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Bit of advice from anyone, please...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, iv got a slight problem. Im nearly 16 and iv finally got my first g/f, been going out with her for about 2 weeks. All iv really done is hug and kiss, but i think she would like a snog, which is the problem. I sorta need someone to tell me what girls like, cos i havnt really got a clue what im supposed to do, and my m8s keep pushing me into it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; If someone could give me a few suggestions or something id be pretty damn pleased, thanks in advance. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

i may be a sore loser, but at least i try!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    follow Nikes advice: just do it. just go in there and do it how u feel comfortable doing it and u'll be fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    Welcome to "thesite" yeah just do as turtle said just do what you feel comfortable with! Go along with what shes doing! Have fun! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;
    Love Miss_Kxxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with Turtle, none of us went to any copping academy, it just comes natural so go with the flow...

    Its not like you can practice on your hand or in a mirror, if shes done it before then she will be able to guide you, if not then your both in the same boat so don't worry... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Practice on a mirror... lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Made me laugh hehe.

    I may be a sore loser, but at least I try!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yep just do it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    does your g/f know you've kissed properly before? might be a good idea to tell her but if not dont worry.

    i remember that i was very nervous, and i just basically opened my mouth and copied what the girl was doing at the time lol !!

    it was pretty rubbish but much easier from then....

    good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, she knows shes my first g/f and stuff, and that i havnt got a clue what to do...

    I may be a sore loser, but at least I try!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you honestly don't have to worry, you'll get better the more you do it. just be sure that it's what you want to do, and it's not just because your gf wants it and your friends are pressuring you. if the time is right, you'll find it all coming naturally.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok kid, heres some new fresh advice, I have been dating this guy for 10 months now, he is my first boyfriend ever, i'm 15. the first time we kissed, it wasent majic, so dont expect it to be, but he kinda set it up and since your the guy it would be nice for you to kinda inicialize it...just get her alone with you and kiss her like you regularly do, then pull away fro a sec, look at her and then go in for the kill - just open your mouth a lil and let it flow - since she knows what your trying to do she'll help you out - or she should at least. this should get you started - GOOD LUCK

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Even id she's done it b4 do it as tho u know wot ur doin and b confident - all the girls i know like that. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Cheers for your help you lot.

    I may be a sore loser, but at least I try!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well im gona fone her in a few mins, i cant take it anymore, i need to talk to her and sort it out, shame its over the fone but its the only way i can talk to her as i aint seeing her till saturday and i cant take it any more. i called her while she was at skool but she couldnt talk cos of her exams and i said love ya bye, and she just said yes, bye, not in a mean way but u know. Wish me luck if anyones got any advice on what i should say/ask please tell me asap thanxs! thanxs for everyones help so far!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    With each person it's different so you needn't worry, she probably won't even notice it's your first time! First guy I snogged didn't, I was so scared about the whole idea of kissing but then it kind of happened.

    I didn't have any idea what I was doing, just follow what she's doing with her lips and tongue, which apparently makes me an ok kisser. I can't feel anything anyway so I can't help you with what's good or bad, but it's best not to think too much or you won't enjoy it as much.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    I didn't have any idea what I was doing, just follow what she's doing with her lips and tongue, which apparently makes me an ok kisser. I can't feel anything anyway so I can't help you with what's good or bad, but it's best not to think too much or you won't enjoy it as much.


    *bi thread makes even MORE sense*


    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by NeoNero:
    Well im gona fone her in a few mins, i cant take it anymore, i need to talk to her and sort it out, shame its over the fone but its the only way i can talk to her as i aint seeing her till saturday and i cant take it any more. i called her while she was at skool but she couldnt talk cos of her exams and i said love ya bye, and she just said yes, bye, not in a mean way but u know. Wish me luck if anyones got any advice on what i should say/ask please tell me asap thanxs! thanxs for everyones help so far!

    think you mighta got the wrong thread <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    but as everyone's been saying, it really DOES just come naturally, as annoying as that sounds! my first kiss was a disaster, part of a truth or dare game and annoyingly, as the guy i fancied was one of them lot's friends, i didnt wanna say, so i had to go for the dare (the "who do you fancy" being the truth btw). and they were all there, they had their backs turned but i was majorly paranoid, it was a guy i just was friends with and didnt fancy at all and it was horrible!

    my second kiss wasnt for a whoooole 2 years with my first bf, it was his first kiss and he was pretty good, he just went for it and did whatever he thought, i was hardly a kissing expert either! none of the people ive been out with have been bad kissers, even if its their first time theyve kissed someone <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; coupla drunken ppl at clubx havent been so good tho.. so tip : dont do it drunk!

    and dont do it just coz your friends say so, take things at your own pace okay? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; and welcome to thesite <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    a bit of light hearted advice:

    ALWAYS keep your eyes closed, and i swear the intensity of the moment will lead ur tongues.

    since this is new for both of you.. just keep trying stuff and you'll instantly feel what she likes.

    good luck dude.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    I didn't have any idea what I was doing, just follow what she's doing with her lips and tongue, which apparently makes me an ok kisser.

    Ok Turtle I know that sounds REALLY dodgy and I can't believe I wrote it, I wasn't drunk or stoned or anything and yet when I read it this morning I couldn't believe it!

    But to set the record straight I have never ever kissed another girl. I was trying to say that undisclosed_recipients should follow what she was doing with the lips and tongue, because that's what I do when a guy's kissing me.

    My bisexuality thread is going to haunt me for all eternity now! I should never have posted it, I was just wondering, but it's nothing to do with my sexuality I promise!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LIN:
    look at her and then go in for the kill - just open your mouth a lil and let it flow

    Sounds lovely......Heh
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hehe i cant be arsed to read everyone elses responses so im just gonna say what i will and hope it hasnt been said too much <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    being in a comfortable place, and having clean teeth and fresh breath is always a good idea, but you pretty much know that already.
    dont make things happen, kiss her with your lips, and if her mouth doesnt open a little, open yours, or lick the top of her bottom lip, something like that.
    basically the way you kiss once youre err.. in there, is pretty much up to you. everyone's different <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; nobody can tell you exactly how to kiss.
    maybe she'll lead, maybe you will, basically it's improvisation. dont jam your tongue in there straight away, not a really great idea unless it's one of those wow moments and uve done this before. it's a tad shocking <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; just go slow, explore, and have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    if you tell her that she's your first snog, she'll probly b pretty pleased, and i spect she'll make sure you get lots of practise <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
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