Keeping secrets

Former Member

Hi

I've been keeping a huge secret from my family for 8 years now. It explains why I act the way I do, why I slept for 4 months and why I am not going to school.

Everyone keeps pushing me to tell them. But what would that do? The only positive I can think of is that it explains my behaviour. But my parents will get angry at the situation, have all kinds of emotions, treat me like I'm fragile. I'll constantly be focused on wether they ask me about it if I go downstairs. I'll be reminded of everything that happend when I see them.

What is your take on this? Would you tell them or keep it to yourself?

Azziman

Hey

I think that if it's playing on your mind, you should express it in some way. That could be writing down in a diary, talking to a counsellor, recording yourself talking about it etc. But keeping it in without any outlet will only keep it ruminating in your mindx

Much love

Former Member

heey
honestly its hard to tell you what to do, I have a secret too, although not much of a secret anymore... my family/friends and team know. my dad and sister I regret telling as they bring it up every chance they get and it just makes me feel worse .. but telling my team was the best decision I ever made, they put in support for me to help me.
I don't know what your secret is, but maybe calling/texting a helpline could help? like telling a total stanger, I felt such a weight being lifted off me when I told someone, like it was out there and it felt much easier to open up about it to others after I had told that one person

as @Azziman said writing it down could be helpful aswell, it helped me … if you hold onto it for too long it will eat you up inside so I think it's a good idea to tell someone, but I don't know who that someone would be 

Siena

heyy. 

Its totally up to you on whether you tell them or not and can help to think about how they would react compared to how you feel with keeping the secret. If that makes sense. 

We are here to listening nonudgementally if you wanted to share it here

Former Member

Thanks guys

@Past User That's exactly what I'm afraid of; that they will bring it up everytime I see them. Or when they don't, the fear will still be there

I told some friends and said it to strangers multiple times. I also wrote it down, it really helped to get it out as you said. But almost everyone I tell says that I owe it to my family that they know. How do I owe them anything? I don't understand

@Shaunie Yeah I think I get it, like seeing how both options would turn out? I have some sort of idea but I think getting some more views on it will be helpful. Kind of a big decision you can't get back from.
I was abused and someone almost took my life. It's kinda surreal to think back. I've been dealing with the situations for so long on my own now, I'm getting the urge to talk about it. But everytime I bring it up with friends they don't listen.