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My fitness goals

AidanAidan Clever idiotPosts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
edited October 2018 in Health & Wellbeing
Hey everyone,

For a while now, it's been my goal to get fitter; I've been overweight or obese for most of my life, and it would mean a lot to me to know that I can overcome something so tough that's persisted so long.

There are a few reasons it hasn't happened already, like not having the time and being easily distracted, and honestly, just not being convicted enough- and just settling for small victories and then doing nothing with them. There have been many times I have set out to start losing weight, and only gotten so far before I lost sight of my goals, thought them unrealistic, and given up. I feel I need encouragement, and more confidence in myself, to make next time the last time.

I know losing weight isn't all fitness entails, and someone an okay weight can still be unhealthy, but it's a start since my current weight means any exercise but low intensity exercise (walking or swimming, basically) could damage my body.

I have a target weight, it is by no means a perfect weight or what I want or expect to stay at- but it is when I'd feel more confident in safely starting higher intensity and more interesting exercise. I should look better at this weight too- my appearance is what sometimes keep me from going outside and being more confident.

Better appearance and confidence would open up for me the outdoors, which is often very public and currently uncomfortable for me, and would give me more opportunities for fitness, but most importantly, fun. The low-calorie diet and low-intensity exercise regime can get boring, and I couldn't imagine being happy with making it my lifestyle- because ultimately, diets don't work forever, I need to find something that I can live with for the rest of my life that keeps me healthy and I enjoy.

Outdoor things like hiking, cycling, dog walking, swimming, sports etc. would be enjoyable and something I could do with others and get me more sociable. I really feel that there's a lot of me that is flawed because of my fitness, and my fitness is victim to a lot of my flaws- and fixing one of them could help me fix them all. 

I was wondering if anyone would be interested in hearing about the progress I make, or getting updates about this? I would love if maybe some 'if I can do it, you can too' type of posts would be helpful or even motivational to somebody else, and this is something that's important to me- but still not something I'd want to pester or annoy anyone with.

I've been careful to not mention specific weights, calories, BMIs etc. and this would continue, and I'm measuring my progress by things more meaningful than just numbers on a scale.

I hope this is something that people wouldn't mind having on the boards, seeing as to me it's something that is currently missing as physical health is often overlooked, when it is just as important as (and ties in with and helps) mental health.

Thanks for reading!
Aidan (:


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Comments

  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Posts: 1,324 Fanatical Poster
    Motivation is a good start it can help encourage you to complete your goal and without it then it would be hard. 

    That's not saying it won't still be hard,  it was for me a few years ago but it is achievable.

    I think logging your progress may be helpful and I'd love to hear about it :)

    Always here to try and support you x

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 

    "Maybe it's not my weekend,  but it's gonna be my year" ~ All Time Low

    "No one else is dealing with your demons, meaning maybe defeating them could be the beginning of your meaning friend" ~ TOP

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Laine said:
    Motivation is a good start it can help encourage you to complete your goal and without it then it would be hard. 

    That's not saying it won't still be hard,  it was for me a few years ago but it is achievable.

    I think logging your progress may be helpful and I'd love to hear about it :)

    Always here to try and support you x
    I'm motivated now, but on my off days, or when progress is slow, my motivation can wear really thin.

    Thanks for the support, this is something I've failed at so many times so any support means a lot to me! And it's great to hear that you'd like updates, I'll be sure to keep you guys posted if it means anything to you

    Thanks (:
    Laine
  • Ed_Ed_ Posts: 90 Staff Moderator
    edited November 2018
    Hey @Aidan

    Definitely keen to hear how you get on with this. Thanks for being so mindful about how these topics can inadvertently be difficult for others.

    Aidan said:
    I'm measuring my progress by things more meaningful than just numbers on a scale.

    I hope this is something that people wouldn't mind having on the boards, seeing as to me it's something that is currently missing as physical health is often overlooked, when it is just as important as (and ties in with and helps) mental health.
    Super interested in how you are thinking of the other benefits rather than just the numbers. How are you measuring these types of progress?

