lost, lost, lost....

Former Member

i am talking to this guy. we have been seeing eachother for 2 years now. when we first got together, he said that he knew we'd never be together forever. he's not so sure about that now. he was my boyfriend, i was his girlfriend. in february, he dropped a bomb on me and it totally broke my heart. he broke up with me. but here's the thing. he still wants me to come to his house, spend time with his family, etc. everything that we did before. the only difference would be that i wouldn't have the right to tell him i didn't want him going out. why do i have such a problem with him going out? he never takes me out with him , he goes out with other GIRLS (he doesn't do anything with them and i'm pretty sure about it, but i know they like him), he's taken me out only a few times in the 2 years we've been together, and he leaves me at his house and doesn't come back till 3-4 in the morning.there was an incident where this psycho girl told me that he tried to mess with her. but her and her friend have a rep for attempting and being successful at lying to guys' g/f's to make them jealous/think negatively. he broke up with me and said that he'd get back with me when he was ready to stop going out. sometimes, i love him. sometimes, i hate him. what to do?

Former Member

Sounds to me like he's using you. He wants you when it suits him and when it doesnt he doesnt wanna know.

Try and stand up for yourself, tell him either he's with you or he's not. I personally would tell him to get lost, but its your call.

Good luck


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Brian

Former Member

That isnt a relationship, you either got too talk with him and explain everything and see if things can sort themselves out. Or you've just got bite the bullet and leave the relationship once and for all. There are guys out there who will treat you how you deserve too be trated, this guy isnt once of them <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member

leave him. tell him to leave you alone. you don't deserve to be treated like that.

Former Member

Seems to me that he wants the best of both worlds. I was in a similar situation for 2 years. My ex wanted me to stay at home with his parents etc whilst he was down the pub, I became isolated from both my family and friends. I don't know about you but I found that it was okay for him to go out and enjoy himself but when I wanted to it was wrong. So after coming to my senses I dunped him and it was the best decision I ever made.
Think about yourself and what you want because he's doing what he wants to do. I know you love him but it's a big world out there!!
Good Luck

Former Member

i know how he feels and i know how you feel and he will probably break your heart IF YOU LET HIM. recognise that he has to do what hes gotta do and he doesn't know how either!
But then we all need some pain, just so we know!
also, the best way to sort these things out is to sit down and have a BIG talk. ask him how he feels, and he might just tell you! Dont let him bullshit you, cos it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, and i bet he wants you! But parties also, as well, alongside!
On the other hand, does he not enjoy your comapany in ALL situations? i mean, isn't he your boyfriend, for a while? you guys should go and have fun together, and fun AS WELl with your own mates, uno, cos you both like different things.
And, sorry, but fuck sitting at home with my boyfriends parents! go out yourself! i bet it will be different then, he will know how you feel, even if it is just with your girlfriends. They are the best therapy you know!
be strong, be the one who decides what happens in your life.