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self harm

ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 30 Cool Newbie
edited December 2018 in Health & Wellbeing
I harmed myself Wednesday, nd therapy is on a break. how do I be happy infront of family when everythings not ok. 

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kathleen0172Laine

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  • kathleen0172kathleen0172 UKPosts: 283 Rampant Poster

    Hey @ellie2000


    I'm sorry for what you're going through:( Do you want to talk more about how you're feeling? If comfortable answering, is there any particular reason you want to be happy in front of your family (tell me if I've misunderstood)?


    Much love <3


  • LaineLaine Horse hugger Posts: 1,123 Fanatical Poster
    Echoing what Kathleen said.
    If you want to talk about it we're here to help you further with this(if comfortable) x

    We're here for you, sending hugs ❤

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 


    "So wake me up when it's all over, when I'm wiser and I'm older" ~ Avicii

    "
    All I do is sit and think about you If I choose then I lose.
    Distract my brain from the terrible news
    It's not living if it's not with you" ~ The 1975

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 4,861 Supreme Poster
    hey,

    Just wanted to pop on to see how you are doing today?

    Sorry to hear how you've been feeling, we are always here for you :heart:


    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 30 Cool Newbie
    To smile and laugh. No sadness at Christmas
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 30 Cool Newbie
    edited December 2018
    Should I show mum I harmed myself or not
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 4,861 Supreme Poster
    edited December 2018
    hey,

    Does your mum know about your self-harm? Are you close? I think you have to be ready to show her that you have harmed, it has to be up too you to make that decision. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this. :heart: 
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
  • kathleen0172kathleen0172 UKPosts: 283 Rampant Poster
    ellie2000 said:
    To smile and laugh. No sadness at Christmas

    Hm:(


    About showing your mum, guess it depends on how you feel. Do you trust her and feel comfortable enough to do so? I think that it would be a good idea if you do. It may help a bit. Certainly showing someone you can trust may bring some relief. It's up to you <3


    Again, feel free to talk about your feelings, I'd like to understand your situation more, but there's no pressure of course.


  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 30 Cool Newbie
    After I stopped the bleeding, i phoned mum And I mentioned a person who encouraged someone to rape me. Do police officers take sides coz I think they take sides of the one who has done the damage :(
  • Millie2787Millie2787 WorcestershirePosts: 715 Incredible Poster
    Hi Ellie 

    Sending you huge hugs , were all here for you 💖
    Aimee x
    Sometimes in our lives we all have pain,We all have sorrow, But if we are wise, We know that there's always tomorrow.
  • kathleen0172kathleen0172 UKPosts: 283 Rampant Poster
    ellie2000 said:
    After I stopped the bleeding, i phoned mum And I mentioned a person who encouraged someone to rape me. Do police officers take sides coz I think they take sides of the one who has done the damage :(

    So sorry to hear that happened bud <3 I know there's some crap ones out there, but any good police officers would take that seriously I think. And if haven't told police it's worth trying when ready.


  • LaineLaine Horse hugger Posts: 1,123 Fanatical Poster
    edited December 2018
    Sorry to hear this Ellie.

    Echoing what Kathleen said there are good ones out there. 
    Police officers don't take sides they do what's right so don't worry they won't take the side of the person who did any damage :)

    It's positive you managed to tell your mum about it, did she react okay? Xo

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 


    "So wake me up when it's all over, when I'm wiser and I'm older" ~ Avicii

    "
    All I do is sit and think about you If I choose then I lose.
    Distract my brain from the terrible news
    It's not living if it's not with you" ~ The 1975

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 420 Rampant Poster

    Hey @ellie2000


    How are you feeling today? If you want to speak to us any more about what you're going through, please feel free to post again - we're all here for you. <3


    - Lucy

    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • Millie2787Millie2787 WorcestershirePosts: 715 Incredible Poster
    edited December 2018
    Hey 👋🏻 

    take a look at the rainbow journal - you can either buy it or request it free if your under the age of 18 - it’s a lovely book with pages to draw or write with lines - with pictures and poems written by other young people - you use it when you get the self harm urges as a type of distraction 

    I’ve also been told to hold ice in the hand by my CAMHS worker she said it creates the pain  but doesn’t leave any scars or anything - also elastic bands around the wrist to ping when you get the urges x

    Stay strong 💙
    Sometimes in our lives we all have pain,We all have sorrow, But if we are wise, We know that there's always tomorrow.
  • AuroraAurora Part of the furniture Posts: 11,712 Part of the furniture
    ellie2000 said:
    I harmed myself Wednesday, nd therapy is on a break. how do I be happy infront of family when everythings not ok. 

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    Hello Ellie, 

    How are you doing today? I'm sorry to hear how rough things have been, exspecially around self harm, you mentioned that you were thinking about showing your mum the self harm, is your mum aware of your self harm, do you feel able to talk to her about whats been going on for you at the moment? 

    Police officers don't take sides though, I can assure you, you're the victim here. TheMix have loades of resources on rape, and stories from other people you might want to look up, A good story to read is from Laura, who shares finding hope after sexual violance (https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/there-can-be-hope-after-sexual-violence-29083.html) - Keep us updated on how things are going for you, and remember, were always here for you. 

    Best wishes, 
    Aurora
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 2,933 Mega Poster
    Hey.
    Know has been a while since last posted but wanted to give my support and hope you’re doing okay today. Police don’t take sides. I hope the police will be able to help you. 

    Take care
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton 🌸🌸
  • AdamAdam Posts: 13 Moderator
    Hey @ellie2000 ,

    Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time like this! t's so brave of you to reach out to us :heart:

    As Shaunie said, police are unbiased and are looking to assist/resolve in issues that may cause citizens distress. Hopefully they will be able to look into your case and provide a reasonable solution :smile:

    If you need someone to talk to, The Mix helpline is great way to get things off your chest and will help in guiding you towards the support you need. Alternatively there is 1-2-1 chat where you can talk to one of team if you do not like talking over the phone :smile:

    Hopefully this helps and I hope all is okay :smile:

    --------
    Adam
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