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HOW TO END IT?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have to end it with my boyfriend - yesterday i had the chance to do to his face but i didnt.
If i tell him to his face it'l haunt me & he'l make me feel so guilty etc
So Should i txt him, tell him 2 his face or another way?>

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell him to his face! Whatever u do don't do it by txt or email. Thats such a horrible & cowardly way to do things. If u respect him & want him to respect u then at least have the decency to tell him to his face like an adult!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Face2face - no other way really...
    skitt
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ditto what Hellie said.

    Finishing with someone is never easy. But to dump someone over the phone, by letter, email or text is extremely cruel and pretty heartless. He'd probably feel pretty worthless if he felt he didn't even warrant a proper goodbye.

    If you care anything at all for him and he's a decent guy then the least he can expect from you is to be able to ask you why you're ending things. You need to be firm but gentle with him, let him ask the questions he needs to ask and answer the questions as honestly and as gently as you can. Most people want to know why and feel the need to know what they did wrong, if anything, so that they can learn by the experience.

    Just be sincere, he'll respect you for it one day, and you will be able to look back and say you did the right thing. Good luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Amen to that
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think I would feel more guilty if I broke up with someone by a text message or an email than if I did it face to face...

    Not that I've ever dumped someone...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dumping someone has to be one of the hardest things you do in a realtionship
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am a coward though - i aint got the heart or guts or words to do it face 2 face
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i reckon by phone is ur best bet. i cant do it face to face either even tho i know its the best way. txt is just plain harsh tho so dont do that! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How about a crompromise - i txt and say i need a break - too much pressure from everything at the moment???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Definately dont dump him by txt. Ive done that and really regret it. I wont be doing that again!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by buglove:
    <STRONG>How about a crompromise - i txt and say i need a break - too much pressure from everything at the moment???</STRONG>

    If you can handle your conscience after and you have very little feeling for the guy, then yeah do that.

    Sorry mate but that's dishonest and cowardly. Honesty is the only way to go. He really doesn't sound like he deserves to be treated that way. Can't say I would be impressed if someone did that to me, how would you like it, if the person you cared about did that to you. Stop thinking about yourself and think about him and his feelings for a change.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by smoif:
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    If you can handle your conscience after and you have very little feeling for the guy,

    He really doesn't sound like he deserves to be treated that way. Stop thinking about yourself and think about him and his feelings for a change.</STRONG>

    I am thinking about myself - thats allowed isnt it! No i don't really have much feeling for this guy - yeah i am a coward ...... your point being?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Her point being that if you are that selfish, you aren't ready to get involved with anyone at all. Least, that'd be (and is) my feeling when you said that.

    Relationships are about NOT being selfish. Geeze, that's worse than any of the lame brained guy-stuff that makes me cringe.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    a break is different to breaking up... by saying break you give the impression that you might get back together. if you want to clear the slate just tell him that you dont want to be with him. it'll hurt him but its far better from your face.
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