how do u mend a broken heart?

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guys (and girls) i really need your help, me and my boyfriend split up about a month ago after being 2gether 4 15 months. we said we'd stay mates but the next day he went out with someone else who also goes to my skool and now he wont talk 2 me cos she doesnt like me.
i just wanna get over him but nothing seems to make it any easier, still after a month of being apart i cry myself to sleep and dont ever feel like doing anything or going anywhere.
please dont tell me to get off with sum1 else or wat ever cos im not the kind of person who can do that.
i just need some advice about how not to feel so down all the time cos i dont wanan feel depressed but not having him in my life is the worst feeling ever.
he was like my first love and i know he wasnt that nice 2 me 4 the whole time and really im better off with out him its really hurting me being away from him.
the worst part is he wont even talk 2 me ive tried foneing him and emailing him but he wont listen.
wat can i do? please help! <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

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Hi!I split up with my boyfreind about 2 months ago now. We had been together for 7 months, and he was my first everything! He was my first true love. Then a week later after we split up he went out with another girl. That only lasted 4 weeks, and then he split with her. Me and him weren't mates at first, but then we got on really well as mates-even when he was eith his girlfreind. The on Christmas Eve we argued and he hit me. But once again we have become freinds!I konow its hard when you lose someone you love-Ive been there. Its hard tooo, because boys dont show that they miss you. Although it will take you a long time to get over him, all I can suggest is remember the good times and just try and get on as mates. Go and find yourself someone else-it wont be the same but it might make you feel better.
It takes time but evntually you will get over him.Im over my ex now-but it did take 2 months, just keep your head high and remeber the good times! But its a New Year-a new start!Hope i helped!Have a fab new year!
Cheryl xxxxx

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vodka + MTV + a vibrator <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

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thanx cheryl <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> u did help. i do want some one new but well i dont know who he is yet! thng is tho i thnk id be forever comparing him to my ex! <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
the thing that hurt the most was that it was the next day that he went off with someone else. ive tried to talk 2 him but he'll just say a few words and then walk away or hang up the fone, i tx him but and 4 a while we talk but then he'll go and say something that will make me angry and then i'll argue and then we r back where we started, not talking. ive given up now but alli really want him to know is how much i miss him thats all but i thnk he thiks if he talks 2 me he'll come back 2 me just like he always did if we broke up b4 <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
anyway thanx for helping! <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

vibrator?! <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0"> sounds good! and vodka yuk! bacardi 4 me i thnk! <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

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when a boy breaks your heart like that you need to take a break from it all, the stress, momories and let your hair down. you don'tneed to find yourself another boyf.

get together wit some girl mates and have a girlie night with them. you can let out feelings and share things with them, they'll make you forget about him. trust. you need to show him you can live witout him but still be mates. its gonna take time but mates are the best cure for a broken heart. i've been there. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> good luck

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Originally posted by *sugar*:
<STRONG>when a boy breaks your heart like that you need to take a break from it all, the stress, momories and let your hair down. you don'tneed to find yourself another boyf.

get together wit some girl mates and have a girlie night with them. you can let out feelings and share things with them, they'll make you forget about him. trust. you need to show him you can live witout him but still be mates. its gonna take time but mates are the best cure for a broken heart. i've been there. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> good luck</STRONG>

well wot about if a girl breaks ur heart? its happend 2 me a lot of times but lads cant talk 2 ther mates coz they just rag the piss i just got on and still gettin on wiv it alone

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Originally posted by J.ME:
well wot about if a girl breaks ur heart? its happend 2 me a lot of times but lads cant talk 2 ther mates coz they just rag the piss i just got on and still gettin on wiv it alone

Amen to that brother

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well guys if u wanna talk im here 4 ya, i know its not easy 4 u guys to talk cos of male pride or wat ever it is! <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
yeah thanx 4 the tips on just be with my m8s but well its not so easy 2 of them dont give a shit and one is so wrapped up in her own life shes no help either, i only have 3 close m8s even tho rite now they dont seems very nice 2 me! (sounds horrible) <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

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i just need sum support <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

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Originally posted by blonde_batman:
<STRONG>i just need sum support <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"></STRONG>

How to mend a broken heart:super glue doesn't hurt.

Seriously though, I have no idea, it's one of those things that you will eventually realise what you're missing/need e.t.c. It's one of those things where time really is the best healer.

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Originally posted by blonde_batman:
i just need sum support <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

Well if you want to chat i'm here <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

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Best way to get over someone..
Make a list of all the things you didn't like about him or her.
Last year I did this and came up with some things on my ex that I had just ignored while we were going out, things like, he picked his nose! and ate it!

make this list and whenever you feel bad read it. you will soon see you deserve better <IMG alt="image" SRC="cool.gif" border="0">

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ok well i'll do the list on here then u guys can help!
all bad things yeah?
1. yeah he picked him nose and ate it 2!
2. he burped and farted all the time, gross!
3. he seamed 2 think i liked having his nob thrust in my face!
4. footbal came 1st!
5. anything blonde or pretty walked past i was 4gotten!
6. he got so grumpy so easily!

cant thnk of anything else rite now! <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0">

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5. anything blonde or pretty walked past i was 4gotten!

Then you're probably better off. I've been with my g/f for nearly 6 years now and I've never looked at another woman in that way, except on the occasions that she's pointed them out first (and no, that's not a lie). The only exception to that rule is Andrea Corr, but that's a different story j/k <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

The lists help, and I think that a bit of a time-out from guys would help too.

CD <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

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yeah ive had enough of males 4 a while, just gonna stay single and concentrate on my exams and getting in2 college!

me ex is making it kidna hard 4 me 2 get over him tho cos he keeps txting me and i told him 2 stop and my boss even foned him treatening him with the police but he still wont stop! i just want him 2 leave me alone <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

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Some reading for you sad souls: http://www.thesite.org/magazine/sex_and_relationships/the_exfactor.html

Susie <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

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thanx <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

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I'm new at this, and new to relationships, despite being 18.

My first girlfriend and I split up, and I know that it really hurt me. Often, the guy is assumed to be able to deal with it, or be less emotionally attached. This isn't necessarily true.

Guys hurt, just like girls, but it's far less socially acceptable for guys to get upset in public.

I'm lucky, in that I have friends who care, and can share my pain. I think that the only thing that will heal a broken heart is time, and trying to deal with it how you can. It's a good idea sharing it on this, I think, because everyone here, however old they are, seem to be nice people. That's quite rare, and it's worth looking after, IMHO.

Take care, and don't be afraid to have a broken heart. When (if) you go to the gym, the first time, it hurts, because you're using a muscle. Next time, it gets easier. And the next. The heart is a muscle. It seems painful now, but you will emerge from it stronger.

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look blonde_batman

help is at hand every one wants 2 help u

chill

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Originally posted by Sensitive bloke:
<STRONG>Take care, and don't be afraid to have a broken heart. When (if) you go to the gym, the first time, it hurts, because you're using a muscle. Next time, it gets easier. And the next. The heart is a muscle. It seems painful now, but you will emerge from it stronger.</STRONG>

thats a good way of puttin it! thnx, yeah talkin on here does help cos everyone seems 2 have a bit of advice or been thro it them selves!

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well u guys will b proud of me! ive got a date on sunday <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> should b good! its me and my m8s and 2 blokes so if it is crap we can run lol! <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">