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About life
ellie2000
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Is life about talking to people.
Crazy mad insane
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Life can be about lots of things - there is no wrong or right answer
Is there anything on your mind that is making you think this?
It's tricky to know who is good or who is bad isn't it?
Often things are not as black and white as this, many people are both good and bad. What has caused you to think about this?
There are often many reasons why people bully, their parents could be one of those reasons or they may not have had any impact in this behaviour.
If you have found people your age to be bullies, perhaps having a little read of this article about bullying might help you explore your feelings towards it more?
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/expert-chat-bullying-15348.html
Sending hugs
Happy Birthday!
Lashing out completely normal especially if you hold it in. It's like the water bottle analogy (https://www.augustman.com/sg/wellness/fitness/long-reads-mental-health-water-bottle-analogy/ long read but essentially is this quote) “Imagine your mental health as a bottle. The stressors of everyday life is water that you pour in – work issues, family, girlfriend, finances, and what have you. Now, imagine that you have little holes at the bottom of the bottle. These are de-stressors – a good support network of friends, family, or maybe you do sports, or just that you compartmentalise well. All of this stops the bottle from running over. Now, imagine someone else whose bottle is smaller, might have had trauma growing up, may not have friends or family to talk to. There aren’t holes at the bottom or the holes are too small. That bottle is going to overflow”.
But life doesn't have to be about talking to people. It can be a part of it but there is so much more than that. It can be hard to have friends especially at a young age, I've always struggled making friends and it really took a toll on me, but whenever I start feeling sad about it, I'd think "I am still young. I have my whole life ahead of me. I will have friends. I will be happy" which helps.
Its okay if you lashed out. Maybe you could find ways to express your feelings so you dont have to hold it in or let it build up until you lash out?
i can hear the affect of bullying has had on you. I think that can make us feel threatened by certain people but not everyone is bad. Lots of many kind people out there so hope can meet them cause deserve to be treated with kindness too
happy birthday for yesterday. Hope you enjoyed it!