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Duno how i should feel

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Anyone who has read my post about being protective will know abit of how i feel.

Im really worried, cos my g/f keeps on seeing this bloke nearly more times than me, ok i live futher away than he does but i duno what to think. She tx's him more than she does me, the past week her txs have gotten really short and instead of love you lots or what ever at the end its just luv u.

She was quiet on the fone last nite but she was also not feeling well and when her mum told her to get off the fone she did fight with her mum so she could keep talking to me.

i also didnt tx her all day and she txed me without me needing to tx her first but it was still a short tx and luv u at the end.

i know she likes this guy as he has a lot of sex appeal is a rebel which she likes, lives close to her and i think she has a lot of fun being around him, and im worried im going to lose her. ive got my exams right now like most people, but i think shes gona wait till they are over then dump me for this guy. Although i feel so bad right now i cant revise anyways, id feel so much better if this guy didnt come into the picture, and i really duno what to think about any of her actions, does it mean she gona dump me, does it mean she just busy with revision herself, i duno and i know u cant answer that, i just wanted to tell people this as i really duno what to do or think. I really dont wana lose her, cos i aint been this happy with someone for a long time.

Thanxs

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok, now comes the time where u talk to her, quite frankly, with tact and say

    "listen [insert gfs name], i think we need to talk about ur friendship with [insert guys name here]" and go from there <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; keep it simple, make sure u know waht u want to say and what ur main concerns are, and do ur best to show u still love her and dont want to lose her

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree u should talk to her about it but don't acuse her of anything tho if she feels u don't trust her she will be really hurt. good luck tho

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey neo --

    if you really feel this way, then turtle and kitty are right. talk to her. but stay calm and don't accuse her of anything and do your best not to come off as jealous. the last thing you want to do is make her think ur obsessive.

    and are you prepared to take her word if she says nothing is going on? i mean if you don't drop it after that... these feelings are only going to get worse and then where will u be?

    for the record, i still think ur reading way too much into her actions. if you love her like you say.. imho, this is NOT the way to show her that.

    i'm sorry for sounding like a broken record neo, but i got a bad feeling about this...

    good luck dude and i mean that.


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    ok im proberly not the best person to say this, but it sounds like what i did to my boyfriend, so i do sort of knw where ur coming from!

    the others are right should talk to her about it, but dont go in guns blazing! as it cld make things worse, and keep the jelous streak out! the best way (according to Calvin is to say it stright out!) and Turtle!
    just ask her!

    and if do love her then its worth trying to sort it out, but make sure you know that she loves u too, as much as what u do to her. and that she means it.

    but if she is hurting you and making you unhappy, while she is having a good time, u should think of ur self (i knw its selfish) but u need to happy to!

    and as for exams..... tell me about it not being able to concentrate! but good luck anyway! dnt panic!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i dont think u should worry coz i do that 2 my b/f 2 am always txtin ma best m8 kris and spend more time wiv him, but i still love ma b/f its just it's nice 2 get away from ur b/f sumtimes i donno y so dont worry!! keep smilin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey thanxs everyone, well i know she wont cheat on me, im more worried about the fact its my exams and maybe she just like waiting till they are all over to dump me, im not really sure, thats why i duno wot to feel. i dont think im gona talk to her about it, cos since that other topic i started i aint seen her, its just when i chat to her on the fone or what ever i hear stuff about the other bloke. i guess it wouldnt be so bad if she knew the bloke a bit more, but shes known him like 3 weeks and he has a reputation for being a bloke who asks out anything with boobs and a skirt. i think Calvin is right i am reading to far into this, as a lot of my mates have said but i dtill duno wot to think, but i'll leave it for a few more weeks and see if anything changes. Thanxs for everyones help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by []_ [] []V[] []D bizkit:
    well i dont think u should worry coz i do that 2 my b/f 2 am always txtin ma best m8 kris and spend more time wiv him, but i still love ma b/f its just it's nice 2 get away from ur b/f sumtimes i donno y so dont worry!! keep smilin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u shouldnt let her know its bothering u so much. i mean u should mention it too her but if she is totally ok about it just accept it. maybe dont txt her for a day or 2. make her see how it feels to not be loved loads and not getting constant attention, cause they come running back to u, and she will be the same with u as she was before. LOVE YOU LOADS XXXXXXXXXXX is what she will say at the end of her txts now!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah i know, keep the girl wanting you, like they cant have you, its good in theroy but hard for me to do in practise, i aint txed her today, but i'll call her tomo and see how she is. I duno wot to do, so many people saying so many different things, and then me thinking so many different things. God if i only i could be like that man in the film what women want, id be SOOOOOOO much easier!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if its making you feel THIS low (which it sounds like it is) then you shouldnt feel you have to bottle it up. if you ask her you may think you're like sounding like a total nimrod but it may help......... just either get over it or deal with it but do something!

    I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that is every mans dream in this world to have that talent. i know its hard. thats kinda happening with my girlfriend. i try and dont do a very good job at it. but it does work, i hadnt really talked to my girlfriend for 2 days and she came up to me at school and was all over me, it was good, so it does work! just do it!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just thought id thank you all for your help but in the end she dumped me

    NeoNero :'-(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Neo I'm sorry to hear it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    (((((((((((((NeoNero)))))))))))
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    awwwww thats a shame neo (((((((((((neonero))))))))))

    you'll find someone else, dont worry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fuck.

    sorry dude.

    it'll take sometime to get over this, but you will find someone who really loves you someday. i know this cause you're a good guy.

    just don't give up on love ok?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That sucks Neo. I'm really sorry about that. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Calvin's right, whatever you do, don't give up on love.

    Your cycles have bled into ones supposed to be my own
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shit my advice was abit shit then. im not going to be held responsible ok! but anyway im really sorry to hear that mate, i dont wanna experiance with my girlfriend, but there no point giving up on love cause u will find the one for u someday! hang in there mate and exams are much more important that any girl, even though it doesnt feel liek that for u now, u will realise it and there will be lots of other girls, no worries mate.
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