.  <3

    Also @Liam I know it may not feel like it right now but you did the right thing. You know we’re here if you need anything, and Christmas on Easter sounds really nice, it’s definitely good to have something to look forward to. 
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    All good here, bit different for sure but still a lovely Christmas had a nice day and look forward to chilling lol 

    Sending hugs to all who need em you got this ❤️
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,040 Supreme Poster
    sending big hugs to anyone who needs or even just wants them. TODAY doesn't have to be perfect <3 
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    I feel so low
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    Hey @Shaunie big hugs, here if you need anything  <3
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,040 Supreme Poster
    Hey @Shaunie, I’m so sorry you’re feeling low, I know technically it isn’t Christmas Day anymore but I’ll be around for bit if you want to chat here or anywhere else. This isnt an easy time of year for everyone <3 
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sending hugs to everyone :heart:

    Hope your all doing okay :heart:
  • Lauren223Lauren223 Staff Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    Just want to echo what has already been said, massive hugs to everyone <3

    @Shaunie sorry to hear that yesterday you were feeling low, it's never an easy feeling to have! When you feel the way you do, is there anything that might help? When I feel low, I write in my journal, then put it away and go play sims 4.

    Hugs all round today <3
  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,104 Legendary Poster
    Yesterday was quite hard for me. My parents argued which made me feel sad and like it is my fault.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • Former MemberFormer Member ☕🌻☕ Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Boxing day just isn't the same this year.

    I also really miss my dad.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Obnoxiously Large Anchor Posts: 1,201 Wise Owl
    Haven't really been active much recently, logged in a few times but not felt the motivation to do anything. 

    Christmas was shite, my bf got drunk super early and got really unwell with it so slept like all day, I felt proper put of place, had to go to my dad's parents house alone which was nice and awkward at the same time. They made me video call my dad which was literally the worst. 

    When I came back my bfs dad forgot to get the veggie stock for my soup so all I had was potatoes (and parsnips which I'm not the biggest fan of). 

    I felt really awkward without my bf there, I couldn't see my mum and her parents like I normally do and I just felt really alone. 

    My bfs family are drinkers at Christmas and very singy and dancy which just isn't me. I just awkwardly sat in the corner or in the bathroom. I feel like I didn't get noticed much either. I just felt proper invisible. 

    I didn't have anyone to talk to throughout the day and even though there was people in the house I just felt incredibly alone. 

    I feel bad for complaining, it was just a horrible day though :/ usually I really enjoy Christmas and tbh I just want to cry. 

    Today was pretty shitty too tbh. 

    My bf was very apologetic about it. I've told him I had a good day because I don't want him thinking he ruined Christmas. I've just had to keep it all to myself and I don't wanna put a downer on anything. 

    I feel like I shouldn't even be complaining because my bfs family care about me and my family do too and so many people don't have that. I got nice gifts. It just feels like I don't care if I get gifts, I just want to have a nice day with the family and it just really didn't happen like that. 

    I'm sorry to put a downer on everything and I hope everyone had a good day :) 
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,040 Supreme Poster
    You’re not putting a downer on anything @Anch0r33 that’s what this thread is for. I’m sorry to hear that christmas was a shit day for you, remember that it’s only one day out of lots in the year and it doesn’t have to be perfect <3 
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • boaboa Moderator, Staff Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    edited December 2020

    Hi  Anch0r33, 

    Thank you for sharing your experience of Christmas with us, the community is here for you    <3 .  I am sorry to hear you felt alone even though you were with your bfs family and did not enjoy your Christmas.

    To me your post does not sound like a complaint, you are just sharing your feelings with us which is positive in itself. I can really relate to your post as I shared similar feelings to yours in the past when I was with my bfs family. As Independent said : It is only one day out of lots  and it doesn’t have to be perfect. 


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