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Feeling really sad and alone
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I was fine until this evening but over the last couple of hours I've been feeling really sad and helpless and it's getting hard not to think things about myself like "I'm ugly", "everyone hates me" etc. Also it feels like lots of people in my life are ghosting/ignoring me online and I'm probably overthinking- in fact this cute person I've been messaging with FINALLY picked up where our conversation left off again, so I guess they didn't get bored of me they were just busy or something lol. So I feel a little better now but still really sad and still a lot of self-doubt etc going on here : (
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It sounds from your post that you're struggling a lot with negative thoughts about yourself, which can be a real struggle, and I'm sending you lots of hugs
What sort of support network do you have around you in terms of friends/family? Is there anyone that you would feel comfortable speaking to about how you're feeling at the moment?
There are lots of things you can do to improve your self esteem - finding evidence to disprove the negative thought can be a really great way to change how much you believe in them, as you have done with the cute person messaging you back (and that is great news by the way, wishing you the best of luck with them!)
Other things that can help with low self esteem include exercise (not only will you improve your fitness but it will also release endorphins which improve your mood), helping others (which can be anything from doing the dishes to signing petitions for campaigns), or taking up a new hobby (lockdown is a great time to do something new such as a music, crafts or reading).
I also just want to say that you are not alone with how you're feeling, especially during this pandemic, but if you ever feel like these thoughts are majorly effecting your life, you can always talk to your GP or The Mix helpline (08088084994)
Sending you hugs - I think @Past User's advice is spot on.
I just wanted to add a couple of links for some self-love ideas:
https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/body-image-and-self-esteem/building-self-esteem-5940.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/your-body/appearance/why-we-all-need-more-body-kindness-in-our-lives-32249.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/looking-after-yourself/being-positive-6284.html
I think it's so easy to beat ourselves up and worry about what others think of us - hopefully some of these articles might help you focus on loving and appreciating yourself and the wonderful person that you are
Welcome to the boards! Sending big hugs your way
I'd like to echo everything @Past User and @Past User have said - totally agree.
I am also wondering how long you have been feeling this way for? I know in your post you said it had been a difficult few hours, but I'm just wondering whether you have had these thoughts before?
Take good care - we are all here for you
In answer to the question- yeah, I have had thoughts like that before, but it's not usually that bad. It's hard to block them out completely though, and every once in a while I have a bit of a downward spiral I guess you could call it. I had to leave another post about an hour ago because I "relapsed" a bit tbh. Body image stuff. I'm going to read the links @Past User posted when I have time. Thanks again
there is always reasons why people ghost online and it’s mostly cause they’re either busy or they’re struggling mentally too. I ghost most people online because it’s just overwhelming for me. People probs think I’m rude but yeah is what it is. It’s probably nothing to do with you