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    BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Mood has plummeted and I'm really struggling to stay safe now 😔😔
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Meggles said:
    Millie2787 said:
    Meggles said:
    Got told today that my anxiety isn't anxiety and it isn't valid. 
    Everyone experiences anxiety differently. But now I feel like my anxiety attacks don't matter and my anxious feelings towards situations aren't valid.
    @Meggles. I’ll say to you what I’ve said to someone else that every experiences anxiety but for a group of us that’s goes into overdrive and we don’t know why 

    people who say that’s are people who don’t understand in my opinion 💖
    It's just a really shitty thing to say. Just like people assume someone doesn't have an eating disorder because they aren't underweight. 
    Their eating disorder is valid. Weight doesn't define it. I'm not super skinny and
    underweight  but I do really struggle with disordered eating and body image.
    I'm tired of people just assuming they know me and my disorders.  Like that's between me and my doctors 

    i know buddy I know you know what you have and that’s all that matters foroget what everyone else says ! 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Meggles said:
    Millie2787 said:
    Meggles said:
    Millie2787 said:
    Meggles said:
    Got told today that my anxiety isn't anxiety and it isn't valid. 
    Everyone experiences anxiety differently. But now I feel like my anxiety attacks don't matter and my anxious feelings towards situations aren't valid.
    @Meggles. I’ll say to you what I’ve said to someone else that every experiences anxiety but for a group of us that’s goes into overdrive and we don’t know why 

    people who say that’s are people who don’t understand in my opinion 💖
    It's just a really shitty thing to say. Just like people assume someone doesn't have an eating disorder because they aren't underweight. 
    Their eating disorder is valid. Weight doesn't define it. I'm not super skinny and
    underweight  but I do really struggle with disordered eating and body image.
    I'm tired of people just assuming they know me and my disorders.  Like that's between me and my doctors 

    i know buddy I know you know what you have and that’s all that matters foroget what everyone else says ! 
    Excactly. Nobody is in my head. Nobody is me. Nobody sits.in my doctor appointments with me. It makes me feel like shit when people make comments. 
    Like nobody knows me properly 
    Exactly- really annoys me when people do thag - Sending you hugs though 💖
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    LaineLaine Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Sending you hugs meggles 💕

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "This is my family. I found it, all on my own.
    It's little, and Broken, but still good. Yeah. Still good." ~ Stitch

    "Lately, I've been struggling with all the simple things in my life" ~ Cian Ducrot

    "I don't know if it's because my heart hurts or I'm insecure" ~ Juice Wrld
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    Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,938 Extreme Poster
    I'm sad
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Really struggling with not seeing dad lately 😐
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,938 Extreme Poster
    big hugs to everyone. and warm blankets. and hot chocolate. Hope everyone who's having a bad time feels better soon, much love <3
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    LaineLaine Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Aw sorry to hear that @Millie2787 when do you think you'll see him next?  Can you keep in contact through messaging? I know it's not much but it helps.  Here for you xo

    Aw many thanks @kathleen0172 ! Sending hugs back 💕  hot chocolate and a good blanket can always help or a cuppa xo

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "This is my family. I found it, all on my own.
    It's little, and Broken, but still good. Yeah. Still good." ~ Stitch

    "Lately, I've been struggling with all the simple things in my life" ~ Cian Ducrot

    "I don't know if it's because my heart hurts or I'm insecure" ~ Juice Wrld
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    edited December 2018
    Laine said:
    Aw sorry to hear that @Millie2787 when do you think you'll see him next?  Can you keep in contact through messaging? I know it's not much but it helps.  Here for you xo

    Aw many thanks @kathleen0172 ! Sending hugs back 💕  hot chocolate and a good blanket can always help or a cuppa xo
     @Laine     I’m normally Asleep by the time he texts me back - he lives with us but is a bus driver so leaves the house at 5 and isn’t back until 10/11 but he’s been doing hires and coach trips these past few weeks to get more money - umm probs won’t Be until Christmas Day now and then he goes back to work on my birthday 😩
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    LaineLaine Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Aw sorry to hear that @Millie2787 💕

    It's lovely that he's working hard for more money but must really suck when you can't see him xo could you have a little before kt after birthday celebration on a day off?  X

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "This is my family. I found it, all on my own.
    It's little, and Broken, but still good. Yeah. Still good." ~ Stitch

    "Lately, I've been struggling with all the simple things in my life" ~ Cian Ducrot

    "I don't know if it's because my heart hurts or I'm insecure" ~ Juice Wrld
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Laine said:
    Aw sorry to hear that @Millie2787 💕

    It's lovely that he's working hard for more money but must really suck when you can't see him xo could you have a little before kt after birthday celebration on a day off?  X
    Probs not his days off are sundays in 2019 and that’s when I work and then they say before is Boxing Day where were normally hung over - I suppose he does normally try and FaceTime me. Just ignore me if I’m rambaling on it’s just been one of those days x
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,938 Extreme Poster