    Exercise can certainly help with the mind, have you thought of how you can keep track of the mental benefits? Perhaps this is a way of gaining motivation at those times when it feels tough? 

    Also, perhaps this is a different thread, but is there interest in pulling together a community playlist for motivating, whether it is exercising or anything else.

    Keep us updated :3

    Ed
    “Sometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine.” 
    ― Alan Turing
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    edited November 2018
    Hey @Ed_ thanks for the encouragement and the support!

    I think for some people the goal can be a specific weight, and that's bogged me down before too. It's not a weight that would make me happy, but simple things that are easy to take for granted, like having the energy to just move, not having back and knee pain, being able to participate in outdoorsy stuff and sports with friends, those kind of things.

    Having a goal as a weight, and measuring your progress by seeing your decrease in weight, can be a bit empty and has felt so for me. (I think I've said before that it's important to recognise that your health is more your weight, and it's great more and more people are seeing that) The bigger differences are the ones that come slowly, like better health as you get older, effects that you don't feel immediately and that you aren't rewarded with quickly.

    In terms of progress, for me I think confidence in myself, going out more- and generally watching as my health holds me back from life less and less, are what I'll focus on, is the progress I think is the most important to myself.

    Thanks (:
    Aidan
    Laine
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Halloween hasn't gone as bad as I thought it might have, but it could still have gone better.

    We had a load of sweets left over and having withdrawn from sugary snacks only recently it was predictable that I'd have more than just a few. After that though, I haven't had any more and I'm not going to.

    I'm grateful that I found some willpower in the end after reminding myself what I'm doing this for, and I haven't undone my hard work too much and I still feel motivated moving forward! (:
    LaineShaunie
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    edited November 2018
    I've come up with a list of times when I'm particularly prone to acting on cravings, particularly when I'm shopping or when I'm in the kitchen.

    I'm going to work on making lists for shopping and sticking to them (not just uncontrollably buying what I want at the time) and making sure I keep occupied and just, not bored, to keep me in the kitchen only when I need to be there.
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 5,222 The Mix Elder
    Hey @Aidan

    i think you have a great mind set & goals for this  but i still just wanted to wish you all the best for it. Thinking about all the positive health benefits as well - sounds really motivational. Hope you find ways to stay motivated

    We are all supporting you. So Maybe you could keep us all updated if that helps :)

    The moon taught me: its okay to go through phases. 🌙 The sun taught me : no matter how many times you go down, keep rising🌤
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Thank you @Shaunie

    I'm trying my best to embrace my mistakes and work on them, instead of losing hope and spiralling into a 'it's pointless' train of thought again.

    Thanks for the show of support (: 
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    I've never been so conscious of what I'm eating, this is such a big step for me as unconscious uncontrollable snacking was a big issue for me.
    Laine
  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Posts: 1,324 Fanatical Poster
    Just checking in to offer some encouragement! Keep it up xo

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 

    "Maybe it's not my weekend,  but it's gonna be my year" ~ All Time Low

    "No one else is dealing with your demons, meaning maybe defeating them could be the beginning of your meaning friend" ~ TOP

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille
    Aidan
  • Ed_Ed_ Posts: 90 Staff Moderator
    Aidan said:
    I've never been so conscious of what I'm eating, this is such a big step for me as unconscious uncontrollable snacking was a big issue for me.
    Hey @Aidan

    How is everything going with your goals? Sounds like this was a big breakthrough for you personally :)

    Perhaps it is also worth remembering that a 'progress, not perfection' mindset can be healthy. Even when you have a setback, it doesn't undo everything. There will always be days when we have a need for more comforting food or snacks, and that doesn't make it unhealthy, or undo any of the work you have been doing. There is some really useful info on this article about balance when it comes to our relationship with food

    Take care,

    Ed
    “Sometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine.” 
    ― Alan Turing
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Hi Ed,

    Thanks for checking in, it's not been flawless so far but it has been positive and I've learned a lot from past mistakes about what works and what doesn't. I'm about 1/5th of the way towards my current weight goal- the one that is by no means final but is one where exercise would be a lot safer and less painful, although I am getting outside and playing football with a few mates and neighbours every now and again!

