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Old girl, young bloke
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Hi guys (and girls)
I'm a 17 year old guy, and I've started hanging around with the people at work, who are now either full timers having left UNI, or have just finished their last year at UNI.
One of the girls, is 22. Shes really flirty with me, BUT shes the sort of person who is quite flirty with a lot of people. We're allways chatting, and hanging around together, goin to the pub, cinema etc.
However, she's a really good looking girl, (the sort that turns most people heads when she walks into a room), but I'd say if she was my age i could stand a reasonable chance of pulling her (thats me trying to not sound too arrogant, and say im a good looking guy who doesnt have too much trouble getting ppl.)
She's really touchy-feely, and our conversations allways end up turning quite 'naughty' about either her escapades or mine.
I've stayed over round her house a couple of times, and whenever we're out in town, we'll allways be dancing together, or she'll be REALLY flirty with me (hands on crotch, movin my hands round her body etc.)
Additionally shes taken me fully into her friendship group, and we pretty much see eachother 3 or 4 times a week, completley out of the work-people environment, meaning its no longer me and the ppl from work, its JUST me.
And I've seen her in some really revealing clothes which shes allways asking "du like me in this" etc - The other week I had to give my opinion on underwear, and she came downstairs showing me the two black lace hot pants, or thong options.
Normally I'd look at all of this, and descide she liked me
BUT
- shes nearly 5 years older than me
- shes had ONE boyfriend since she was 17, and is still with him
- shes so beautiful she really could have just about anyone (she recently had her modelling portfollio/pictures redone, and she looked AMAZING
HOWEVER
- she said to me a while ago "i'd quite like to have an affair, do something different than the same thing all the time"
Its really hard for me to be objective, because she's the perfect example of the sort of person I'd love to date, so I could be reading the whole situation totally wrong
What du guys think about it, and what should I do, or say?
I'm a 17 year old guy, and I've started hanging around with the people at work, who are now either full timers having left UNI, or have just finished their last year at UNI.
One of the girls, is 22. Shes really flirty with me, BUT shes the sort of person who is quite flirty with a lot of people. We're allways chatting, and hanging around together, goin to the pub, cinema etc.
However, she's a really good looking girl, (the sort that turns most people heads when she walks into a room), but I'd say if she was my age i could stand a reasonable chance of pulling her (thats me trying to not sound too arrogant, and say im a good looking guy who doesnt have too much trouble getting ppl.)
She's really touchy-feely, and our conversations allways end up turning quite 'naughty' about either her escapades or mine.
I've stayed over round her house a couple of times, and whenever we're out in town, we'll allways be dancing together, or she'll be REALLY flirty with me (hands on crotch, movin my hands round her body etc.)
Additionally shes taken me fully into her friendship group, and we pretty much see eachother 3 or 4 times a week, completley out of the work-people environment, meaning its no longer me and the ppl from work, its JUST me.
And I've seen her in some really revealing clothes which shes allways asking "du like me in this" etc - The other week I had to give my opinion on underwear, and she came downstairs showing me the two black lace hot pants, or thong options.
Normally I'd look at all of this, and descide she liked me
BUT
- shes nearly 5 years older than me
- shes had ONE boyfriend since she was 17, and is still with him
- shes so beautiful she really could have just about anyone (she recently had her modelling portfollio/pictures redone, and she looked AMAZING
HOWEVER
- she said to me a while ago "i'd quite like to have an affair, do something different than the same thing all the time"
Its really hard for me to be objective, because she's the perfect example of the sort of person I'd love to date, so I could be reading the whole situation totally wrong
What du guys think about it, and what should I do, or say?
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for the record, i'm 22 and i would NOT have a relationship with a 17-year-old.
Anyone else?
Its not every girls cup of tea going for a younger lad but its not unheard of so you might be in with a chance.
The only way you will find out is by asking her or trying something with her.
no two ways about it, he will find out who you are and kick the fuck out of you, even if its months down the line when he's over her.
winners don't get caught
yes and winners also don't cheat..
you gets me?
yea...but if the woman is willing, it's her choice if she wants, he is single..
but people talk and ex boyfriends get violent.
i'm sure it would be much easier to go for another hot girl where he can get more than a shag and he doesn't have to ask people
'does she like me'
if she was special to him, he would help her out with her relationship. not fucking grab a big knife and stab the fuck out of it!
that girl is not special to him. her pussy is special to his cock.
she is not gonna come out of a 5 year relationship with someone her own age for a 17 year old. Also would you want a girl who cheated on her ex, could you trust her.
she jus wants the excitment of someone fancying her again.
sorry, i hate to admit it but molo your right.....
but yeah like molo said....would you really want someone who has cheated? cos its usually 'once a cheat, always a cheat'
*this is the sound of me agreeing with all of that*
END OF.
at the end of the day its down to him, everyone has different views on whats right and wrong in this situation.
but i still reckon he will get the fuck kicked out of him. hope she's worth it.
she obviously doesn't have much respect for him, what with all this crotch-grabbing and what-not.
so what makes you think she'd respect you?
I see what your saying bout him coming and beating me for it... but it definitley wouldnt be me leading her from the relationship - but yeh the bf might still be pissed!
I'm heading down to Chesington with her and a couple of her mates at the weekend, so I think I'm just gonna try and be really flirty and see where it ends up - I wont make the 'first' move, but if it happens then
And yeh, she does count as something 'special', because as I said, she's got to be a perfect example of my perfect girl - and I'm not looking for a way to get a quick shag or whatever! There'd be many easy options if i was just after that!!
Du think thats gonna be a good idea?
Thanks again
(Just quickly have ANY guys managed to get through a similar position with the outcome being in their favour? Or girls - u had similar situations happen?)
Birds like that won't leave their bf's. Just want something new until they get bored than drop ya like lead.
She's a prick tease and will get bored with you if you get loved up, than you'll get dumped & get to see her do it with another guy! (Don't let her get too close to you, cos once she's in your heart and mind, She'll fuck with your head big time!!)
She isn't that old, I'd say she most likely immature mate!
If you can handle fucking it and leaving it at that, do it at your own peril, but do not be under the false impression that you could be with her long term, not until you figure out how these bitches work.
perfect like a penalty shot hitting the crossbar mate....
Mr_Wobble