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PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! my ex has just come back into my life after 4 months. i am still very much in love with him but there is one small problem! he has a girlfriend and i have been with someone for 1month. I care alot about the new guy in my life and i dont want to hurt him but there is something missing! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> please help me!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If there's something missing with the new guy then perhaps you are in the wrong relationship, but that doesn't mean that persuing the old ne is what's missing. Know what I mean?

    Don't be tempted by the old guy if he has a new girlfriend in tow and don't use the old boyfriend as an excuse for the flaws in your new relationship.

    Are you being swayed by the possibility that there may be the opportunity for more with your old boyfriend? I think you should try to sort out what ever is wrong with your current relationship and NOT get involved with the past, there was a reason you finished I'm sure so try to remember that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The past is the past, forgt it. Except remember why you split up in the first place in order to help the forgetting <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    You need to find out whats wrong in your new relationship; if you are thinking of straying its because something is not right, and for the benefit of both you and your new fella you either need to sort out whats 'missing' or cut your losses. You say you dont want to hurt your bf, but running away with youre ex will, a lot. Besides which, youre ex isnt worth it. You split up for a reason.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think it's fair to your boyfriend to have another love interest. You should tell him about your feelings toward your ex. As for your ex, he's taken. Case closed.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Give him more and than a month, relationships take time to develop. Just get on with like, like Kermit said the past is the past, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Pretty Hate Machine:
    <STRONG> You should tell him about your feelings toward your ex. </STRONG>
    What would that accomplish??
    Heart-ache, yup. Don't tell ur bf about your ex, you'll succeed in making him nervous around you, and anxious because you'll have implied you want your ex and not him!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by 'SeaShihtzu':
    <STRONG>
    What would that accomplish??
    Heart-ache, yup. Don't tell ur bf about your ex, you'll succeed in making him nervous around you, and anxious because you'll have implied you want your ex and not him!</STRONG>

    You're right, don't be honest with him. It may cause heartache, it may not. Neither of us are to judge.
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