    As I said,
    I'm trying my best to embrace my mistakes and work on them
    and I absolutely get what you say and ultimately it's about striking a balance- an example for me is that I don't outright ban takeaways (because they are something I still want in my life), but I do have them less often and in smaller portions, and in a way that's made them more special and more of a treat so the balance is working!

    I'll check that page out, and again thanks for the support! (:

    Aidan
  • AzzimanAzziman Posts: 465 Rampant Poster
    Hey Aidan,

    You're doing great - keep up the great work! We're all rooting for youx

    Much love <3
    Aidan
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 588 Extreme Poster
    Well done and keep going, @Aidan! This is great inspiration for the rest of us, thank you for sharing <3
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    edited November 2018
    Thank you for all for the support and kind words! @Laine @Azziman @Lucy307
    I hope you're doing well (:
    Laine
  • Millie2787Millie2787 Posts: 1,909 Postholic
    Wooo go Aidan you have so much more motivation than me a i need to start getting back into going swimming 🏊‍♀️ 
    You have a purpose.
    Aidan
  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Posts: 1,324 Fanatical Poster
    While you've taken on the challenge of getting fit  I've decided to join you not in physically getting fit but more mentally, and just getting out more(i'm terrifies to leave the house in winter 😂 and that's serious)  keep it up, you're doing wonderful! X

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 

    "Maybe it's not my weekend,  but it's gonna be my year" ~ All Time Low

    "No one else is dealing with your demons, meaning maybe defeating them could be the beginning of your meaning friend" ~ TOP

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille
    Millie2787
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 5,222 The Mix Elder
    Glad youre trying to find the balance! Think also important to be patient. Because of setbacks and sometimes feels like taking forever or something & feel like easier to go back to same routine or something but think would be worth it. When you think about all the postive aspects you mentioned. 

    All supporting you
    Take care
    The moon taught me: its okay to go through phases. 🌙 The sun taught me : no matter how many times you go down, keep rising🌤
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    edited April 8
    So it's been a while since I've posted about this, because I haven't really had any good news and I'm just disappointed with myself.

    The weight loss stopped about christmas time. Christmas is always hard for me because it's difficult to reject big dinners and party food in front of everyone else, and the bad weather in winter affects my moods quite hard and keeps me inside and not really doing anything.

    I'm more aware of how heavy everything feels lately, the struggle of getting up once I've sat down. I'm not sure how much is my body and how much is just in my head.

    Quite proud of myself for going outside more though! Been playing football again with some old school mates, I just need to walk the dogs more regularly than I usually do and I'll be happy with my physical activity. The eating is the issue and I've got a lot to work on especially when shopping and with takeaways.

    I know it's never been more crucial to start getting healthier again, but it also feels like it's never be so hard.

    Thank you if you've taken the time to read this, I think writing this down gives me some validity with my issues when it feels like they're my own fault and they should be a lot easier to deal with.



  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 5,222 The Mix Elder
    Thats okay @Aidan somethings dont always go aswell as wanted - wouldnt focus too much on what you havent done for a few months but focus on the present. I think just realising you want change again is a massive step. 

     
    Aidan said:

    I was wondering if anyone would be interested in hearing about the progress I make, or getting updates about this? I would love if maybe some 'if I can do it, you can too' type of posts would be helpful or even motivational to somebody else, and this is something that's important to me- but still not something I'd want to pester or annoy anyone with.


