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Gorgeous mates

Are you always outshone by your good-looking friend? Or does having cute mates bring you all kinds of unexpected benefits?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    all my mates are so gorgeous it makes me sick <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    i hate having beautiful friends because it makes u feel so bad about urself. i didn't want my boyfriend to meet them because i thought he mite fall in love with them but it was ok! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah it can be annoying especialy if you get paronoid or suffer from low self esteem still EVERYONE has there bad days and you have to love yourself before anyone cane love you(but not 2much) people say that i only hang arond with the friend i do because im pretty and they make me look good but beauty is skin deep!!!
    p.s being pretty can bring lots of unwaned attention and prevs noone wants that extra hassle.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always used 2 get soooo jealous of one of my mates. She's really good looking etc & ALL the guys fancy her!!

    Now though i've realised that the majority of the guys that like her are only after one thing & she gets hurt by guys a lot! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Now i do sumtimes still get those lickle jealous feelings, but i just think if a guy i like prefers her then he ain't worth bothering wit!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In middle school my best friend (who, incidentally, has the same name as me and was born on the same day as me) and I were always squabbling because we would get jealous of eachother. She's dropdead gorgeous- thin, blonde, big blue eyes, tanned skin, absolutely perfect looking. I was teased a lot in middle school because I was taller than everyone (though I haven't grown since then, I'm STILL 5 foot 6, so I'm only average), I got called fat and ugly, I had spots, glasses, braces, I'm pale, my hair is a weird brownish blondish color, my eyes are muddy green... anyway, I pale in comparison to her. She'd get jealous of my because I write well and am pretty creative, I'd get jealous of her because of her looks, and we'd get into these asinine arguments constantly (though we still, somehow, remained best mates)....

    The irony of it is that once I moved to America I decided to get over the stupid comments people had made about my looks and become more confident. Because of this, I've had several boyfriends, lots of boys interested in me, and lots of nice comments about the way I look <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I'm happy with the way that I am and although I'm not perfect (and I still think she's far prettier than me) I'm not hung up about it.

    My best mate also moved the same year, but became much less confident. She's only gone out with one boy (which lasted a week) and she kissed him once. She thinks she's ugly now because she hasn't had any positive attention from guys.

    She came over to visit last summer and we talked about this a little bit, it's really weird and ironic, but I guess it goes to show that confidence = almost everything!

    An eye for an eye makes the world blind.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my psychiatrist went barmy with me yesterday when we did the whole how i feel about myself thing <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    she asked me that what's the difference between a good day and a bad day when i look in the mirror. i said on a bad day i looked in the mirror, thought i was fat ugly and hated myself. but on a good day.. i thought i was fat, ugly, but i could deal with it.
    she wasn't too impressed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    most of my friends are pretty much absolutely beautiful. maybe it's just coz i have so many hang-ups with myself that i search for somebody's gorgeousness. but i can honestly say that everyone i see when im walking around town is beautiful. you just look at people differently. i love walking around and getting lost in people, and forgetting who i am and there's just loads of different kinds of people everywhere and it's so nice. as long as i dont catch my reflection <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    question~ is it possible to see yourself exactly the same when you look in the mirror when youre like 130 then just under 90 pounds? coz i could never see the difference.
    anyways.. back to staying on topic..
    i hated going to my friends birthday parties. coz they always had really nice clothes and great hair and they looked sooooo good. and i was just.. that other person. for about six to ten months last year i felt a part of people, and i guess i felt good about myself. then stuff happened and it left again.
    going to my dad's house, theyre all gorgeous. being around my mum's side of the family i feel more able to deal with myself sometimes because i know about their depression, and about how the feel. and when you know what somebody's been through, and how they feel about themselves, you can see it in their face.
    there was this thing on Trisha(goddammit i watch too much daytime tv) and this woman was overweight, and when she first came on there you could tell she was really self-concious and she didnt look too attractive. but when she went back two months later, she looked SO much better. she hadnt really lost any weight, she just accepted who she was. and she was all bubbly and confident and beautiful. there's a lesson in that but i dont think im gonna learn it. coz im different.
    when im around calvin.. i feel ok about myself. because, i dont know.. he makes me think "fuck the world" coz what's happening is all that matters. coz im with him and i love him to pieces and he makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. but even then, i get all these stupid thoughts in my head about looking trashy and stupid and AARGH!
    and i have ten billion other things to say but i realise ive gone completely off-topic and so i'll stop now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    All the people I hang around with look really great.

    One is thin, perfect complexion, big blue eyes, full red lips and perfectly conditioned hair.

    One is tres stylish - not your average good looks but really long dark hair, stylish glasses, big breasts, great taste in clothes - knows exactly what to wear to make herself look great.

    And third is a professional sportsperson so needless to say she is very fit, very toned, very GRRRRRRRRR!!!

    So there ya go - my list of perfect people I'm insanely jealous of <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i totally know what u mean susie. it's all about confidence it ur comfortable about urself u will look better.

    it's nice when u meet someone and they love you no matter whether ur wearing make up or not though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    all my mates are so gorgeous it makes me sick <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    i hate having beautiful friends because it makes u feel so bad about urself. i didn't want my boyfriend to meet them because i thought he mite fall in love with them but it was ok! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


    umm.. someone was nice enough to slip me your photo drifter, and if i may say so... you're a babe darling. no doubt about it.

    so u must be hanging out with supermodels if your mates are more gorgeous than you.

    and if you are, how come you never invite me out? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and susie...

    you're gorgeous. i wouldn't lie to you.

    i love you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think any of my friends are stunningly good looking, but they're all attractive in their own way.

