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Help please - need support to stop self harming
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I am trying to help me and a couple of my bestfriends we all started to self harm and like I have started to stop but I don't know how to get them to stop because they seem to think that it's not hurting themselves or their families to do this but I am fighting the urge to self harm and I was wondering if you could give me some ideas to help me and my friends both to stop self harming for good:(
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- Start a diary - write your feelings down in it and positives and achievements of the day
- write my worries down on some paper then screw it up then rip it up
- Take a look at the elastic band or ice cube method
- Go for a run to release negative energy
- Punch your pillow
- Read a book
- Listen to music
- Colour or draw - those adult colouring books are really good
- Use pens to draw on where you would self harm
- etc.
I hope one of these works and i wish you and your friend all the best. *hug*I agree with JPeople- it is a great stop in wanting to stop self harming. JPeople has some fantastic ideas on coping mechanisms, do you think you could give them a try? Perhaps you could share these ideas with your friends too- its nice that you can help support each other.
Also, I am just wondering if you've confided in anyone outside of your friends- family, other friends, your GP?
Sending *hug* s
"you are your friends all started to self harm" it kinda sounds like you all started at the same time which would indicate that you all started at the same time, like it was fun or something.
How old are you and your friends if you don't mind me asking? Perhaps the group is being lead by an older or someone in your group is provoking the others? There's nothing wrong with harming, people release anger or emotion in different ways. Good luck
It might sound harsh but if that's the case then I really feel that it might be good for your own well-being and maybe even theirs if you had some space away from your friends, even just for a short period.
You mention that you want to stop which is brave, but it'll be extremely hard for you to stop if you're surrounded by a group of friends that want to carry on and aren't aware of the consequences.
Look after yourself and do let us know how you're doing *hug*
I was going to reiterate that it might be a good idea to step away from your friends for a while to concentrate on getting yourself to a better place and build up some coping mechanisms so you can reduce the urges to self harm.
With regards to your friends, do you think they'd want to seek professional help from someone about the self harming and potentially the issues that are leading them to self harm?
Good luck.
It's ok, you're very brave trying to help your friends. Do they pressure you into doing it with them, like a group thing?
Tell your friends they can be Emo without harming themselves. This is a dangerous path you're all going down, one which can have life long consequences. You're all like 13 and 14 and at such a young age harming yourselves already is not healthy.
Find new friends, trust me you'll thank me later on in life. Good luck.
I just wanted to drop in to say given your age you might find Childline a useful source of support as well. You can talk to a counsellor in confidence about what's going on for you. You can call, email or use their online chat service: http://www.childline.org.uk/talk/Pages/Talk.aspx
TESS also have a text service and helpline for girls and young women who self harm: http://www.selfinjurysupport.org.uk/...upport-service
Keep posting and let us know how you're getting on, as others have suggested it could be helpful to focus on yourself and encourage your friends to do the same for a while so that you can all get the support you deserve for your individual issues. It's really admirable that you're trying to help everyone but make sure you're helping yourself too.
As @Past User says too - it would be good to consider if you or any of your friends would feel able to talk to a professional about this - perhaps a school counsellor or a doctor?
*hug*
Jo
We've deleted quite a few posts here as it seemed like things were getting a bit off topic. Let's focus on Cathleen and how she can support her friends :thumb:
Cathleen, do you think any of the tips and places to get support that have been mentioned could be helpful?
You're very welcome.