    It's the moaning Kath again dudes. I just...:(


    I don't even know. I'm just feeling like crap. I'm tired and sad and feeling a bunch of self hate and though I don't feel terribly paranoid and scared right now, that stuff's still there iyswim... I dunno. Everyday I fight with my mind. Fairly often it's so bad that as soon as I wake up, I'm thinking like "I seriously don't know how to get through the rest of day. I want to be unconscious again. I just want to die". Alternatively I just have bad dreams reflecting my feelings and so I don't even get a break when I'm sleeping... But anyways, yeah, it just doesn't end. Idk how to express how I feel in words, cause no one who's not me can know what it's like, and to be honest, I probably feel worse than it sounds :'( That's just the beginning but I won't ramble too much. Just kill me:(

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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    I just finished using that Crisis text service as was feeling really unsafe. I feel like I don’t use that much as I feel like their aim is to stop the conversation as soon as it’s started. But she actually seemed really interested in what I’ve been through and how that’s made me feel and really helpful and seemed to really care & wanting to actually listen rather than telling me to find ways to distract myself.  Feel lot more calmer. Just kinda want to sleep now but can’t sleep
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Just sending hugs to all those who may need them, we are here for you :heart: 
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Shaunie said:
    I just finished using that Crisis text service as was feeling really unsafe. I feel like I don’t use that much as I feel like their aim is to stop the conversation as soon as it’s started. But she actually seemed really interested in what I’ve been through and how that’s made me feel and really helpful and seemed to really care & wanting to actually listen rather than telling me to find ways to distract myself.  Feel lot more calmer. Just kinda want to sleep now but can’t sleep
    Don’t feel safe again. Want to die. I’m not getting anywhere with life and I can’t stnad how I feel. It makes sense
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    AifeAife Community Manager Posts: 3,031 Boards Guru
    Shaunie said:
    Shaunie said:
    I just finished using that Crisis text service as was feeling really unsafe. I feel like I don’t use that much as I feel like their aim is to stop the conversation as soon as it’s started. But she actually seemed really interested in what I’ve been through and how that’s made me feel and really helpful and seemed to really care & wanting to actually listen rather than telling me to find ways to distract myself.  Feel lot more calmer. Just kinda want to sleep now but can’t sleep
    Don’t feel safe again. Want to die. I’m not getting anywhere with life and I can’t stnad how I feel. It makes sense

    Hey @Shaunie sending you big hugs <3 Do you feel like you can reach out to Crisis Messenger again today? It sounds like they were really helpful last night. Really well done for reaching out to them :) 
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Really wish dad didn’t have to work all day 😐
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Hey @Shaunie sending you big hugs 3 Do you feel like you can reach out to Crisis Messenger again today? It sounds like they were really helpful last night. Really well done for reaching out to them  
    Sorry yeah will maybe use, thanks
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Meggles said:
    I want to just lay her and cry. 
    Then disappear. That would be nice.
    Sending hugs, do you want to chat about anything? 
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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    LaineLaine Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Sending hugs to you all 💕 anyone wants to talk i'm here xo

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "This is my family. I found it, all on my own.
    It's little, and Broken, but still good. Yeah. Still good." ~ Stitch

    "Lately, I've been struggling with all the simple things in my life" ~ Cian Ducrot

    "I don't know if it's because my heart hurts or I'm insecure" ~ Juice Wrld
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    Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,938 Extreme Poster
    Meggles said:
    Im fighting a losing battle. I may as well stop fighting. 

    hope you're okay @Meggles :-( big hugs <3
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Not sure how im going to cope not seeing my  CAMHS worker again until 7th January 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Millie2787 said:
    Not sure how im going to cope not seeing my  CAMHS worker again until 7th January 
    Sorry to hear,

    Have you got any other support in place to bridge the gap til you see your camhs worker again? 

    We are always here for you :heart:
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    *BananaMonkey* said:
    Millie2787 said:
    Not sure how im going to cope not seeing my  CAMHS worker again until 7th January 
    Sorry to hear,

    Have you got any other support in place to bridge the gap til you see your camhs worker again? 

    We are always here for you :heart:
    No - bar here and possibly kooth I haven’t got anything else - obvs Christmas break and new year she’s got off by then Is off during the first week of jan 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Millie2787 said:
    *BananaMonkey* said:
    Millie2787 said:
    Not sure how im going to cope not seeing my  CAMHS worker again until 7th January 
    Sorry to hear,

    Have you got any other support in place to bridge the gap til you see your camhs worker again? 

    We are always here for you :heart:
    No - bar here and possibly kooth I haven’t got anything else - obvs Christmas break and new year she’s got off by then Is off during the first week of jan 
    sorry to hear that, well it's positive you have us here and Kooth. Your not alone, I know it may feel like it but your not. :heart: 
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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