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What do men want in a girlfriend?
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i have always asked myself what men want in a girlfriend and the same question comes up,whats more inportant personality or looks?
so could someone give me a clue as to the answer?
so could someone give me a clue as to the answer?
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[ 28-12-2001: Message edited by: ~*LIBERTY*~ ]
To answer your question, physical attraction must be present somewhere, and so must a good personality. The ratio of one to another may vary tho - you might fancy a gorgeous girl who's a bit dull, or a slightly-cute girl who is great fun. Other stuff comes into it too - common interests, caring, GSOH etc. It's all personal preference. There's pretty much someone for everyone.
I like girls that are interested in history, politics (can be different veiws, the arguements make the sex better), and no matter what they have to be able to hold up their end of a conversation
She should be able to talk crap in an intelligent way, without really bothering to worry about what others may think.
I've considered whether I would prefer shyish or more an extravert girl (considered.. because I haven’t really had much experience)
I'm very shy, have thought that a shy partner would could relate to me, but then again a more outgoing partner may bring me out of my shell??
To Actually answer your question, I would say...roughly 70% personality 30% looks (one thing to bare in mind is that I know a few people (girls) who keep saying that they are fat ugly etc, but the fact is that they are all very good looking and not sluts like the ones who openly admit to being ,supposidly goodlooking and most of my friends fancy them <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"> )
What do other people think?
[ 29-12-2001: Message edited by: The Pendari Champion ]
It depends also on the type of the relationship too, but looks are very important. However don't be disheartened ugly people. Some people do find other people attractive, it is down to the individual to decide.
Which is essentially why tpics like this are pointless, because everyone is different. Just because the girl in the club thought u were an ugly freak, doesn't mean the girl you meet in the supermarket will.
I like freedom and closeness at the sametime, I want a friend, I like someone outgoing, I like an individual with a clever mind who wants to push themselves foward and believes in themself, I want someone who can listen but is not afriad to express their view, I want someone who shares similar morals along with myself, who's loyal and trusting who I can do the same back to...
... I also want someone with a heavy passion for music and clubbing, who accepts who I am and someone who interests me... <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
What the hell, I'm feeling cynical -- I agree.
Completely unrelated, but I like that McKenZie - i totally agree.
seriously though blonde/light brown hair, not 2 thin but not 2 overweight either, deep brown eyes friendly and fun.
i also dont like drop dead gorgeous girls because they attract 2 much attention i usualy go 4 the girl that when u first see her u hmmmmm she's pretty not jaw droppingly sexy but just plain pretty.
I didn't think my current girlfriend was ugly but I wasnt blown away by her looks, but once I got talking to her at work she got my attention staright away.
You dont have to be gorgeous to have lads intrested in ya, but fat, spotty, slags weird and loud girls are a definate NO for me!
I didn't think my current girlfriend was ugly but I wasnt blown away by her looks, but once I got talking to her at work she got my attention staright away.
You dont have to be gorgeous to have lads intrested in ya, but fat, spotty, slags weird and loud girls are a definate NO for me!
Attractive women grab our attention, but not necesserily for their girlfriend potential, that's just because we want sex. A girlfriend should have a personality, otherwise you'll never have a conversation.
Personally, a perfect women would be somebody who isn't too loud, yet isn't too quiet and never speaks. Someone who's always up for a good time, yet doesn't have other men hanging around her always. Also, women who aren't slags but allow me to abuse them in the bedroom, thats nice. Women that take care over their appearance and look good, yet don't try to be noticed by other men...
There must be some women that are like this... the ones who enjoy ironing and cooking. I'm joking now, before you get angry! Really, we're not that hard to please, are we? Being beautiful/pretty is a bonus, but being caring and being able to make me laugh is essential. If a man has a good time around you and he feels he can trust you... you're perfect girlfriend material.
*astonished* that's a very well thought out post <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> guys, if you want to know what girls look for in a boyfriend . . . that's it. nail on the head and all that. where's your lawyer Kirk, I think you could make a lot of money by publishing that! lol.
1. Good-looks - Initially important, for if a girl isn't good-looking, you won't notice her.
2. Personality - This is the key attraction factor; if someone doesn't have a good personality, then the chances of being attracted to them for reasons other than sex is minimal.
3. Being fun - This is essential, as she must make you laugh and the time spent enjoyable.
There are other elements, such as being kind, understanding and considerate, which are equally important as the above.
I am very fortunate, as my girlfriend exceeds all the aforementioned 'requirements'.
[ 07-01-2002: Message edited by: Mobily ]
If they're just after a quick lay it's the looks..
But then who's to say what makes someone attractive? I wouldn't say I was attractive but my boyfriend thinks I am.. and funnily enough so does one of my ex's (they're supposed 2 hate us, right?)
if i couldnt be seen by my mates with my partner (i.e too embarrassed theyll just fall over and laugh at me) - then they probably arent the right person.
on the other hand i wouldnt want a stunner who whose as thick and boring as two short planks (other than just for one good night of sweet loving!)#
its difficult as everyone is different and differen people are attractive in different ways.
-A whore in the bedroom (not literally with money changing hands!), keeps us interessted. It's important that we are sexually satisfied so we don't look elsewhere.
-A chef in the kitchen, I'm not being sexist but it makes our lives easier, demonstrates good mothering skills, etc. We don't like ironing... pretend you do!
-Fun to be around, if you are entertaining or interessting, we'll want to spend time with you... and not down the pub with the lads.
-Trustworthy, very important that we feel you can be trusted so that we can be at ease while you aren't around, so don't shag the milk-man!
I'm sure women want the same, kind of, which probably explains why I'm momentarilly single. There are lots of factors which make a person attractive, not just the size of a girls tits (however, I'm not undermining the importance of tits). <IMG alt="image" SRC="eek.gif" border="0">
I think restrained good looks are quite important (pretty but not head-turning, MGF rather than Ferrari). She would also need good taste and manners (sluts need not apply).
And being realistic? <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
I want a girlfriend who I can love, and who loves me. I want someone who makes me feel special just by smiling, and who I can share things with. Trust is essential, and its nice to have someone intelligent enough to be able to talk things through with.
I guess I am a romantic, so I want a girlfriend who is too. Not everyone is interested in purely physical terms, becca, so don't be disheartened. And certainly, an increasing number of guys are capable of lookng after themselves. I know that I certainly can, and I'm quite happy to iron and whatever. Don't ask me to cook, though!
No, seriously. There are a variety of views on what "men" want. Many of them are stereotypes, and can be wrong. I think that some of us really do care about feelings and emotions, as opposed to quick sex. Don't know whether that answers your question.
Not being very general there are u. Painting us with the same brush.
Thanks for that really appreciate it.
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god who am i kidding i don't really care.
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You do realise the word "punk" means prostitute?