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do nice guys always finish last??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
im new here, so i better introduce myself, im 16, im male and i live in the UK, anyway on with the post

do nicey guys always finish last?

do girls want bloke who treats em like crap, neva phones them when they say there going too and generally doesnt respect them, or would the prefer a nice guy who genuinely cares for and adores them?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i personally like guys who respect women, fone me when they say they are goin 2 etc......
    Luckily 4 my bf he is one of those lovely guys & i appreciate it soooo much & this makes our relationship stonger. I think so ne way!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd have to say YES nice guys do finish last, why would a girl want a nice caring bloke when they can have one with a fast care whos always willing to show them a good time, good time = sex, drink, and showing off to the lads and showing they can stand up for themselves. no nice guy gets what they deserve, even if many girls here say they should, if they had to chose i reckon the nice guy would not get a look in. Remember when you played footie at skool? the crap guy always got picked last, and thats what the nice guy is when it comes to girls really. im sure many girls could disagree with me but well thats how i and many other guys see it im sure.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would take a nice guy over a guy that'd treat me like crap any day!! problem is i cant bloody find one. there are none over here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    NO NO NO!!! Nice guys don't finish last - for God's sake, if you're in a proper relationship you want someone who will phone when he says, show he cares etc. Don't believe all this macho crap spouted by neonero, 'cos for most of us it just isn't true!
    Just keep being who you are - you'll find someone who appreciates you soon. I had to wait until I was 18 before I found that special someone.....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    please define the words "nice guy"

    pyrex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, they get the last laugh.

    Trust me, as you get older women won't want to know the 'lads', they want someone sensible, respectful and honest.

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    Don't dare take what you need
    I'll jail and bury those committed
    And smother the rest in greed"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he did! loving and caring and a guy who'll fone when he says he will. basically a guy who will go out of his way to make his girl happy. just a pity there arent many guys like that
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you'd be surprised.

    pyrex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To quote a phrase,
    "All women love bas@#rds".

    This is a fact of life, okay, they may disagree, and it is generalisation, but women (and men) always like a challenge, and if they can have the choice between a someone who is going to be predicatable and reliable, or someone who is going to make them worry and stress if he is going to call they will choose the later coz its a challenge, they know they can have the good bloke any time they want, so instead they go for the exciting challenge of the bad boy. And to finish how i started i will use a quote again.
    "People always want what they can't have".

    (Good luck to all the good blokes out there coz we will get ours eventually.)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    man of kent is right, patience dude.

    i used to think that.. but i don't anymore. :">

    just keep at it, and you will find someone who appreciates you for who you are.

    good luck dude, and welcome to thesite. as you can see, there are some good people here. stay for a while <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    no they do not finish last. sorry im not in the right frame of mind now to answer this properly coz ive just made a long reply and i get emotionally exhausted too easily now :-\

    theres some other posts about this, have a look back, id find the link now, but you know.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok i did say a lot of rubbish hee hee <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; but thing is the nice guy is the guy who gets picked last buy all the good looking blonde busty girls who get drunk and have lots of fun, BUT, BUT! the nice guy will get a girl who may not be like the girl i described (that was a generalisation but i know not every girl looks/acts like that who like bad boys) they will get a girl who is kind and wants a meaninful relationship, they may not have 1000 girls friends but the nic guy will get the girls they deserve who will treat them right and not add them as another bloke they have got with, they'll add them as a bloke they cared about, and normally these girls are the ones who dont get bitchy at you if you split up, while the bad boy will get a lot of bitching and things, the nice guy normally stays friends with the girl, cos they are both nice and kind etc etc, sorry its late, need sleep. But at first the nice guy has a hard time but they get the better things in the end.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    okay..i think..that b4 they go out...it's better if ur an ass..because it just makes it more fun trying to go out w/ u...and then when u go out..ur really sweet..but that's basically what ALWAYS happens...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by guRLiE1oo4:
    okay..i think..that b4 they go out...it's better if ur an ass..because it just makes it more fun trying to go out w/ u...and then when u go out..ur really sweet..but that's basically what ALWAYS happens...

    ur a freak, stop giving advice, someone might follow it one day and hurt themselves.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nice guys every time. I don't want to die in a drunk-driver accident, or get caught with drugs, or worry about who's paying for the date, or have to screw up my courage to call him, or . . . anyway, yeah, I don't like bastards, personally! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think its a matter of perspective. when young (under about 24 - horrific generalisation), i'd say that the 'nice guy' will always lose out to the more racey, image-conscious guy who goes through women like a bull in a china shop. perhaps its the same problem with 'nice girls' at that age too.

