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New years day support chat!!

louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldiePosts: 285 The Mix Regular
in The subforum of Christmas Past
Hiya guys :wave::wave:

There is no "live chat" tonight on TheMix so feel free to use this thread as support group chat!!

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So to kick off the chat we will have an opening round ;)

"Do you have any new year resolutions? If yes, what are they. If no, why not?

Louisa xx
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  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    My answer to opening round: I don't have ay resolutions because i'm not very good at sticking to them. Although i'd like to be a bit more organized :chin::chin:
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Lovely thread Louisa. Thank you :heart:

    Not set resolutions. Ive set some small goals though.

    Hope everyone is okay :heart:
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    ellaleftwonderland wrote: »
    i have a few things i'd like to do this year.
    1. stop hurting myself.
    2. write a poem every day.
    3. fall in love with myself instead of trying to make everyone else fall in love with me.
    4. volunteer for a charity.


    I love you :heart::d:p
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    Thanks for joining in guys :heart::heart: If anyone needs support feel free to say/comment!! x
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Feel really weird :s
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    ellaleftwonderland wrote: »

    how come? <3

    Feel down... I cant really explain it. Sorry
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    *BananaMonkey* wrote: »

    Feel down... I cant really explain it. Sorry


    It's difficult when you are feeling down and don't really know how to explain or know why you feel this way. have you got anything to do tonight to distract yourself?
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Nah. Ill probs end up going to sleep.

    Ill be okay. Sorry I said something
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    *BananaMonkey* wrote: »
    Nah. Ill probs end up going to sleep.

    Ill be okay. Sorry I said something

    Don't be sorry <3 We are all here for you! **hugs** *hug**hug*(Good thing about having chat on the boards, you get a hug emoji :p)
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    louisa982 wrote: »

    Don't be sorry <3 We are all here for you! **hugs** *hug**hug*(Good thing about having chat on the boards, you get a hug emoji :p)

    Your the sweetest :heart: thank you
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Went to the cemetory today.. was difficult. But usually I am okay when I go there think its cos its new years day
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Watching netflix and trying to distract myself so I dont s/h.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    meggles wrote: »
    stressed stressed stressed


    What's up?
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    *BananaMonkey* wrote: »
    Went to the cemetory today.. was difficult. But usually I am okay when I go there think its cos its new years day


    It's natural to feel difficult. Did you take any flowers? x
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    louisa982 wrote: »


    It's natural to feel difficult. Did you take any flowers? x


    Not this time. I don't often take flowers, we have a few sets of fake ones and like on her birthday we take real ones or special occasions. :heart:

    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    *BananaMonkey* wrote: »


    Not this time. I don't often take flowers, we have a few sets of fake ones and like on her birthday we take real ones or special occasions. :heart:


    Aww that's nice. She would be so proud of you,you know *hug*
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    louisa982 wrote: »


    Aww that's nice. She would be so proud of you,you know *hug*


    I don't know, I've kinda messed up so many times.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    I often wish I could go back in time and change all the mistakes I made. The memories haunt me, the regrets are always with me. I just feel like I try and move on but I can't. Am I always going to be this way? :(
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    meggles wrote: »


    trying to do my work for tomorrows deadline but i just changed my specialism.


    Ahh i know the feeling, Keep going though, you can do it. Have a break or treat every 30-60 mins :pancake flip:(love this emoji)
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    *BananaMonkey* wrote: »
    I often wish I could go back in time and change all the mistakes I made. The memories haunt me, the regrets are always with me. I just feel like I try and move on but I can't. Am I always going to be this way? :(


    No you won't always be this way :heart: We can't change the past, but we can shape the future. And everyone needs to make mistakes so we can improve and be better. Keep thinking of your positive memories
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Thank you so much lovely :heart:

    Hope your okay
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    Notagainvitelina wrote: »
    Once a borderline always a borderline
    I'm not sure man, maybe I'll always be like this.

    Hugs *hug* I can't say i know much about BPD but i can say that you are a really lovely person. And we are all here to support and help you through it :heart:
  • LostsenseLostsense Posts: 1,331 The Mix Regular
    My new year resolution is to start swimming again.

    Oh and not let my weight or self harming get in the way.
  • louisa982louisa982 Thesite.org oldie Posts: 285 The Mix Regular
    Steph95 wrote: »
    My new year resolution is to start swimming again.

    Oh and not let my weight or self harming get in the way.


    Sounds like a good one steph :heart:
  • LostsenseLostsense Posts: 1,331 The Mix Regular
    💙💚
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    ellaleftwonderland wrote: »

    don't be sorry, it's hard to put things into words sometimes, but if you need to, you'll find them. & when you do we'll be here ready to listen & offer hugs. *hug*make sure you look after yourself, keep hydrated & safe. (hydration is important like i've only just found out how important it is) xo

    Thank you so much for your kind words and the *hug*s

    It means so much to me. :heart:

    I ended up falling asleep and slept til now. I feel a bit better.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • AliceInWonderlandAliceInWonderland Posts: 18
    How are you doing today BananaMonkey? Hope things are looking a little brighter for you after some sleep. Let us know if you need support with anything. 🙂
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    meggles wrote: »
    La. La. La

    Whats wrong? Posting la la la is a bit annoying on a support chat thread. People do want to help.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    AliceInWonderland wrote: »
    How are you doing today BananaMonkey? Hope things are looking a little brighter for you after some sleep. Let us know if you need support with anything. 🙂

    I am feeling okay today thank you. Kind of just had a chilled home day today :heart:

    Thank you for all the support you guys.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
  • *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,421 Part of The Furniture
    Your not being ignored though. People do want to help you.
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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