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what should i do??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey all! i am new here! after the first visit here.. i know that i must register! i had an awful laugh lastnight readin some of yer post! quite funny! wekk... i was wondering.. and want to ask this question to you girls out there... you see.. i really love this girl... but if i made love to her.. would it hurt her? i mean.. hurt in a sense of feeling?

I may get knocked down... but i am sure to get up again!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In a sense of emotional or physical feeling? And does she love you?

    I hope I've read this wrong and that you don't think people's problems are funny, because if you do then that's not very nice. Did you just mean that some members have funny sides to their characters?

    And please don't type with all those dots, it's weird to read!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nah you got me wrong! what i thought was funny was their character not with their problems, because by readin some of these post, it has help me solved some of my own probs dont get me wrong here wildchild
    yeah i was asking it in a sense of emotional and physical feeling! cheerz!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Explain the relationship in a bit of detail...how old r u and her?? Are u in a secure relationship...etc etc...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok here goes i am 18 and she's 16.. sometimes we fight alot but we often make it up to each other i love her alot and so does she but when we're in my room kissin and stuff and getting into sex, i just kinda stop when i have the thought i might me hurtin her(u know)emotionally and physically.. would i posibly be hurtin her? cheerz!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try talkin to her, ask her how she feels about sex, ifs shes ready, and if she wants to do it. Its not something that you can just blindley (soz, cant spell that) rush into and hope for the best. I think you need to talk to her, find out how she's feeling and how far she wants to take it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good answer sugar&spice <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, ask her and reassure her that u love her whether or not you have sex or not and make sure you give her the choice to make her mind...that way she knows she can say no if its getting too heavy and you know that she'll say no if she's not ready, that way you're not in threat of going too far too soon...hope that helps... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex is a very big deal, emotionally and physically, and both people have to be sure that they're ready and willing, 100%. Like sugar&spice said, it's not something you can hope goes well, you have to be sure it's the right thing to do.

    Of course there's a chance that you'll be hurting your girlfriend, but then there's always that chance. You have to talk to her about it and tell her you value the relationship with or without sex. If she already went along with having it, then either she's ready and willing or she felt pressured into it. Either way, you ought to know!

    Communication is always the key in things like this. If you talk to her about your concerns and you're both open with eachother, everything will be clear to you.

    good luck, and welcome to the site!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hello lil'dick. welcome to thesite. it's a nice place with nice people, as you've aleady seen. stay ahwile. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    if you force anything with her, you will definetely hurt her physically and emotionally.

    the best thing you can do is work on the relationship, which in involves communication like everyone has advised.

    the other thing you can do is to make her feel comfortable, safe and loved. i guarantee you that if you can make her feel that, she will know you couldn't possibly hurt her, and you will have a better experience when you do make love, because it will have the proper emtions attached to it.

    good luck dude.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guys!!
    damn i coudln't connect to the stupid net these few days at last.. thanx all for your advice at least now i know better and one more thing, wish me luck!! hahahah thanx again!! ;>
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