    in the long run, people are less concerned with image and being mistreated, and more concerned with finding a caring and considerate partner. besides, you'll feel better in yourself if you're a nice guy. treating people like shit is fun for some, but not everyone's cup of tea. so, be a paragon of virtue, and it will pay off in at a later date.

    i just hope i'm right....... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *sings* ooooooooohhhh nice guys finish last...

    no seriously they dont <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have 2 say, that i really don't want a blonde busty girl, i want sum 1 who is caring, loving and intelligent. A lot of ppl put my g/f down and say i could do better, it infuriates me because it's like she's a car or something and as long as i love her does it matter what n e 1 else thinks. I think she's amazin and that's all that matters. And i consider myself 2 b a nice guy and i suppose i bin single 4 a long time but i got sum1 i really care bout now instead of a throw away relationship.




    [This message has been edited by Damn Right (edited 04-06-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    "All women love bas@#rds".

    NO that aint true! Ive had this argument with my friends before, some cases its true! But my boyf isnt a nice guy/ he isnt a bad guy hes just right in the middle, even though everyone says ive got him wrapped round my finger but thats different!
    Love Miss_Kxxxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    eh?
    Originally posted by NeoNero:
    Ok i did say a lot of rubbish hee hee <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; but thing is the nice guy is the guy who gets picked last buy all the good looking blonde busty girls who get drunk and have lots of fun, BUT, BUT! the nice guy will get a girl who may not be like the girl i described (that was a generalisation but i know not every girl looks/acts like that who like bad boys) they will get a girl who is kind and wants a meaninful relationship, they may not have 1000 girls friends but the nic guy will get the girls they deserve who will treat them right and not add them as another bloke they have got with, they'll add them as a bloke they cared about, and normally these girls are the ones who dont get bitchy at you if you split up, while the bad boy will get a lot of bitching and things, the nice guy normally stays friends with the girl, cos they are both nice and kind etc etc, sorry its late, need sleep. But at first the nice guy has a hard time but they get the better things in the end.


    Lol, i think u've just described my entire relationship and love life there m8. No g/f's until i met my currant g/f who's just amazin.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    *sings* ooooooooohhhh nice guys finish last...

    no seriously they dont <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;


    where do bad boys named rob finish drifter? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miss_K:

    ive got him wrapped round my finger

    best way, surely.

    actually, had an afterthought that applies to one of my frineds - she's been goin out with this guy who used to be a real turd. but since he's been with her, he's matured in to a half-decent chap. so i guess thats the flipside of the coin - date an arsehole/bitch, and you might make them a nice person. go on people, go enrich the world <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    not my girlfriend tells me that she likes bastards, but im not a bastard. cause she always goes out with really arrogant people and now she goes out with me. i think she actually wants me to treat her abit badly, cause she has suddenly turned on me and is treating me badly, she insults me and i take it offenseivly and then she says she is joking and called me a woman, so now im treating her like shit too see how she likes it. hopefully thst will straiten her out.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    where do bad boys named rob finish drifter? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


    ahem. bad boy robs always finish last, when i shit on them <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; hehehehehe

    cor that was actually quite rude for me. i just hate him so much like i've never hated anyone b4 lol.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol. hell hath no fury like a drifter scorned. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i dont think they finish last coz my b/f is a nice guy and i picked him over a sort of not very nice guy! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    okay..what i said wz kinda confusing...but basically nice guys don't always finish last but most nice guys are just tough acting in the beginning but as soon as they start going out they're really really sweet i dunno i still dun make sense..oh well..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *~stellar~*:
    or worry about who's paying for the date, or . . . anyway, yeah, I don't like bastards, personally! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;


    Erm, just shoot me down if i am being presumptuous but how do u wonder who is paying for the date? I hope u dont expect the bloke to pay coz that is totally sexist. (even though I dont mind and think that it can be right)
    I know i may be wrong, i hope so.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you gotta a good point, just like a kinda tradition...man being the sweet protective one...sort of makes us feel appreciated...atleast we were worth the cost of dinner!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    for some reason i keep going out with screwed up boys. not the 'bad' ones necessarily (though my current bf has been pretty darn bad in his past)... just the depressed, needy types. the really sweet, eager-to-please ones always make me suspicious, i guess because i'm so used to crappy relationships that a good relationship has to have a catch somewhere... i'd rather go out with someone where i know what i'm getting instead of waiting for the bad part to kick in.

    it's my resolution to change this awful dating habit when i move and go to university, however. question number one for any potential date is "do you love your mother?"....

    Your cycles have bled into ones supposed to be my own
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