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I don't know how to help a friend
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Hello
I'm feeling very stuck at what to do, I have a friend, she's a mum of 2, split from partner. He's very controlling and manipulative. Last night I was with my friend and he would not leave her alone, sending her messages, being unkind and just..it's something going on for a while.
There's lots of other stuff too but not my place to say.
I keep telling my friend to stand her group with him, when she asks for space, stand her ground and ensure space happens, stand her ground. I've told her always here for her if she needs me. There's been times I've had to take her kids to keep them safe.
Am I doing the right thing by just being there when she needs me and encouraging her to stick to what she says and stand her ground?
I'm feeling very stuck at what to do, I have a friend, she's a mum of 2, split from partner. He's very controlling and manipulative. Last night I was with my friend and he would not leave her alone, sending her messages, being unkind and just..it's something going on for a while.
There's lots of other stuff too but not my place to say.
I keep telling my friend to stand her group with him, when she asks for space, stand her ground and ensure space happens, stand her ground. I've told her always here for her if she needs me. There's been times I've had to take her kids to keep them safe.
Am I doing the right thing by just being there when she needs me and encouraging her to stick to what she says and stand her ground?
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I have found this page with a bunch of links to women's helplines here. I don't think it matters at all if she is out of the relationship or not - she is still being affected by abusive behaviour so I am sure they will be more than happy to support her.
I really hope everything improves soon, take good care both of you