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I don't know how to help a friend

GreenTeaGreenTea ☕🌻☕MidlandsPosts: 9,118 Supreme Poster
Hello

I'm feeling very stuck at what to do, I have a friend, she's a mum of 2, split from partner. He's very controlling and manipulative. Last night I was with my friend and he would not leave her alone, sending her messages, being unkind and just..it's something going on for a while.
There's lots of other stuff too but not my place to say.

I keep telling my friend to stand her group with him, when she asks for space, stand her ground and ensure space happens, stand her ground. I've told her always here for her if she needs me. There's been times I've had to take her kids to keep them safe.

Am I doing the right thing by just being there when she needs me and encouraging her to stick to what she says and stand her ground?

The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal.     

Astrid Alauda

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  • GreenTeaGreenTea ☕🌻☕ MidlandsPosts: 9,118 Supreme Poster
    If anyone knows any good reources that support woman who have come out of domestic abuse relationships but still.. involved in with that person..that would be much appr

    The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal.     

    Astrid Alauda

  • coc0maccoc0mac Posts: 596 Incredible Poster
    You sound like you're being a very supportive friend so, in my books, that's alway the right thing to do :heart:

    I have found this page with a bunch of links to women's helplines here. I don't think it matters at all if she is out of the relationship or not - she is still being affected by abusive behaviour so I am sure they will be more than happy to support her. 

    I really hope everything improves soon, take good care both of you :heart:
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 813 Part of The Mix Family
    GreenTea said:
    If anyone knows any good reources that support woman who have come out of domestic abuse relationships but still.. involved in with that person..that would be much appr
    https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
    I’ve heard good things about women’s aid. You clearly care about her so much, all you can do is be there for her and you’re doing just that. Hope you’re ok 💜
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
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