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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
yesterday got into a fight with a friend well not really a fight she was mad about something else and taking it out on me (happens alot) so i just got really mad walked out b4 saying anything. me and the friend r ok now she said sorry i forgave her she is really stressed out about stuff right now so i let it go

But the thing is I just started a new relationship and am trying to do the best to not fuck it up (as i usually do) i have always walked out on fights i mean i just don't like fighting, i never have been able to express myself well i mean i either get really quiet and cry or get really mad blow up then walk out

ok yea i know whats the point well what i'm asking is how do normal people fight?
i know it sounds alittle stupid but i don't know how a normal fight

I know I'm not perfect but I can smile

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i always used to fight, i mean when i was in year 7 i beat up a year 11 for kicking a football at me...stupid. then about a year ago i had a fight in the art room (in school) that was funny!!! but really i dont prepare to fight, if im angry with someone i just wanna hurt them! i do kickboxing so i guess that helps!
    i have never had a physical fight with my friends though...i could neva do that! its just a spur of the moment thing!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no no i didn't mean a physical fight

    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hello kitty.

    i'm alot like you too. i hate confrontation, and if i don't get my way immediately... i tend to storm off in a huff rather than argue with someone.

    i don't think there is a normal way to "fight." a lot of how you interact with your new bf will depend on him. maybe he won't like to fight either and he'll understand what you go through. but if he doesn't understand how you handle anger, then you're going to have to tell him afterwards y you act the way you do.

    you know else kitty? don't worry about this til you actually have a fight. i mean if this is the thing you worry about most when it comes to your relationship, then i think you got it pretty good.

    only worry about problems when they are actually problems. but for now, enjoy the ride. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    good luck kitty.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kitty_Meowing:
    i either get really quiet and cry or get really mad blow up then walk out

    That's what I do, but I try to avoid fights generally because what gets said in them is stuff that you regret afterwards.

    You say things like why the other person annoys you that you wouldn't normally tell them because it's nothing major and because you're their friend you put up with it. But because you're mad you want to hurt them in the same way as they've hurt you, so you tell them and then they do the same back and so on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:


    you know else kitty? don't worry about this til you actually have a fight. i mean if this is the thing you worry about most when it comes to your relationship, then i think you got it pretty good.

    only worry about problems when they are actually problems. but for now, enjoy the ride. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    ty so much calvin and wildchild its good advice and i hope i take it i know i worry way to much about everything
    i'm thinking of breaking up with him, what was i thinking, thinking i could do this ph god this is going to kill him i just don't know what else to do <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol and i just noticed that like 3 people actually know what i'm talking about lol and it takes way to much out of me to start to explain it all sorry people but those of u that read my journal and know what i'm talking about should i just break up with him?

    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    break up with him? u fool. grrrrrr <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt; stop being stupid and start loving him like u do. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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