Just good friends

Former Member

'We're just good friends' - I'm just curious as to how many people who have been in a relationship and have heard this line from their bf/gf?

My boyfriend has a best friend,female of course, who he used to be in love with. He gets text messages on his phone from her saying things like 'i miss you' and 'loads of love...xxx'. I get VERY jealous and he tells me that their 'Just good friends' - am i wrong to be both pissed off and worried about this?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">

Girl-From-Mars

my ex bf used to say this about a girl.

he started seeing her 2 weeks after we broke up.

but apparently they were only ever just friends until after we broke up and he was upset and she was there for him, blahblah.
i know he didnt cheat on me tho.

just read the signs, see what theyre like together, if you see them together.... if he's secretive about it then it could mean there's a problem.... or it could mean he'd know how you would react if he told you even the smallest, most innocent things. i can be very jealous and my bf certainly got me paranoid about his "good friend" by going shopping with her and not telling me until my friend mentioned it. but he wouldnt have cheated on me with her, and he said he never thought of her as anything more than a friend until we were over.

just a matter of trust i guess. just because he USED to be in love with her doesnt mean he has feelings for her now. i sign my text messages with xx's for a lot of my friends. doesnt mean anything.

just make sure you dont drive him away with your jealousy, paranoid suspicions arent worth jeapardising a good relationship for.

Former Member

I think you have every right to be pissed off, I would be! I think it's really insensitive and if they are just friends there is no need for her to write "lots of love".

Former Member

Cheers 4 ur replys every1! I guess u have to know the people involved b4 being able to answer my question properly. I mean my bf is very flirty and ALL his friends(except about 2) are female. He talks about his best friend all the time and his ex girlfriend also found this best friend of his a threat. **sigh** Oh well, i guess i just got to trust him and hope for the best.

I know he would never cheat on me but i hate the thought of him having strong feelings for someelse when he says he wants to be with me.

Neway, cheers again. x-x-x

Former Member

When sending e-mails to a girl I know we both sign it lot's love xxxx and so on. But we are just friends..... I don't think you can assume that people are having something on the side, just because messages are sent with "all my love". Otherwise groovaybaby loves me (Love'n'Snuggles).

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Former Member

If he was being highly secretive about it, that would be cause for jealousy.....