    It depends on what you find attractive though, doesn't it?

    My actions make me beautiful and dignify the flesh
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    and susie...

    you're gorgeous. i wouldn't lie to you.

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by SusieLovesCalvin:
    Please keep in mind that the views on these boards are opinions - not necessarily facts. TheSite can’t be held responsible for any comments posted.

    lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    having never seen a pic of you (yet!!) i wouldnt even be able to give my opinion. but i bet you're just as beautiful as calvin says <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    in the first few years at secondary school i had this friend, who was popular with all the guys. she never went out with any of them i dont think, she liked older guys who were in the jazz band. looking back, she was a fair bit shorter than me, and heavier than me too, so that just shows that people dont have to be thin to be attractive <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; anyway she had these full lips, big deep brown eyes and really long shiny hair, and she was friendly to everyone, but a massive flirt. which was part of it, guys thought they could get something from her, which they in fact couldnt (apart from the older ones!!) and i always felt really tall and lanky and unattractive compared to her, they all fancied her and not me.

    i havent seen her for 2 years, but theres always someone who's thinner, has nicer clothes/hair/make up than you at any particular time. ive had it pointed out to me that im sexy quite recently, which was news to me! but hey im not gonna question it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well it gets (got) to the extent where i actually started fancying some of my mates because of their looks, which did start to get a bit worrying... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    i hate having beautiful friends because it makes u feel so bad about urself.

    Thats really true, all my friends are really pretty and also most of my family are, actually I just wish I could look like my older sister. When I go out with my friends its really horrible because they always get looks off the guys and I don't <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; Even if we just to go the cinema or something. I hate introducing my boyfriends to them to, especially after one ex went with a 'mate' behind my back.

    Usually I have really bad days where I feel like shit and really ugly and just try and hide away from everyone by sorta putting my head down and not talking much to people. Good days are when my hair goes right and I feel like I look nice, I'm more confident and happy then and my best mate says she likes me much better when I feel pretty.

    I definitely think I have to look good to feel good.

    But yeah having beautiful friends sometimes sucks.

    [This message has been edited by ElisaKate (edited 23-06-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always think my mates r miles better looking than me, but then I think that most people r not only my friends. I tend to go out with a group of blokes and am usually the only girl which is nice as I dont feel so bad but I have one friend who I used to go out with a lot who was a page 3 girl lmao. I definatly felt shit next to her, but she didnt exactly help me feel less shit. Infact she loved herself like nothing on earth and I used to find it highly amusing listening to her praise herself all night...this helped me realise that it was me who had the better personallity at least lol!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most of my mates are average looking like me, but I have one mate who is really pretty - she always gets all the attention and she really shows off about it too - she really annoys me. I dont know why I hang out with her actually!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i've got a mate, who when she's being really nice, she looks sooo pretty.. and then when she's bitchy, she looks like the arse of a dog.
    i think that you being pretty or not depends on if you are a nice person.
    i'm not saying that everyone's who is really snide on others are not pretty... coz sometimes, they are just SOOO GORGEOUS!! but i think that ppl think you are prettier if you'rea nice person
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    umm.. someone was nice enough to slip me your photo drifter, and if i may say so... you're a babe darling. no doubt about it.

    so u must be hanging out with supermodels if your mates are more gorgeous than you.

    and if you are, how come you never invite me out? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    awww thats well sweet calvin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; thanks


    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I AM the most gorgeous friend my friend's have. Just playing! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; For real though, it has benefits.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    one of my best mates is just beautiful, no other word to describe her. she was fantastic at everything at school, got 10 A*'s, is predicted A's in her A-levels, got a lovely boyfriend, rich parents etc. i could really hate her, but she's also such a lovely person that you can't. i think my other best mate's also prettier than me, but she says the same 'bout me, so i think we're just paranoid and overshadowed by our beautiful mate <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mates are pretty good looking I guess, except for the one who looks a spitting image of rodney trotter (and he DOES)

    Its strange really, a few of them lie about me before I meet them and land me in it, what usually happens tho is the girlfriends/boyfriends etc. all end up being close friends of mine and even if my mates break up with them I continue to be friendly as it was nothing to do with me....

    they don't like it tho, i personally don't see the problem.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Karla:
    Are you always outshone by your good-looking friend? Or does having cute mates bring you all kinds of unexpected benefits?

    New article here: http://www.thesite.org/relationships/families/hey_good_looking.html

    unexpected benefits most definetly! wink wink nugde nugde!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    and susie...

    you're gorgeous. i wouldn't lie to you.

    i love you.

    aaaawwwwwwwwwww!!!!

    Susie, if someone loves you that much you have no need to feel ugly or lack self confidence, because, at the end of the day, you can always know that someone loves you more than anything in the world and who you mean everything to.

    And when you know that, thats all that matters, because if you're loved like that then youre so lucky and to those that care about you, it doesnt matter whether you're having a "good day" or a "bad day", because to them you'll always be beautiful.

    And thats all that matters.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i dont think i could look at my mates like that and feel jealous or anything, but i must admit i do get attracted to my female mates sometimes and wen we end up drunk tellin each otha this it makes for a good laugh for the night <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    call me satan <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angryfire.gif"&gt;
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