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Fingering...help...
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Hey, whenever my bf fingers me and i 'cum' he carries on fingerin me and it hurts, but i dont think he knows ive 'cum' as im not the nosiest person ever, atch i dont make noise, so i dont think theres anyway he can tell ive cum. in the end i have to tell him to stop and everytime he asks me why i just change the subject coz i feel weird telling him. but we dont always do just fingerin, sometimes he starts n then goes down on me or we end up having sex so its not an issue everytime.
anyone have any ideas on what i can do/say for next time, coz i think after a few more times he'll think something is more wrong then it is.
thanks xxx
anyone have any ideas on what i can do/say for next time, coz i think after a few more times he'll think something is more wrong then it is.
thanks xxx
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Communication people!
Either he'll become more experienced at noticing that special moment for you or you'll have to guide him to that conclusion. Just grab or move his hand a few times and he should start to link you stopping him to certain events or noises.
It's not as obvious as it is when a male reaches climax, unless she's faking or you're having penetrative sex but he should pick it up soon enough. Oh, and no guy is EVER going to complain about you climaxing so you can tell him why you're stopping him.
He'll understand. Don't lie or change the subject!! (He may wonder why you never told him sooner, be honest and say you didn't know how to tell him!)
I've said it before and I'll say it again. If your big enough and old enough to do these things then you should be able to talk about them with your partner. As already stated it's about communication.
What if he was to stick a finger up your bum and you didn't like it? Would you not tell him cause your embaressed. Talk to him. You'll probably find he'll be all to know that he's made you cum.
you need to talk about things like that, you'll feel closer by talking/sharing stuff that's personal.
if you're embarrassed to tell him straight away, find a time when you're not intimate, say when you're having a walk in the park and bring up the subject then.
or
"OHMYGODI'MCUMMINNNNNNNGGGGGG!!!" might help lol
that way he'll definetely know :-)
just tell him. (as everyone else has said here). i'm the same, it hurts a lot after. so i juust move my attention onto him.
he'll thank you for saying it and not sticking it out just cuz you didn't want to upset him. he wants to make you happy...so let him.
Either that or make sure you make enough noise for him to notice himself
So just tell him "I have cum" obviously in a more sexy kinda way than just that, and then concentrate on making him cum!
He obviously wants to please and pleasure you, so if you're uncomfortable you have to tell him. I'm sure he will be happy to know, and stop in the future.
Mr_Wobble
It's not like he's going to say 'oh sorry, i didnt mean to ' and never ever do it again is it?
Its a massive turn on to know your partner is about to cum.
It sounds like he cares that you enjoy it, so i think he would be happy if you told him.
Also it's not so nice to leave it too long, then tell him eventually that he's been hurting you all this time, it's better to tell him sooner than later.
I'm sure it will bring you closer too. :yes:
So yeah... You can talk to him about it and think of something like our "Done" thing (when we're having sex, he'll tell me when he's done too.) or you can touch/kiss him while he fingers you and stop when you're cumming and he'll know.