    We would totally like to still be updated and hear your progress. Think that peer support is important.
    Though i dont think many people on here have goals to lose weight. But When i hear about other peoples weight loss i know some people did it in like groups which was more motivating. Dk if know pf any groups near you ? I think would be good to feel less like youre doing it on your own.  i type into google "weight loss forums" and it came up with this NHS online community - healthunlocked - have you heard/used it before? 

    https://healthunlocked.com/nhsweightloss

    There is also another one for healthy eating 
    https://healthunlocked.com/healthyeating/posts#latest

    Dunno if would be intested in those or something similiar but something to keep in mind anyway. we are here either way. 

    The moon taught me: its okay to go through phases. 🌙 The sun taught me : no matter how many times you go down, keep rising🌤
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Thanks Shaunie.

    I had thought about joining some sort of forum or group specialising in weight loss or healthy eating, so I probably will at some point. Right now though it's more of a mental struggle than the physical one that's holding me back, which I think the mix is quite good for helping deal with.

    Thank you for the links, I'll check them out!

    Take care :)
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Noob Posts: 581 Extreme Poster
    Good for you aidan - keep up the hard work and you will get there x
    Aidan
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 5,222 The Mix Elder
    edited April 10
    Sure. Keep us updated while it helping you:)
    The moon taught me: its okay to go through phases. 🌙 The sun taught me : no matter how many times you go down, keep rising🌤
    Aidan
  • ClaraOswaldClaraOswald TardisPosts: 67 Miniposter
    I have a good weight but always feel guilty after sneakily eating a chocolate bar 😜You should do 5 hours exercise and that can be just stuff like walking, I like roller skating as you can go to discos with your friends x I cycle, walk, play tennis, play rounders or just lift up some weights while watching tv! Good luck! 
    My feelings are bigger on the inside. People get me wrong.
     "I don't need a sword, because I am The Doctor, and this is my spoon"- Peter Capaldi
    Time is the biggest healer 🕖
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Thanks for the suggestions and the encouragement @ClaraOswald !

    An update on my fitness, I've recently come down from the heaviest I have ever been (many chocolate eggs were eaten in the run up to easter) and I intend to keep going down, and go outside way more often walking the dogs and going out with friends etc. I have a lot more motivating me this time as I'm just a more positive person and feel like I just have a lot more to gain from this and not a lot to lose from trying.

    Thanks for the support I've gotten everyone!
    ClaraOswald
  • ClaraOswaldClaraOswald TardisPosts: 67 Miniposter
    Well done! 😊 
    My feelings are bigger on the inside. People get me wrong.
     "I don't need a sword, because I am The Doctor, and this is my spoon"- Peter Capaldi
    Time is the biggest healer 🕖
    Aidan
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 5,222 The Mix Elder
    Thats good & sounds really positive. Hope can carry on from feeling the benefits to get hopefully more healthy which should feel better too. & hope you keep your motivation up
    The moon taught me: its okay to go through phases. 🌙 The sun taught me : no matter how many times you go down, keep rising🌤
    Aidan
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck South Oxfordshire (homophobic Oxfordshire) Posts: 635 Extreme Poster
    Hey @Aidan

    I follow this personal trainer on Facebook and Instagram called James Smith, he has an very simple method of dieting, it called calorie counting, you need to download an app from your app store called mtmy fitness pal and follow though the steps to set that up, I find this helps me have an breakdown on what is in my diet and has helped me maintain my weight which is assental for my medical condition, 

    Hope this helps
    davcr0ck 
    Love is love and everyone is accepting and can share their issues with no judge from me and I try to help 
    Aidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,172 Fanatical Poster
    Thanks @Shaunie and @ClaraOswald and @davcr0ck for the replies and the support <3

    @davcr0ck thank you for the suggestion!

    At the minute I'm just jotting down what exercise I'm doing or what meals I'm having so I can get a general idea of what's working the best for me and what's a good compromise between what I like and what I need.

    It's important to me to focus on the fact I'm making changes that are working, but later on when I've made more progress I might try recording specifics like calories and minutes- but at the moment I don't want to make it a chore, if that makes sense?

    Thank you all for the help!
    Aidan

    ClaraOswalddavcr0ckShaunie
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